Dealing with him gone...?

Helper

I can tell you that I do understand if that helps. I wish there was much more support for our troops wifes and childcare services which are free that can be used, trips out with the girls (not cheating) planned by organizations and things like that. The military wifes and the vets when they get home get very little support. Make some good friends, dont even think about the cheating because you could do nothing worse to yourself than to know you let yourself and him down.
You are one special lady because you are the honored wife of a great man who is putting his life on the line so that we can have freedom. I served my 20 years, am now a disabled vet and am proud of the work I did when I was called upon.
You need family support, military support and everything. I just cant help you with anything concrete except to tell you to journal this whole experience and write a book about how you feel to pass the time and get it published.
A lot of people would buy it. Take care of those kids and may God bless your curageous husband overseas.
Hope that helped,
Helper

Logana

It must be very hard for you with your husband so far away, you must be missing him very much.

Try to meet up with friends as much as possible, keep distracted and keep your mind occupied.

There are other army wives who have been married longer and would be more used to this, try to find out how they cope with the long absences.

Best of luck to you.

Amy

Wow. I am in the same boat that you are and honestly the only thing that helps is picking up a hobby. You are entitled to 16 hours free childcare every week and you should use every minute of it. A really good idea to help pass the time is to send out one box every month that he is gone.That way instead of counting down days and weeks you can count down boxes. I have 9 left to send and started out with 18 so it helps a lot. Also if you live near his duty station get involved with the FRG, they usually have mom days out and get togethers for the wives. Have your children get involved with the packages you send also, have them color pictures or if they can write have them write a little note or sign their name to a card. Also if you are having trouble functioning through the day your doctor can prescribe you something to help. Get a body pillow to use on his side of the bed so when you reach out in the middle of the night you don't feel the emptiness. And a really good website for military wives is www.truuconfessions.com and click on the military wives tab. A really good book to help with the aspect of military life is Married to the Military. Go out and make friends because in the military your friends become your family and your family will become your friends.

Starlet

I got married 8 weeks ago and I hardly ever get to see my husband (about once every 3 months if I am lucky). He's in the navy. Although I miss him like nuts, I keep myself busy enough. I go to school full time, work, go to the gym, get outside, spend time with friends.... it sounds like you need something other then your children to keep you sane when you're alone. What do you like to do? Have any goals you want to go after? Online schooling? Even getting out in the sun for a few hours a day fights depression.

"ghe99y0sar"

I thing your trying to seduce people, and I have no time to flirt unless there is a satisfying result. sorry.

Phoenix mom

ok hon this site that am going to give you has other woman that are going through the same thing as you and it might help you good luck

http://www.militaryspousesupport.net/boards

JoJo

I am trying to be strong for a close friend. His son just left for Iraq last week. He is also going to be deployed but later. I try to stay busy, and keep in touch with him. I know how hard this is for you. He came back 2007 after a year in Iraq. I love him, and this what he loves. So you just have to pray for them. Keep busy reading books, cooking ,anything you love to do. Praying is all you can do.

E.S.

HI ,you could allways get you-self an internet penpal ,then you could while away the hours till your heart is content

GMAN

I was in the army as well and my ex had the same problems.You are going to have to be strong for your children and husbands sake, they are also feeling the pressure of being apart, i know its not easy but can be done. Talk to the family welfare officer about it and go out on day trips to take your mind off things even if its just fora while.

As you are only recently married you might not know many of the other wife's in the camp but go to the meetings they have,they are also going threw the same thing and it is a close knit community and are very supportive to each other

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