Could my husband be cheating or having feels for another woman?

zeus2quincy

Confront him.This doesn't need to go on any longer.You have every right to know what is going on.This almost sounds like he is trying to get you to ask him.If he's seeing this woman,he sure is being careless around you.If he is aware you suspect him,he'll slip up again.He may play it cool for awhile to throw you off,but he'll mess up somewhere.If it hasn't gotten to the point of an affair,all the better,but you still have to talk with him and find out the situation and take it from there.The longer you wait,the more miserable you will become.Best wishes to you.

hotmama1

Anything is possible, but remember, if he's your husband, he has NO place even jokingly saying stuff like that to another female! I would suggest you talk to your brother about his ex. Maybe he knows how to handle her. Then you need to confront her, she knows he's married, so why does she keep up with this? She's a homewrecker! Then you need to get hubby and let him know how you feel about those messages, and tell him if its this girl he wants so bad, then get out!! If you have kids, then he needs to consider how this will affect them.

chrystal_lynn2002

Simply call her and ask... just tell her that they upset you and if hes looking to someone else your not going to be upset at her she didnt marry you he did, and you need to know if HE broke the commitment NOT HER... Just ask her tell her if so your not going to get upset at her you just need to know if hes bull face lieing to you or if he was telling the truth, just ask her... confronted like that she has no reason to lie to you, and most women cant keep their mouths shut, more then likely if you grind on her for a few minutes she will spill everything that happened between them a joke to a full blown affar, she will probably tell you everything

I'm all yours

Yes, he is having feelings for her. And this is a form of cheating. Best way is to ask him if he still loves you, and let him know it's ok to say "no" without any strings attached. You'll then know.

totalgitfromwigan

could be..........

you must needs talk to the man.......

Of course he's cheating, only a silly woman could find a way to forget what she saw or let him explain it away as a joke--while threatening to leave her. Maybe he plans to leave anyway. I'd tell him not to let the door hit him where God split him on the way out.

get on with it

Baloney! Don't fall for that trick of him turning things back on you. Did he give you a good explanation for the messages besides it being just a joke? So, what was the joke about? I don't know what kind of person your husband is, hopefully, you do. All I can tell you is that based off of what you know about your husband and about this girl, what do you think is going on? Did you know that they were communicating with each other. Maybe you should tell your husband why this has concerned you because after all, what he wrote does seem very inappropriate. Tell him that that based off of what you saw, it's only natural for you to question if he is cheating on you. You need answers. You need to be enlightened about what is going on in you husband's life. Your his wife; you deserve that much.

tanai

confront him tell him what up does he have feeling for someone else so let u know

medic391

maybe you should ask your husband....

replies2news

Ahhhhh I'm sorry about this.

He's cheating!! Men don't send those kind of messages to BS women.. not when they are married!

So INSTEAD of confronting him.... (WHY? To get upset and create drama? To change his mind - he won't change his mind because you 'talk to him/yell at him)? BE SMART!

GRAB all the money out of checking and savings.....

Pack your stuff and get out! If you want the house, go talk to a lawyer and DO NOT SAY ONE WORD.. let this 'come out' when you are legally READY to take care of it.. pretend like you saw NOTHING!

This is gonna be hard.. but I swear to you, THIS is a bigger slap in the face then the 'confrontation' that you would have yelling at him! Find out if 'cheating' is a divorcable grounds in your state. All kinds of info on the net these days.. BE SMART and PLAN! This is how you will win in the end :)

AFTER you are out, you can rip him as much as you want .. but then you'd have all the furniture, money and all that jazz and there isnt' a darn thing he can do about it! Make sure you see a lawyer before you do anything and PAY CASH!

I am sorry for what you are about to go through, but this man didn't deserve you if this is what he's doing behind your back! SHANE ON HIM! You deserved more respect then that! /comf

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Women - We WANT ANSWERS - OMG we are our OWN worst enemy!

YES you deserve to know what's going, but you will probably NEVER hear it from his lips. Men are wussy's that way! I believe you saw ALL you needed to see/know. If you want further proof, borrow a GF's car and go 'take pictures'.. but unless it's grounds for divorce in your state, it won't matter. Take power over your own life.. take the money and run.. he SO won't expect that of you and if a man ever did this to me, and direspected me like that, I'd SO take him to the cleaners..... I'd have the house clean/empty by the time he came home, with a Dear John letter on the counter and it would say NOTHING about money. Let him go to the ATM and find out there isn't any. No forwarding addy, no telephone #.. or if you have a cell - IGNORE his calls.. or pick up and hang up without saying a word. This will drive him nuts! I really hope you do this smart.. you have to take care of you now, and anyone that would lie to my face.. my partner... he'd have a walk-thru with me, that didn't involve one word of drama.. he would get hit where he hurts.. the bank! He'd NEVER think of you to do this.. that's why it's so effective :) Good Luck!

arkansasbutterfly

He is wanting a relationship with her, or already has one.I try not to give much advise, because my ex husband was a cheater and we were married 13 years. It took me that long to realize he was never going to change. Good luck to you, and what you decide. I really wouldn't tell him I read them, because you'll never see anything again. It will be DELETED. Just keep your eyes and ears open and then go in for the kill.

Lauren

You're in a tough spot in your marriate. Usually after 8 yrs. things just get boring, too stable, more like a routine. There is definately something going on between them; they are at the least plotting to hook up. This situation he finds himself in, is exciting for him. It's adding the spice that he needs with you. How do you save your marriage? You have to be extremely forgiving and dress up for him, conquer him in the same way this woman is. Plan romantic dinners. Don't argue with him as it will make him feel like running to her more. If you don't feel your marriage is worth fighting for, walk away now with the little dignity that's left.

sunnybrook19

if he hasn't cheated already his is close to it. ask him about it. see what he says. also next time the phone bill comes see how many time they have talked on the phone. but be up front and honest. if hes not he should have nothing to hide.

crazywildtexasgirl

You should leave him. Lying, hiding things, and cheating are things noone should tolerate. You deserve better. Even if you aren't sure he's cheating, his behavior is dishonest and that's a good indication of his lack of committment. I would leave him. Good luck.

missy

Sounds guilty to me but I would wait it out and do a little more investigating before I confront him again or if you know her call her and see what is up if anything.

kiranni

OF COURSE HE COULD BE. PLEASE DONT BE NAIVE--LOOK INTO IT MORE--THE LAST THING U WANT IS TO BE HURT--IF U DONT CONFRONT THE SITUATION, U'LL JUST WORRY UR SELF TO DEATH, N THATS NO GOOD.

fanofozzyosbourne

I would confront him.....No use waiting until he leaves you for her, You were smart to check the messages :)

Torres

It sounds to me like he is cheating, but whether he is or not; there is obviously feelings there and that doesn't make it right. He is married and he is supposed to take his vows seriously. I would confront him about it. Don't let him think he is getting away with it.

Demon

probably u guys married so long...he don't have any feeling for u now!!

kicked his ***!

alwayshurt_whyme

OH GIRL..........HE IS CHEATING. Iknow this from experience, the getting upset when u asked him is a total give away. but i hate to tell u this .....he is cheating!

kittycat

I'm sorry to say, I think he might be cheating, or at least THINKING about cheating. That is inappropriate behavior and to say, rather quickly, that he would leave you if you accused him of cheating is kind of a bizarre answer. Don't you think? Why would that even be an option just for confronting him? Has anything changed in the relationship worth noting? Any other strange behavior? Do you see this girl? Does he act differently around her? You need to do some investigating. Good luck!

smokey5781

After you found this out, you come out with a ? of COULD my husband be cheating. Lady, go look into the mirror and slap yourself, hoping you wake up, cuz honey, its worse than you think, ACT NOW.

marienadine23

I would definitely confront him and tell him that you want answers.

Sunshine

Sounds to me like you need to do your homework. Get as much evidence on his as possible. It doesn't matter how you've been married..My ex started having an affair within one year of our marriage...If he's cheating or having feelings you need to know the truth.Chances are he will only deny having an affair. Men think woman are such fools. My ex didn't think that way for long..I followed him with my camera and pictures don't lie....

cdw2c2

Depends on what messages she sent to him. He could be flirting or cheating, regardless, a married man should not be sending messages like that to another woman. If you trust him and you have open communication, ask him about it. If he says no, try to look past it because what's done in the dark will come to light. If you don't believe him, investigate, you have the right to, that's your husband! Whatever you do, don't let this feeling of mistrust linger too long, it will kill your relationship and cause you stress.

whatwouldudo

no married man should be joking about something like that! I'm sorry but it never should get to that! I would put my foot down with him and make him stop communicating with her and let him know it makes you uncomfortable!

bugz4279

he could have feelings 4 her. y dont u confront him on it and b4 u do,do a little investigating and c if theres n e thing different. if hes callin her and talkn 4 hours u know wut i mean. u gotta b nosey and most likely u'll find ur answer

mrsdebra1966

Just ask him if she is getting married to your brother. Even better, ask your brother if he is having cold feet or what's up with him & his ex GF.

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