Deaf wife and I disagree about baby's name-If she doesn't agree with my choice I want a divorce-am I wrong?

Otto

Go puncture your eardrums and re-discuss this with your wife. You're an idiot.

superdawgdawg

you must of married for the long haul................
divorced because of child's name?

take me on a rollercoaster ride

YES! the baby will get teased anyway if its called ridjeeb. i mean, come on. go with a compromise. how about a creative, but usual name... how about madison? or sarah-jane? maybe with a - you can achieve an unusual name, yet with common names joined.

btw the divorce thing is stupid. its just a name...

waltzing matilda

It is hard to chose a baby name and it is really hard if you want something and your wife wants another name. I've got a hyphined name my dad had one name picked and my mum had another one picked so the put it together (eg Oscar-Ridjeeb) play with a few names combined.

Also even though she is deaf she will still have to call her child and her heart will know and say the name so i think that you are being a bit insensitive to her needs sorry - think about what if you were deaf?

Maybe wait untill the baby is born - my friend had a name picked out but changed it 5 times untill it got is actual name!

TECHX69

Divorce over a name???" she wont be able to hear the name anyway"...Insensitive?? With that statement you won the yearly award....

larsgirl

you guys both need to stop and think about this poor kid getting beat up on the playground!!!

Get out a book on baby names!!

She wants middle eastern-----Abrahim.......Abe will not get beat up.

Roberto D

poor kid !!!!...you guys need to grow up...!!!..and I side with the
wife .

iceycalm101

If you want to divorce your wife over a name there are either some deeper problems you need to consider or yea you are being insensitive.

If you are truly set on the middle eastern name how about coming to a compromise by giving him/her a middle name?

SubJ

Why be sticky about it to the extent of thinking of divorce?

mom 2 be

I think this is something you and your wife can get through there are so many problems out there that are so hard to get through but a lot of married couples manage it. I think you should take it easy on her besides she is carrying your child and you don't want to cause her stress. You should try asking her if you can use that as a middle name or hyphen it with the the tradition first name.

paul y

don't fight..call the baby whatever you want..and then let your wife hang a more traditional NICKNAME on the child..like Sammy or Slippery

teresacmt

If you had a great relationship with your wife you would not be considering divorcing her over the name. Maybe you need to re-evaluate what is really bothering you in your marriage before you make a rash step like divorce. In the mean time try compromising with a middle name or nick name and then the child can make his/ her own choice when they are older

sweetgranny06

your stupid and all those names are dumb too

donna_honeycutt47

Yes you are.. She is the one carrying this child and has every right to a decision in the naming of the child. To use her deafness as an excuse, is poor judgment on your part. You both need to come to a Compromise. If you can not handle something like this, how will you handle decisions in Raising the child.

rollyk

what are you talking about dear? look this is not so big problem to take so big decision & also not the matter to prove yourself right or wrong.Try to solve this problem in a natural & simple way .why don't you both choose 2 names & call the baby with your own choice.

Jamie Lynn

i would say getting divorce over something so petty is a bit extreme. if you guys normally get along than you can get over this. use both names for your child, just make one of them a middle name and then you can both get your way. by the way, if your wife is anything like most women she will win this battle so you should just give up now, make her happy and settle with using the name you like as a middle name.
good luck, and don't divorce over your childs name. he/she will hate you for it.

emma

Yes you are being very insensitive she is the one that has carried the baby for 9 months, she is the one that will be in labor for many hours. So what if she can't here if you are looking for a reason to get a divorce find someother reason this is just wrong, Name the boy something he will be able to live with, Sam, Mike, Ethan, so thinking of yourself and think of the kid and wife

no_um_4_u

I think there may be a more deep-seeded problem if you want to get a divorce over this.

Realist 2006

If you can contemplate divorce on such a flimsy grounds. No you are not insensitive --- just a bloody moron . Didn`t you notice her deafness before you married her !!!
Oh do you live in the middle east ? if not then why the hell do want your son to live his life in a western country with a foreign name ?

mobildik

Just when I thought that selfish, insensitive people were not around anymore YOU SURFACED.
Get a life and learn how to share or get a divorce. SHE would be better off without YOU.
Why a Middle East name? i know of several people from the Middle Est that have changed to American names because of the bitterness attached to the old ones.

cristanine

"...marriage and the up-bringing of children in the home require as well-trained a mind and as well-disciplined a character as any other occupation that might be considered a career. Choosing the name of a child comes from a heart warmth and loves endeavor for the two whom have chosen to be married and that decision should always be mutual."
Aldo Rosado
March 10, 2007

kathyw

Yes, especially since it is a name she will be calling the child and she will be caring for him many more hours out of the day than you will! A compromise is in order - I suggest her name choice for his first name and your name choice for his middle name. Why? Because that kid is going to have everyone mangle his name because they can't pronounce it and make fun of the new name that they invent that sounds like his name. If a kid is Oscar or Slim, almost no one mispronounces or misspells those names. In the meantime, you can call him by his middle name just because you like it (not all the time but whenever you are affectionate to him) - he will like both his names.

Lady Hewitt

Yes you are very wrong in this hon. Let her have some say in the babies name. Like you pick the first name and let her pic the middle or vice versa. Divorcing over a simple name is kinda stupid and you are being way to controlling on this issue. You need to relax and love her even if you dont totally agree on this. Stop the fighting and seek counseling for the marriage and help. Yes you are being insensitive to her needs and you know it. I think this is mean!

Billy Dee

How about naming it jiiigabooo to match you face? Too bad your wife is not blind as well.

bigred

YES YOU ARE! But not only to her needs but to the baby's needs as well! Right now the two of you should be working together and worrying more about if your wife & baby is healthy instead of the baby's name. On that matter both of you are being very selfish. And because she is not wanting to name the baby what you want to name it you think that that is a reason to divorce her and have your baby growup with out a father! That sounds like complete selfishness & stupidty to me! Why don't the two of you compromise and give the baby both types of names one for the first & middle name.

Blues

This may not be as important as your issue but I was always told that before naming a child or pet, you should step out on the back porch & yell the name 3 times. If it rolls off your tongue good like it will when calling the child to dinner it's good. Sorry with your wife being deaf it won't help her, but it may help you.

Garnet

I don't know if this will work but if you have a name and she has a name for the
baby--what about one name for the first name and the other for a middle name.
It may or may not work out but time is getting short here. You don't want to call
the baby 'hey you'. : }

babe

dosen't matter if she is deaf or not she will still know the baby's name. and yes u to can meet each other half way so just sit down and you pick the first name and she picks the middle name or vise versa so now just chill out because she dosn't need the extra stress u r giving her after all she is having your baby.good luck

Rose

Dear Sir;
Your choice is just as important as hers but what bothers me is to read that you are willing to divorce over this. That is more concerning than the actual argument. Maybe you two need a third party to help you with this like a friend or councilor. Sounds like its really something besides the babies name. Or you ARE BEING WRONG. That sounds so controlling and wrong.

Mayroxy

No!!!!!!!!! Don't get a divorce over a NAME!!!!!!! And it does matter what she thinks. Just because she is deaf doesn't mean she won't "hear" the name. She can still know what the name is and read lips and fingerspell it.

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