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It's kind of ironic.. lol when I clicked this question "How to Save a Life" by the Frays started playing, which was in my other tabs. Anyways, I don't really have experience in this field. However I shall try and shed some light on the subject.
Marriage to means different things to different people. To some people who like "playing the field" they feel that it ties them up, that it kills their freedom (no-comittals). Others think that it's just something namesake, that it doesn't really make a difference it's just a title for show. People, usually women, feel that it's useless to waste their time in a relationship that will never go anywhere. To keep "dating" at 50 or so and not have a family already.
I personally want marriage. I mean everything that comes with it. I mean sure marriage isn't perfect and sometimes it ends up in broken hearts, but you have to look at both sides of the fence... what if it's perfect and everyday you find yourself looking at someone who you couldn't replace with anyone else to spend your life with. A lot of people associate marriage with a family, children. To bring a little bundle of joy into the world with someone you love. There are always pros and cons to everything and sure their are emotional highs and lows, but it's a risk like everything else in the world. So why not, at least try it? That's how I feel. I mean driving your car is a risk, you could end up in a car crash or you could save 30 minutes.. marriage could end you up in therapy or with a loving family.
P.S. I think people's opinions differ in the family they were raised in. Some people see marriage as a doom if theior parents were let's say married for 40 years and then divorced. Meaning to them that anything could happen, you never know if you have the perfect one, one day you could be thinking this is the life and the next..... But that's just it ANYTHING can happen, positive or negative. That wasn't my case and my parents marriage isn't the most succesful but call me "foolish", but I stil l am going to try. I mean for every unsuccesful marriage I can think of one succesful one, and my motto is if you really want something you'll do anything to get it.
Now I've been washed over with a need to see all those sappy love movies, that are classics and so cute. Like Titanic, Notebook and A Walk To Remember... aww. Lol, anyways they all passed obstacles to get to the ones they loved and so shall I.. I just realized that all those movies resulted in death. Romeo and Juliet did too... every good romance ends in death... hmmm interesting. Anyways au revior. |
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Purple
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There are always going to be things to worry about in this world. Why not worry about the ones you love. |
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LoveAlways
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Why? Im married, doesn't make me stressed!
Secondly, even if my husband and I werent married. We would both still worry about providing for each other and our kids
Affairs are for people who shouldn't be married, not for those who are.
Add: Relationships in general are stressful, if you dont want the stress, dont ever get a girlfriend! Even hook-ups can have complications. |
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Christy
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ive heard marriage does cause problems.... |
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Armstrong
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Dont get married then! |
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casselman81
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thats why i keep putting off getting married. |
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Queen of Beer
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This is why I am happily single! |
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onebriiguy
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I can't put my finger on them at the moment, but over the years I've seen the results of several studies that show that married people live longer and are generally healthier than their single peers.
Perhaps the stress is good for us!
Of course, some would say that the longevity is each partner trying to outlive the other! "I'll show her!" Ha! |
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they know that, it's deep down, but then comes the irrational part of all the passion and your heart takes over and sooner than you'd expect, you're saying the two words 'i do'... |
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Erin
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People like to believe that the power of love will help them. They like to think it will be different for them. Wishful thinking, I know. But love does crazy things to people. |
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AUDREY H
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everything causes stress. I have plenty of single friends that stress about bills, about lovers cheating, about family members, about being alone...and about their animals (in place of kids). Marriage is hard work and not easy by any means...but it is so very rewarding as well. |
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Megan
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Because some people want to make their commitment permanent. Its not marriage that stresses people out, its all of the new changes that happen when you get married, such as pressure to buy a house, share money, have children, etc. People jump into these things as soon as they say "I do" and then wonder why their spouse has an affair, wants a divorce, etc. |
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Have a GREAT day!
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If you don't want to get married, then don't. It's pretty simple and I'm not sure why you have bothered to post this. Marriage can be just as complicated and stressful as it is wonderful. It completely depends on each individual relationship. I know a lot of people who shouldn't be married because they're unhappy, but I, as well as many other couples are very happily married. |
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Robin
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I am married and sometimes ask myself what it would have been like if I hadn't gotten married. Its really not much different I think. You can be married and still be lonely. So I think Marriage is what you make it. You can make it a life time of joy and happiness or you can make it difficult and miserable. It really up to you.
****MILDRED IS YOUR FRIEND**** |
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Rylee M
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Marriage can be stressful but that only if you let it be....... marriage is a wonderful thing.....
and because it stressful time don't mean you shouldn't do it... because there alot of things that you could think is stressful. |
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Kev
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Some things are worth the hassle, some things aren't. |
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ManBeast
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Marriage also provides the comfort of knowing tat no matter what happens,someone will be there to go through it WITH you, affairs notwithstanding, and the comfort of knowing someone else will be coming home soon or that when you walk in the door someone will be there. |
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Backhoe
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U R very true |
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opaque
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Marriage is responsibility; and responsibility is stress. The institution of marriage was established by God and not by Paul. It is God's plan and pleasure for us to get married. The institution of marriage was established for several reasons. One of the reasons is to afford man the opportunity to cultivate the nature of love.
Love is a basic and strategic nature of rulers in the Kingdom of God. Since God created man to be a ruler in his kingdom, he must necessarily have that nature before he can qualify to rule. Marriage as an institution is a training ground for man to learn to rule in love. There are 4 other divine institutions that man must successfully pass through on earth before God qualifies him to rule over a planetary kingdom in the heavens.
Let's look at it this way: If you would like to become a medical doctor, would you say you would avoid attending a medical school because of the stresses you would encounter there? |
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Lulu 0 dtg
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yes that's why Im single.. |
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Barbaric Swan
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i'm in a long term relationship with my partner and we don't plan on having kids or getting married. everything good about a child you can get from a pet, and it's much less stress.
but am i to understand that you think only married people can have affairs? if both people in a relationship work (because only the lazy and the elderly don't work) then there is no "providing" for anyone.
i agree with your point about marriage and children, but relationships enrich our lives. me and my partner give each other more respect and love than most married couples. |
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argentum_horse
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But just imagine if someone was married their entire life to only one person, then wouldn't the marriage be so much more rewarding? Many people realize it, but yet are strong enough to try and to pull through any kind of stress or problem with their spouse. I admire my parents, because soon they'll be celebrating their 25th anniversary. I REALLY admire my grandparents (both sides of the family) because they've been married for over 50 years. I hope that if I ever get married I will remain true to my spouse and love him no matter what the situation. There is almost NOTHING as rewarding as having one marriage your entire life. |
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my marriage does not cause stress. things are pretty perfect. |
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Mawe :D is better than you.
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That's your opinion, and I disagree. |
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mel_2512
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Why don't you realize that what other people do with their life is no one else's business but their own?
If you want to avoid the complications of married life then do so without thinking that it gives you the right to try to "open" everybody's eyes about what you consider to be a reality. |
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KingAndrew
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I find your question somewhat naive in thought. We all have stress, married or unmarried, it just depend on the person and how they handle the stress. Your depiction of the bible is somewhat miscued, but I understand the point your making. Without marriage, what kind of world would be live in, what about the offspring, and their life not raised in an healthy household. I went through 45 years feeling the same as you, but after the birth of my children, I realize now, how stupid I was, children are the future of our world and they make all the stress in the world tolerable. |
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Wisen Smart
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Its been proven that a happily married person is healthier and lives longer. But if you chose the wrong partner, are very insecure and tolerate the stress that a toxic, loveless relationship brings, then you will become stressed out and miserable. Marriage was meant for couples that love, respect and support each other. |
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charlie
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I'd like to see if you feel the same way when your old and alone. We'll see how you feel about being in a relationship then when your all by yourself. The mansion and your sports car can't keep you warm at night or talk back to you when your looking for companionship???? I can see your future my dear. And let me tell you it's a very lonely one. BUT enjoy this time while it last. But it won't last forever!!! You'll find out quick enough. Then the joles going to be on you. |
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Gee
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I've been married awhile now and I can't say I'm MORE stressed than when I was single (the opposite holds true). I would probably feel differently if we had children but as neither of us want them it's a non-issue for us.
I would say for many married folk, they are often responsible for creating stress in their marriage that simply doesn't need to be present. Unrealistic expectations and selfishness are primary culprits in creating this stress. |
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