Do I cheat on my husband?

Zakir

Why do you have to cheat? I can't see any reason you have to cheat. As you say that your husband doesn't treats you the way you want him to so ask him for a divorce. First get a divorce and then get married with a new guy who would truly love you and treat you well. Why do you have to cheat?

nesha b

first off your husband sounds controlling and you have to get rid of him quick before it gets worse if i were u i would stop wondering if im cheating or not and start thinking about how to lose him and get with this other guy

igotsandypants

Don't do it. It doesn't solve the problem it just complicates it. You made a vow, stick to it. If he has failed you in the adultry department, then you are free from your vow. In which case I say, file the papers and move on with your life.

BUT, if you love him (which I suspect you might, since it's been 10 years) then hang in there. I do not think he is treating you nicely, however... the problems are hardly ever one-sided. Often we try to fix thier problems and we don't concentrate on what can can improve in ourselves.

You know the phrase " if you have to ask, you already know what to do" You know that you shouldn't cheat, but you want to be validated so that you can cheat. FROM EXPERIENCE, validation does not make something that is wrong, right.

Hope this helps!

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don't cheat because that is committing adultery. and that's bad. so don't. lol. why dont you just get a divorce if you are so unhappy? then you will be free to do what you want.

shah!

divorce is first

then see the man

that way there is no guilt

bonecrusher

HAHAHA... yeah, be with any man, including the one that you just met that thinks you are all that for ten years and see what happens. Screw it though, I dunno what I'm talking about, get divorced like everyone else, I'm sure it will solve all your problems.

earthquestnb

Do it..... your not on this planet to please anyone but yourself and you offspring....Do it you will be happier,,,,,

bowery girl

You sound like you already made up your mind, you are just looking for someone to validate or justify it. The bottom line is, cheating is cheating no matter what the back story is. To be honest with you, and i'm not trying to make you feel bad but it doesn't seem like you have a very high opinion of yourself. I know it doesn't help by having youre spouse constantly put you down, but that's not the reason. That's an issue between you and your self-esteem. Knowing that, you are attracted to this guys compliments, which is understandable but if you go through with it, that will just give you something else to make you feel bad about yourself and that one would be valid. Not for nothing you can't think much of a guy who's willing to sleep with a woman who has a husband, that really don't show much for his character as a man. You are unhappy, that is obvious. Do something about that. Fix the real problem, don't complicate it with more. You are allowing your husband to treat you like dirt, so he will continue to do so unless he has a reason to stop. You are not on an equal level as far as the marrige is concerned, no respect. Take a vacation, alone, meaning without him, just tell him you are unhappy, don't feel respected,appreciated and you refuse to be treated like a doormat one more day. Then pack a bag and go don't tell him anything- just go. Come back in two weeks like youre coming back for more clothes and see what he does or says.If things can be worked out decide if that's what u want. Otherwise start thinking about making a life change. You don't deserve this at the same time, cheating is not going to help anything. Don't b like so many cowards out there who cheat cause they are miserable. Get Un- miserable, than get on with your life and new relationships.

PATTY H

Be a woman. If you are that miserable, get a divorce. Leave the other guy alone until after you have at least filed.

Lucifer

o c'mon, you know you want to, not to get laid but to teach your husband a lesson! plus it's bound to happen (give me ten points please)

Luna

Talk to your husband and try to make him change his ways if that doesn't work I would get a divorce. Ask yourself "Why did I marry him in the first place? What has changed?"

silverironrain

tell him that you will not tolerate it anymore and leave. Say you wont come back if he doesnt change how he treats you. If he doesnt change.. stay apart.

littlestarr02

http://www.womanabuseprevention.com/html/emotional_abuse.html

LEAVE HIM
he's an arsehole

corvairchick

it only counts if you get caught i say go for it (i did) im married and im in love with my boyfriend i just dont know how to tell my husband i want a divorce. everyone deserves to be happy you only have one life

whatshisface

Maybe he is just tired, you said he works 16 hours a day.

trish

if you are unhappy in your marriage you should get a divorce or counseling. cheating is only a ticket to regret and guilt. you made a commitment to your husband, you should honor it. try and remember why you fell in love with him.

velvit

No,then you will feel really bad.Look at it like this.What if he did that to you?If you are unhappy then leave with a clear conscious.

Sidoney

I'm sad I'm at the end of these answers, because I can tell you DON'T CHEAT. First if you're husband treats you poorly now and he finds out, who knows what could happen??? Secondly the guilt will drive you nuts, and the old saying "Two Wrongs don't make a right" Is never so true as when people are trying to get back at another person. And Finally, to me it would appear that this other guy is your idea of the replacement guy, not really love but just nice. What would it do to you, if your husband found out, took everything because it would appear at that point that you were the person who did wrong, and then this other guy wasn't interested anymore? Remember we always want what we can't have, and right now he can't have you. It makes both of you VERY attractive to each other...

Fairy Tale

Cheating on a man that you allowed to control you for so long ? I would be afraid and would have divorced that . But you stayed , cheating will probably get you hurt and do you think a man will respect you knowing your married ? Do you honestly think your husband will ever forgive you .He's at least verbally abuse you for years .And 16 hours work days ? Yes many have done this ,but how long ? He might be cheating on you ! 10 years that's a lot , my ex husband and I were married 10 years ( honest) .I questioned the verbal abuse ( about one year that happened ) The very long days (he was gone ) .So I went to a radio shack and asked them how do I tap my phone line , I bought the things ( very easy to hook up ). With in a few days , I heard " , no I can't afford to divorce that #$^ , I'll be there tomorrow .I Love you ! " He hadn't said I love you to me in months .Anyway , being single and older is a big change , but I'm in control of my future now .My ex is a lonely man and I won't even say hi , if I see him .No turning back .If you care for the other guy , move on ( all the way ) .

hope

The choices you made were yours and you must live with them.
Only go with this man after you are divorced from the first.
From what you say about your husband the consequences could be dire if you cheated on him.
I had a husband like yours and nearly got killed by his hand.

beer_pharts

get a divorce first

two words...trial seperation.

cj420

I agree with Queen Ganja. If you cheat on him while you are still married, that will cause a lot of drama, he may even become violent when he finds out (and he will find out). Your best bet is to get a divorce then pursue a new relationship. You may want some independance before you get involved with the new man. You two might not be as compadable as you think and if you two break up, then you are on your own. Think about this seriously before you make and harsh decisions! I have seen too many friends, as well as myself, think impulsively when it came to relationships and make a lot of life changing mistakes! Remember to get a restraining order before your divorce! Good luck

koopz

aahhhhhhhhhhhhhh, no. get a divorce.

amazincajn_99

Leave and divorce the husband..then go for the other guy

shqiptare

Do not cheat because then you can lose custody of your kids, if you have any, and many possesions. If you divorce him and tell your lawyer everything you told us hear, you will win many of his possesions for emotional distress and maybe you will get to drive that beemer because it might become yours. After you are divorced start dating and eventually remarry, with this good man you we talking about maybe.

icehot_pk

how about u divorce ur husband and then marry the other guy...thats not cheating

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