Do all men change after you marry them?

joe

you need to scutinize his words. does he back up what he says with action. does his promises mean nothing when its convienet to break a promise. you can always tell a person by the value he places on his words..... as far as anything else yes we all change after time even if its as slow as a sloth the older you get the less a man will change but he still does. if your man started opening the car door for you and six months later he is still doing it then you might be seeing what he is really like. scutinize every aspect of this man as getting married should be with somone you feel positive that when he promises before god and family that he really means for better or for worse till death do you part.....good luck

robert

not all

notyou311

Some do. Some men take their wives for granted and show their worst side. Pay attention to how a man treats his mother and the rest of his family. That is probably how he'll treat you.

beauty b

not, not all men are equal

lilastevenson42

tell him how you feel,then go from there..
yes men change but so do we dont forget that.
just make sure the changes that you both make are for each other not just for one.

Desiree S

Remember that everyone changes as we get older. You never know if the change will be good or bad until you take the chance. Good Luck!!!

DESIGNWebGraphic.Com

No but sometimes men change and sometimes women. All depends on fortune.

NONAME

Not all.

robert8481

Sometimes they do. They get at ease with being married and sometimes it may not be as
much as a challenge after marriage as it is getting to that point. But, I feel if you both put
forth the effort it takes; everything will work out
the way it is suppose to. Good luck.

mrpeabody

I don't think men actually change. I think some women are expecting the man to change and they don't. So they then label it, "he changed".

Perhaps you should first understand what it is YOU are expecting out of the relationship and make sure he understands what you want out of the relationship.

litehmusicdj

WELL KID, is like this, i hate to break to you like this since you ask, yes, not all men are made equal, but, after six months,, the flame is waring out, the honeymoon stage is wearing off, and you Wake one morning, screaming your head off.. them you say to yourself,, IS OVER,, FINISH,, I DRUNK ALL THE JAMAICAN RUM, NO MORE CIGARS, AS TA LA VISTA, BABY,, 'Frankly my dear i don't give a damn." as for me i still have plenty JUMAICAN RUM,, and the fire still burning,,think about it..

superboredom

no, my husband's still caring and loving the same way before we got married.

G.T. L

Some things change, some things don't. It depends on the individual. Many men will be able to treat you well. You have to be able to assess their intentions and behaviour, to see whether they are sincere and honest with you. Some will have honourable intentions and most will have ulterior motives. You will be the best judge, because it involves you and your needs and aspirations.

Big "D"

It is my opinion that they usually don't change, its just that once married you are around each other more and learn each others habits and behind closed door attitudes quickly. Try going away on trips together or even move in together for a while. What the heck, you are both adults. This may help you to see if any hidden attributes about him will be more than you can handle.

Spot

Having one failed marriage, you should realize that both men and women change after marriage. Some for the better, some worse.

As a man, I will admit that one of the biggest problems we men have is that we become complacent after awhile. We have a tendency to get what I call "too comfortable" in our relationships and sometimes forget to show our love. I have never met a woman who doesn't mind being reminded that she is still beautiful and loved.

There are no guarantees in marriage.....if you love him and you feel in your heart that he loves you.....trust your instincts!

waleah n

Trust yourself...I had an aversion to marriage after failing twice. Then this cute guy, swept me of my feet, romanced me with a great vacation...great dates. Then we lived together for a year and he was wonderful and that convinced me to trust him. We got married in Vegas and we weren't married three years when he put me out on the street, jobless. I just had a major surgery and he didn't want an old, sick woman without a job. I thought he would beg my forgiveness but he just moved on and told everyone I was fat and lazy and I didn't help him pay our bills. I'm fine now, though. I don't have a penny to spare but I have a job and an apartment. (When I put things away they are there when I return.) I've never lived alone before but I love it. If you have any doubts, second thoughts, anything... a pre-nup is not a bad idea. It can spell out roles and expectations...you would have a written understanding... not just a piece of paper saying "married." They always treat you well in the beginning, it is a challenge to see if they can win you.

addicted2stamping

Yepeer!

missmadhatter

It depends on that man.I wouldn't rush into another relationship yet because he could be nice and when you live with him he change and become that person you hate.Think before you leap.

Sara

It's not so much that they change as much as they don't change. Behavior that was acceptable while you were dating just doesn't cut it when your married. If they become possessive they always were you just spent every minute together so he didn't didn't have any reason to act jealous. Or maybe he won't hold down a job. How many jobs has he had already? probably a lot. So did he change or did you just wake up? You'll have to be more detailed. But to punish someone for something someone else did is just wrong. Judge him on what he does. not the last guy

Diamond in the Rough

yeap....and they say we do too.

generation

If u judge him well, he will care u forever. Not all people cahges their mind after marriage.

labskoto2119

wahaha...no it depends on the person or on your husband..heheh

Iron Rider

He will only change IF you let him. don't nag but don't let him get in that rut that a lot of men fall into.

Cing

There are a couple of old sayings about this subject. I will paraphrase:

"Women marry men expecting them to change and they don't. Men marry women expecting them to never change, but they do."

The other one goes: "God and his mother made him and no woman is ever going to change him"

How long have you been with the dude?

I guess there are dudes that change, but it has been my experience that dudes really dont change, but their wives think they do because they put on a front for the short time they were dating before they got married. I would never take anything as an absolute. I would just take in a large sample of behavior...atleast a few years, befor I made any sort of decision, but, as you well know, you cant be 100% sure about anyone, huh?

I wish you the best.

lucy_shy8000

Everybody changes, grows, evolves, assumes new interests, finds new friends, discovers new hobbies, develops new tastes..

Whether you are married or not.

Nobody is ever the same for long, but change isn't always bad. Some people change for the better. Expect some change, or you'll be shocked when it happens.

KIMBERLY S

my husband did a toal 180 when we got married he isnt the same guy as he was when he was single even now after 9 years of marriage

Ã¢?Â¥ Pawya!

Yes I think so some for the good and some for the worse! But people grow and change all the time.

4mom

Men do not 'change' after getting married. They are just great actors and do not show their true colors until after they think you are in your power. Most men, not all. There are guys out there that are true. Watch his actions closely with other people ( especially Those he is not trying to impress.) You will have a good Idea of his true character.

jaredsmommy2004

Sometimes we have to let go of the past when we are in a new relationship .. because they are not your ex husband. Change however is ultimately a natural thing that does occur, we all grow from mistakes, from events, work and friends, etc etc. But having communication, taken a relationship slow and always be truthful to one another is the biggest thing to have during a marriage or any relationship

Hugs from a Loving Mom to a Brillant, as well as beautiful 8 year old Jared and Our Angel, Zachary (taken to soon but who will always remain in our heart) ~ Mel

J Somethingorother

After doing a lot of soul searching after my divorce, I decided that he didn't change so much...I just misread a lot of his actions before we got married. He pretty much stayed basically the same (not good) but I changed drastically. I think as we get older, our perceptions change when we look back on things. If you're afraid to get married...you just answered your own question...Don't!

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