Did i commit spousal abuse?

Kailey

Relax.......you DID NOT abuse your wife! You should have! lol (just kidding)!!

She needs something to use against you so she doesn't have to feel guilty about destroying your marriage! That is just human nature! I am going through the same thing with my ex husband right now! He accused me of having an affair, told everyone, he felt better and walked away guilt free! That was fine with me, I was glad that he had something......as long as he walked away, I didn't care!

Don't allow yourself to feel guilty! You reacted to a VERY emotional situation, with a VERY emotional reaction! Seems logical and understandable to me.

iiidontknowdoyou

NO not abuse, she abused you by cheating!

No its not, she is just trying to make you out to be the bad person, since she has been cheating

gl

Dan

well i think there is a fine line here, yes in many respects you did becuase you raised your hand in anger.

i think she is lucky you did only that

Gun Dream

It is spousal abuse, but don't let that divert you from the fact that she is cheating and you caught her. She's gonna play the victim card, don't let her. It was a towel, not a closed fist.

â˜† luv â˜†

ah, she didnt get all she deserved.........

honey, unless she can prove it by markings you might of left, she cant do sh!t. Also, it might be mental and emotional..but you know you did wrong. I dont defend Miss. Loosy Mc Pants, but i DONT JUSTIFY YOU EITHER.

Angle S

she got off lucky as far as I can tell, she is just saying that to try and make you feel bad and get the heat off of her nasty, cheating, no good, rotten, butt. I'm behind you 150%

redpeach_mi

you hit her with a towel. that is not abuse.

dinny's engaged!!

while you really shouldn't have done that, I'm afraid to say I would have done the same thing. I don't think though that it can be held against you--you didn't do physical harm. Good luck to you.

ashley

Did you bruise her? Probably not she is just trying to place the blame so she doesn't feel so guilty.

Vanity Affaire

I think you maintained a good level of restraint if that's really all you did. Some guys would have slammed her head against the towel rack...and that's a shame that you have to discover what you did. If she didn't come out of the little incident covered in welts, then it was not abuse.

Mickey V

As soon as you touch some physically no matter what the cause its considered battery.

The only case that does not apply is when you have to "defend" yourself.

Then the only force you can use to defend yourself must be within acceptable "range". Meaning if you have a chance to leave the area to avoid harm, you cannot take a gun out and shoot someone with it.

In this case as soon as you struck her with the towel, your emotions over rode your sense of sanity. Understandable, however not acceptable.

Greyhound Mama

I really don't know why, after two years and a divorce, this is coming up now. I also don't understand why you still have contact with this woman.

Do I agree with you raising your hand to her in anger? No. It's not right for anyone, male or female, to do that. Do I understand why you did it? Of course.

By this time it shouldn't be an issue anymore. It happened two years ago. You've learned from it and know how to better handle yourself. Let it go.

mezwood

oh jeez...she needs to chill...IF that is all you did then I think you showed incredibly restraint. I would have beat my husband down if I saw what you saw.

Qyllix

She is trying to displace her guilt at cheating onto you. I dont think that i would have been that restrained. Especially in the heat of the moment. If you are still together, get her some help. If not, move on and live your life. As long as you buy into her lie you are enabling her.

tiuliucci

She was completely in the wrong. You were angry and whether she wants to call it abuse or not, she clearly showed evidence of an affair on her body.

I am sure that in a court of law her abuse claim would not stand. One, the towel would have had to create large red marks and she would have had to have cried out. Two, the evidence of her having an affair was something that made you lash out.

By the way, it is great that she is your ex now. She did not respect you and was a terrible wife.

Take care,
Troy

iyamacog

Well, let's see now.........when one murders someone, doya think the likely excuse would be "I was emotional"

ashlee

sweetie she was just trying to put some blame on you so she wouldnt feel so bad about slepping around on you....so she got exactly what she desereved....if not a little less...and i dont believe in abuse but you should get another girl to give her the a** beating she deserves....good luck to you!!!!

"Im Accepting My Blessing?&

That's wasn't too bad but she is cheating so that didn't hurt. I hope you OK. You haven't really done anything she's the cheater.

Bryan M

I wouldn't consider it abuse at all. What she did by cheating on you was spousal abuse.

~â™¥Truckers Wifeâ™¥~

As long as you didnt really HURT her... then it was a more of emotional abuse... spousal abuse is if you let marks i think.. i could be wrong.. they will tell you

867-5309 "Jenny"

Not abuse but anytime you do something to some one by using force it can be considered assault .. Keep your hands to yourself ..

Don't ask, I'm confused

Nah it's not abuse. Why are you worrying now you're divorced, get on with life. Anyway deny it. Say it's figment of her imagination.

Hiatus

No abuse... Tell her to hit the road!

she probably feels less guilty claiming that you abused her.

Aunt T

Yes you did. But I think I can understand why. A good counselor is what is needed if you two want to save the marriage, and even if she doesn't you will need some good guidance to end this relationship.

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