Do i tell him about the baby?

onceupon

You should tell him, and give him a chance to redeem himself as a father, maybe he could be a good one too, but as your partner that will not change, specially if he is bad mouthing you, he doesn't care for you anymore, and you need to realize that, so if he becomes a part of this baby's life, is his choice, and you should give the baby a chance to know about his dad too, but you have to know that is all there is between you two, so don't tell him expecting he will come and marry you and love you again, and not saying that it is not possible, but don't tell him just because that is what you expect, that will just give him a chance to hurt you again, and you don't want to have that kind of relationship with the father of your child,
Only if he really improves and proves you different you will see him as just that, but that down the road if it happens, now concentrate on being happy, for you and your baby, this baby needs you to be happy, make plans, and feel you made the right choice at all times when it comes to the baby, because they feel that kind of attitude,
If he chooses to not be a part of this angel's life, that will be his choice too, and no regrets from you, you told him and that is all you have to do, his gain or his loose, but he is still responsible for the well being of this child, so that part you have to inforce, not you personaly, but the law will help you with it
Good luck and congratulations on that beautiful baby

mzdrea08

Well he does have a right to know about the baby and you have a right to get support from him for the baby. For your child's sake, don't deny him his father.

Magic Man

you should definately tell him. you have to tell him sometime better now than later.

Ashley G

i definetly would. You wouldnt want ur child to not ever meet or know who his or her father is.

â™¥ Sallieâ™¥

You need to tell him, but that doesn't mean you need to be with him.

Kevin R

It's your call .

But , I have seen this scenario many times from other Women and what happens is , they waste their time on these losers and fool around with them and never get their life going . They never take up a serious fathers role and mix up the child and end up leaving everyone in the end for some new girl .

Lela A

the truth is always best, if he is the father of this baby, he has a right to know the truth..so does the child

stonechic

regardless of the personal relationship drama between you two, he needs to know he has fathered a child.

Just because your relationship is over doesn't give you the right to hide the fact that you are pregnant. He needs to offer both emotional and financial support to his child.

If you fail to do so, it can come back to cause problems if he finds out from another source.

Ivan&Ariel

He is the father of your baby. You have to tell him.

Upset

Of course you tell him, he's the dad, he has some responsibility.

yournotalone

yes you do need to tell him. It is his baby weather you like it or not..
He now has responsibilities to help care, and pay for the child.. Just dont feel pressured in to getting back together with him just for the sake of the child.. Good luck.

julvrug

If you ever intend on receiving child support or state aid, you will need to tell him. If on the other hand If you can live without the additional support then you can do as you please. The question will be if you have mutual friends, don't you think he will figure it out sooner or later? I guess it really depends on what you plan on doing with the child. If you plan on keeping it, I would lean toward telling him, if you are planning on adoption, claim you do not know the father, and as long as you can stand by that, you might not have to be concerned with paternal informing and permission.

Liz

Get an abortion. You need to do a lot more growing up and maturing before you can be anything remotely resembling a responsible parent.

ladybug_jane22

No, don't tell him because that a**hole might want to start hanging around again. Then you'll never get rid of him. Best for the baby too!

Do what makes you most comfortable. Protect yourself first.

Telling him might make you feel better, but be prepared for the worst. By preparing yourself, things will go as smoothly as possible. This guy sounds like bad news, and separating yourself is a good idea. Just make sure you have a good support system surrounding you because no one should have to go through things alone.

Good luck.

Tiffany

Wow. That is awful. I can't stand when guys act like that. I would say yes that you should tell him but tell him that you just wanted to let him know and that you aren't expecting anything from him but that the right thing to do is to let him know. Then see how he reacts. But if you don't tell him, it can cause probs down the line. Good luck and Congrats.

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kylie m

He sounds immature, unstable and abusive. Tell him and your current interest about the baby, they're going to know soon enough, and I would stay away from your ex, it doesn't sound like he would have any sort of positive influence on this baby. I would recommend going to family at this point, people who love you and will support you through this.
If your family doesn't quite fit the bill, do what you can to create an environment that will benefit your child, which is obviously not your ex.

jacqua

u can stay single untill u find a man who treats u the way u deserve too..i do suggest telling the rightful father only becuz it is his baby also, DOES NOT MEAN U AND HIM HAVE TO DATE AGAIN. just have him in ur babies life. do not date someone right away just becuz u feel u need to becuz ur pregnant.. if u tell the realy father about the baby, the baby will have a father in his/her life. and for u, u need to find someone for YOU who also loves and accepts the baby.

eldots53

Well, he is going to be responsible to help support it when you have it, so yeah, he does have a right to know, whether you feel comfortable about it or not. You should tell him, and tell him right away. Who knows, it may change him, though I doubt it.

Good for you for finally standing up for yourself.

Kayla B

you should and take his money
Child Support

Darlene A

Wow, take care of the baby. Forget about everything, give your baby a give life.

Starman

My opinion is that you should tell him. He does have a right to know that he will be a father, even if he is an a**hole. You never know, a miracle may happen, and he may stop being an a**hole when the news sinks in, and he realizes what it actually means. If not, you have done what's right for your unborn baby, and you've also been honest. If he doesn't change, concentrate on yourself & the baby. That's all that really matters. Hiding the truth now may cause you so much trouble in future, so it's better to bite the bullet now.

Tara Starr

You should tell him because he's the baby's father and the child would probably be angry with you for not telling him/her who his/her father is.

dunefreeman

have an abortion, get some decent friends, not pieces of ****, and move on with your life.

hiphopatamus@rocketmail.com

yes you have to. it will come up sooner or later and might end up being one of those things where the child finds out as an adult and gets involved with the fathers life or hates the dad or even you for not saying anything

Samantha

u should tell him but u get full child custody
just so there are no problems in the future

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Trina

Tell him , i told my babys dad wen i was pregnant and he dissapeared now my son is 5 months and he wants to be in his sons life now so it may take him some time to get used to the idea so if he saids he dont want the baby give him sum time

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