Dad may be having affair?

nanawnuts

Wow! What a jolt! I think that you should really think about this and maybe get some professional help, even vent to or bounce this off of your school counselor.
Reason 1 is because if YOU confront your dad, it may go really bad and he will make excuses and so on. You know what you saw. This has now become your problem too. Natural instinct is to protect your mom.

Reason 2 is that no matter what you do, someone is going to get hurt. Your mom needs to know, but it is not YOUR place to tell her, it is your dad's. There are a bunch more reasons, but limited space.

That is why you need to get help from someone outside of the problem. DO NOT carry this with you! It will mess you up! I wish I could talk more with you about this. Please be careful and know we are always here for you! Always. Nana

Kiki

it's really none of your business unless you're prepared to go directly to your dad and ask the questions. don't hurt your mom based on speculation.

tabulator32

Don't mention it to your Mom UNTIL YOU FIND OUT FOR SURE WHAT IS GOING ON.

Confront your Dad.

i am so sorry that you are in the middle of this. this must be making you feel terrible. i went though something similar years ago when i caught my mom cheating. i think you should talk to your mom or dad. you are a family and you need to be open and talk it through with your parents, you cant hold this inside. whichever parent you feel closer too and more comfortable with talk to them and clear the air. it may all be fine but if not its not going to help to pretend everything is ok it will only get worse.

renae2007_1986

yes, ur mom has a right to know whats going on with ur dad. its wrong of him to do this to her, even if hes not sleeping with this women its still deceiving ur mom, and it is a form of cheating. i know u dont want to hurt ur mom but dear she needs to know the truth.

Chrys

Yes I would and then stay out of it...it's your Mom and Dads problem....not yours. (don't let them use you as a go between ...it's not your fault.)

QuInSeT

I'm Sorry To Here This OK .... If You Want Your Parents To Stay Together Don't Tell Your Mom And Talk To Your Dad About It If You Think Its Right To Tell Your Mom Go Ahead And Do That To. He Is Defiantly Cheating On Your Mom And Probably Doing Nasty Stuff On That Web Cam But Do Whats Right. And ..... If I Was In That Situation I Would Tell My Mom

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rebecca j

you need to talk to your dad and tell him if he doesnt tell your mom then you will soooo sorry your in the middle

Hannah B!

ok. what I would do is say, "What was on you computer when I was helping you with your webcam?" and if he says "I duno what you're talking about." or "that's none your your business." then you need and I mena you need to tell mom.

Toro G

Check the files on the com.

Just Me

stay out of it. Or speak to your dad about what you saw.

Esperanza

yes

KEL

yes you should.. you cant carry that secret. how heartbreaking.

$Ke-Ke$

well i think you should confront him first tell him how its infecting you and if he dint stop tell your mom the next day because it would hurt to keep it from your mom. knowing that she would be heartbroken shouldnt hold you back because the longer you hold it the more she gets hurt

roncj88

Confront your father and tell him he has like 24 hours to tell mom or you are telling her..its not right that she doesn't know honesty is the best policy

Megan

I would tell my mother, but I would also have her tell my dad that she found it on the computer.
that way your dad didn't know that you told your mom.

Yes, I would.

ganna

No one else can really answer this for you. I do want to tell you that my son, 15 years old at the time, found out that my husband of 18 years was having an affair. (He walk in on them while they were both asleep out at the shop one night) I didn't know why my son was acting out so badly and it almost destroyed him emotionally. He quit school and everything. Six months later his dad finally told me. My daughter 3 months after that told me what had happened with my son. He was too young to carry such a terrible burden. I didn't know what was wrong, although I was hauling him to family counseling once a week for help. He never told the counselor either. It is too much for any one person, I believe. You must make up your own mind what to do, but as a mother, I will tell you that that is the one greatest regret in my heart about the whole thing. I would give anything for my son to have that year back in his life. Even if it was a note printed by someone else for him giving me a clue that my husband was being unfaithful. ANYthing that would have let him relieve HIS burden. I think your mom would want that for you, too.

nazbak

tactfully ask ur mom to convince your dad to take both of you to china in his next business trip.

Jeffsgal

I would say yes, definatly tell her. She deserves to know. Maybe try throwing a few hints to check is laptop.. if that dont work, just let the cat outta the bag.

jointheclub0720

ask him who he was talking to on his webcam, and if he can't give you a straight answer, tell your mom something sketchy is going on, and have her take care of it.

Debbie p

I would confront my dad about the situation before i would say anything

mrs_endless

There is no thinking that he may be having an affair......he is. I don't think that I would tell your mom right now, I would try to obtain more info. and see if you can figure out her screen name and such, and you yourself try to strike up a conversation with her to see if this is just a Internet thing, or the real thing, I am leaning towards the real thing since you said that he travels a lot to Asia, one you get all your facts then confront your dad, and tell him if it does not stop then you will go to your mom...but for your moms sake save every thing so that she will have the necessary info. to follow through with a divorce if it comes to that.

athao18

if you love your mom and don't want her to get hurt later then now do it. it's up to you. it won't be your fault. you could tell you mom to not put you in it.

Patrick W

I would confront dad first, be honest and tell him how you feel and take it from there. Don't jump to conclusions or put yourself in the middle of something awful, however you have to have peace of mind and know the answer or this will eat you up and become a problem. I hope either way everyone works through it in the end but remember, you did nothing wrong, it's up to dad to make right. If he's innocent he will have no problem explaining, if he's not, he will get angry or nervous about it. Put pressure on him to be honest with mom and if he does not and continues to hurt both of you, tell him you will.

just hanging around

yikes, no dont tell her for godsake. go talk to your father and say, whats going. confront him

halmshaw_xxx

telling your mum will most likely end up in a break up between the two... personally i'd say that ur best option is confronting your dad.. and just saying that you suspect him cheating and if its true tell him to either stop or break it off with your mom but personally i wouldnt get involved coz otherwise you get stuck in the middle not a fun place to be

Wendy B

I would ask your Dad. If his answer seems fishy, tell your Mom. Silence will only drive you crazy. If it's nothing, you and your Dad will get a good laugh about it, if it's something, your Mom deserves the truth. You should be able to plan the conversation with your Dad so it isn't too accusatory. Try to keep it light, but direct. Watch his reaction, you should be able to spot a lie if he tells one. Sorry and good luck.

Madelynns Mommy

Yes your mother deserves to know. First off tell your father what you saw and tell him he better tell your mother or you will. It isn't right for people to cheat on each other.

angelpurplewings

yes.....do not confront your dad....you do not have the authority

however, your mother DOES have the authority to question him

let her handle it.....

Aaron M

hmmm thats a good question.. well i think if he was having an affair he would not have ask you to help with his webcam. if he was having an affair and ask you to help with the webcam i think he would have minimized the window so you could not see anything.. and yes i would say something to your mom, why beacuse he gos to chyna for bussniness and this ladie was chinese. so yes i would say something to your mom for sure because i think she needs to know.. and i also think your dad has some questions to answer.

Aaron

Mrs.Timberlake

Wow!
This is really hard. He is definitely having an affair! Why would he say I LOVE YOU to some woman who isn't his wife!
Its a hard situation...
email me because I wouldn't want to put this on this "answer" page.

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