Do the tears stop fallling ever after a relationship ends?

Nick A

nope.

Emily Hobhouse

Well, he obviously wasn't your soul mate. I'm sorry, this is a terrible time for you and I know it isn't easy. My husband walked out on me when I had a four month old baby, so I do understand.
Allow yourself at least two years to get over this.
And few men walk out on their family like that unless there's someone else. Have a look, a good long, hard look, at what is going on behind the scenes.
He might be hiding something.

Morgan

Awe, I'm sorry ]= Things will get better though eventually. You have to deal with the hurt before you deal with the happy again.

s89

aww dear..i so feel for u. do take care alright?

caley

youll be ok!! yes there are other good men out there who love children. You have been married awhile, so it will take some time. the longer youve been with someone the longer it takes. youll be fine though. spend more time with your friends and family. keep yourself busy so you dont think of him as much and it will help. Join a gym, take yoga, look good woman, then get out there and flirt!

golly geesh

i had a 8 year relationship i ended that was nearly 5 years ago it sometimes still hurts but, i'm a much happier person my life is better without him. We have two kids together parts of me loves him but i did not love my life with him.

Steve C

You will need to decide to feel better, and the process is often difficult, but needs to be done. Is there any chance the relationship might be saved? Maybe you should have a heart -to-heart talk with him. If it can't, then start the process of recovery as quick as possible, don't let it drag on forever.

prouddaddy

I'm totally w/ you on the devastation. I'm in the same boat. After 13 yr. The pain is still fresh. But it gets better. Trust me. After going through major depression and the loss of 50 lb. I am feeling OK and ready to start my life over.
It will be painful, but trust me, it gets better, besides you have you child to live for as well as yourself, he needs you.

Daredevil

My wife left me after 16 years. I'm an empty shell. The tears do stop.

It's hard to adjust, but once you are able to realize "this is really happening" you can move on from there.

supermom

I know this sounds bad, but you need to try and cheer up, your son needs you. It will be hard to start over, but in time the pain will ease and one day you will wake up looking forward to what the day and future has in store for you. Remember your son is the man in your life for now and enjoy him. As for men not wanting a divorcee with a child, that is not true. The true men look for a soulmate and not whether the woman has a child at home or not. When you find a guy who wants to be with you and your son, you know you have found true love and a real man. Good luck

angel

no, i never been threw something like that.
it sounds horrible, it must be very hard.
you must remember that daddy is not in the house anymore and a three year old can ask alot of questions.
try to focus on your son only, for he is your first priority.

Mitsuki W

I am sure there have been people who have had or are in the same predicament. It's time to hold out for the future of your son. Find a new man. A new man who will really love you and you son. A man whom can dry your tears and warm your heart. Some man who can teach your son to grow up with a happy childhood. There is always someone in the world for only one person. Someone only they can meet. Someone who will always have new adventures. Don't cry anymore, find that man!

Tuttii Frutti

well honey girl to girl ,i think you should move on find a nice decient man tha will love and care for you and will stand buy your side and love your child like it was his.but most impotantly you just need to move on,and get over him already.good bless you and good luck!!!

Pamela

I have been through a very similar situation & I can tell you that the pain will subside. I don't think it ever goes away completely but the days of crying all day & night will go away. It won't always be the only thing you think about. What helped me was to put my focus, my time & my attention in my son. I made sure that he was protected from all that was going on & made sure he felt my unconditional love. Make your son your #1 priority right now. It will be the best thing for him & will help you heal as well. I promise. The #1 thing to do is pray. God got me through some very hard times. He will never let you down. He gives a peace that passes all understanding.

Scott S

Just try to remember, it is a big beautiful world out there. If you are as sweet as you sound,you'll have no problem meeting a guy as good if not better than your husband. There is a guy out there that will love you and your son. If you are a great catch, it won't matter that you have a son. There are alot of us affectionate men out there and believe it or not we're looking for somebody like you to love. ( I'm an affectionate man with a great wife, but I went through my share of crap to get here.) The posssibilities are endless, just stay positive.

Sweety

I'm so sorry for u. i understand what u're going through but I doubt anyone could feel the pain inside like you do, its true that ppl laugh together but u cry alone. atleast u have your child or family for u, right? Be strong...Life is nothing without hardships. I watched Pursuit of Happiness, acted by Will smith,n i find it very motivating n touching.. try to keep yourself strong. God is always there for u.. hope things will get better. take care

1978

I'm going through the same thing. The pain does go away....eventually. Pray to God to help you go through this. I also watched "the secret" and it makes me feel better.

Keith Python

I am very sorry for the pain you are going through. To help, let's clarify some things.

One, he is not your soul mate. If he was he would not be doing this to you.

Two, lots of men have no problem with a divorcee with a child. My wife of 14 years had three kids when we got married. My sister-in-law married her second husband with two kids, etc etc.

Three, the pain is devastating now but it will eventually heal. It doesn't seem like it now but over time it will.

Right now you need to be strong for your child and make new arrangements. A lawyer, monetary arrangements when your husband moves out, etc. You may need some counselling as well.

Time will make everything OK.

stacey s

It is very hard and after being with someone for so long it really hurts you will get through this god puts us through hell for a purpose and the best advice I can tell you is take it one day at a time and for every ounce of how much you miss him hold onto your son, just hang in there it will all work out

hutmikttmuk

I am sorry for what you are going through. There isn't much I can say to you other then sorry and yes, time does at least minimize pain.
Is there someone in your husbands life who can have a good "man to man" talk with him? Frankly, his excuse of "feelings aren't strong enough to sustain a marriage" is a load of trash. He needs someone to remind him of the promise he made and the terrible choice he is making now. He needs to live for more then himself and his "feelings". When did men stop being men anyhow? Sorry, a little rant on my part.
If there is no good person who can help your husband make a better decision, I would be happy to talk to him, if he is willing. I could call, e-mail, or even visit with him if he is close enough. Maybe that is an empty offer, but if there is any way that would work out let me know. That being said, I don't want to surprise him by having some stranger get in touch with him. I will only do it if you run it by him and he is interested.

Blunt

I'm so sorry.

yes, I went trough the same and Iknow how painful this is. I was also afraid for my future, I didn't want my son to be yet another child from divorced parents.

I got over it eventually, I regained my self worth and my self steem. I feel so empowered because I'm an independent woman that can make it on her owm. I'm happy and free and made all the pain worth it.

Good luck and God bless

Skip

Can U and your mate get a separation, instead of a divorce or is that not possible? Sound to me that he has a interest out there that he needs to pursue. He may find after a time that it's not in his best interest, and remain with U.

The_Overlord

Hang in there! You will need to put your energy into raising your child. Try to forget about getting into another relationship. You are correct in assuming most men do not want a single mother, so starting today, figure out a way to be the head of the household and make goals for your life.
Your tears will dry up, but you may have nightmares for years and years.

nikki r

ohhh sweetie it hurts bad and will it go away not for a while, but he might realize that he is making a mistake and come back. If not put your head up. Alot of people go through this and still make it in life. it is going to be dam hard but you can do it. It makes me want to cry for you. My best advice is to LET HIM GO. or it will drive you crazy.

Snow White

I am so sorry? It sounds like he is a big loser to do this to u! When i was little (about six) my parents got divorced and it was horrible but as time went by it got better and the tears stoped falling. Ur son will have a little bit of a hard time trying to figure out what is going on but as he gets older just tell him what happen and he will understand ok! This goes for u to, time will heel and dating new people will be fun! I do know what ur going through and I hope I have helped u a little!

Niecey B

I'm sorry to hear what you are going through..and it may not seem like it now, but things WILL get better..many things in life happen for a reason..maybe there is a greater plan for you in life and you never know you may be happier in the future..there are some great sites that offer support for divorce and getting over it..here just check them out..i would also consider you joiing a forum for women who are going through the same thing..Ill give you some sites:
http://love.ivillage.com/quicklinks_divorce/0,,b6dzbd52,00.html
http://members.lovingyou.com/forumdisplay.php?s=6a835527be5aa5f5fa210340fb5bdb84&forumid=59
I hope this helps..And good luck..Just noe that things get better..

Bobby Rippz is in mourning

1 week of mourning for every year you were with him ,. then if there is no way of a reconciliation . You must move on and soon will find another. Good luck

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Becky T

im not in the same place yu are but you need to be stong and move on for your child the tears will stop

Miss Ella

Aw. I have never been through a break-up like that, but it does hurt, and it may take a while to get over it. I've seen a lot of marriages/relationships end, and after a few months, usually it starts to feel better.

The best thing to do is surround yourself with people who love and care about you, start up some hobbies, work more, just use all your time NOT thinking about it.

Once you're over it, starting over will be fun. Just dating and being around guys who like you, are fun and appreciate your company. Maybe you'll find a hotter, nicer, more caring person who has more of the same interests as you. You will find a way to mend your broken heart, we all go through it. Promise!

Just be patient. Everything happens for a reason.

love

I feel for you so much because at one point i was in your position and the only thing i can say, it takes a lot ot time. I know its one of the hardest thing you can go through but be tough for yourself and your child. After you've cried so many tears, you'll soon realize that he wasn't even worth it. Keep yourself busy, go out with girlfriends and spend a lot of time with your kid and family. After you've gone through all this your gonna be stronger then ever so keep your head high, it made me stronger then ever. TAKE CARE!!!

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