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Divorce problems????
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Recently, my parents split up, and I was really upset (and still am). My dad moved to a different country, and in the Christmas holidays, I went to visit him. About a day after I leave, my mum finds her long - lost boyfriend on Facebook and brings him to the house. My dad got really angry because a. it's his house and b. He didn't want my 8 year old brothers (who stayed with my mum) 'exposed' to that kind of stupid behaviour from my mum.
She made my brothers lie and tell me and my dad that he was gone, when his stay was really quite permanent. I just couldn't believe that MY MUM did that. I was really mad and angry at her... for having a boyfriend so early after I left (which made me feel like she was waiting for me to go away), actually have HER BOYFRIEND FROM WHEN SHE WAS 16 in the house, when he LEFT HER, and she barely even knew him, and finally, because I don't think I was ready for her to be having a boyfriend that I would have to live with. As bratty as it sounds, I didn't really want her to have a boyfriend at all, but I wanted her to be happy.
I decided to move with my dad, because I would rather DIE than have to have that tension between me and 'Robbie' (her boyfriend). I didn't know if I could stop myself from punching at him and yelling, because I had found out she was actually having an affair with my dad WAY before they decided to get divorced....ugh....
It really punched a whole in my heart. Now, I'm with my dad, but i'm still not happy. I miss my friends and everything I had built in the UK. I have to start again - it drives me insane. I cry every night when I think about my friends and my mum. It's not that I missed HER, after what she did to me, but I missed who she used to be. The warm, kind, friendly mum who was always there for me. Ever since she met Robbie....she was like an empty shell. There, but not there at the same time.
Can someone help me? I need to know if I did the right thing here, because I'm finding it really hard to be here.
Please please please please please don't tell me that it isn't my business because it is - I have to live with it.
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KitKat
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I AM going to tell you that it is none of your business, because it isn't. You are upset over your parent's breakup, and you don't want your mom to be with anyone else. That's incredibly selfish if you ask me. Your dad packed up and moved to a different COUNTRY, not a different town, so what is your mom supposed to do? Stay single and celibate for the rest of her life?
What stupid behavior is your dad afraid that your brothers are going to be exposed to? Mom having a boyfriend while dad is in a different country with free reign to bang whoever the hell he wants to? You need to grow up and face the fact that your mom is moving on with her life. You either move back with her and accept it, or stay where you are. |
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Arthur W
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Only you can tell if you did the right thing by doing what you felt you had to here. True, its your Moms life but she should have warned and talked to you and your brother about what she was abouit to do. She doesnt need your approval but a heads up would have been nice. But adults are worse than kids sometimes and just dont think about the people around them. So for now you have to do what is going to make you happy in your life and let the rest take care of itself, as your life will go on and so must you. Someday she will have to answer for her actions to a higher power and theres probably little you can do to change her mind, besides chances are this affair is short term as shes probably trying to find a way to take away the pain from divorcing your Dad. Youre old and mature enough to know whats wrong or right here and know what you want here and go for it, as in a couple of years youll be able to leave home and move on with your life. Also my email address is thunder_wright@yahoo.com if you ever need to talk to someone or just vent your feelings. Good luck |
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