Do u think u can make a relationship work after the other person has cheated on you?

Emma G

in a nutshell, no! you would never fully trust that person again and would never forget what they did.

Del Piero 10

Fat Boy Slim and Zoe Ball seemed to manage but they are the minority.

gem13

speaking from personal experience, i would say yes but it takes time and patience. it takes a lot of courage to try and buld up the trust again but it can only work if you both want it to

CountTheDays

He's trying to what? What's he want? Tell him to swing his hook if he can't keep his affections where they should be.

Lizabeth

still working on that myself. Yes I have heard and seen it done but its not easy. It is up the the cheater to decide if it can be rebuilt. After all the one who is hurt can not tell how long the pain and miss trust will last with them. If the cheater gets the the message that he or she will be always double or tripled checked on for as long as it takes and that can last for years then things can work if not they need to go.

angel

Ive been there to my ex cheated and i took him back, but he did it again, and i have moved over 800 miles away, he is now virtually on his knees wanting me back, but for me its too late :(

Tommy's_Sweet_Girl

Nope. I would have to break it off, the trust would be gone, and I'd always wonder if he was going to do it again.

Cally

Yes, and I have done it. Not because I'm stupid, with low self esteem (which I'm not), but because I love my husband, and I take my wedding vows seriously. We have rebuilt our lives and marriage through lots of hard work and tears, and now, 4 years on, I'm happier than I've ever been.

Laura G

going through this myself at the moment so know how you are feeling. The problem is you cant forget what happened, it just keeps going round and round your head. I love my partner very much but its been a year since we spilt and i still cry about it. I keep going with the hope that in the end trust will be rebuilt but it will take time and that could be a lot of time so be prepared its not easy but if you love them will all your heart then you should try to make it work or you'll be left with regrets.

2sexy 2cute

It will be very hard bcuz of the trust issue, but remember once a cheat always a cheat.

johanne

What always puzzles my mind, is WHY??? why do you want to be with someone who doesn't respect you? There is so many people in this world that are worthy. Why want to waste time and precious energy on someone who doesn't deserve it.
so my answer is get out and move on...
Good luck

knk724

yes you can, but its hard because the trust is gone. not trusting the person can cause more problems then the cheating itself.

Ashley R

It's possible. If the person cheated on can fully forgive, and learn to trust again.

Just Life, Trying To Live It.

As living proof, yes you can. It takes time to heal the pain, but I was willing, still am, to do anything for my wife. I gave up almost everything and changed my ways to be a better person, not for her, but for me - so she could see and feel that I was willing to do whatever it took for fix what I broke. It has been no walk in the park, but well worth all my energy and all my feelings. Email me, I would be glad to offer you any advice and share my story with you.

chels

If your married no! If your not married then maybe! beacause when you got married you swore to honnor ....... and so on.

Nickynackynoo

In my opinion, no. It happened to me and I took him back only for him to do it again. You will also become paranoid and think that the other person is ALWAYS lying to you, it's like a cancer that grows inside you. You will always throw it back in the other person's face no matter how hard to try and forget it. This is just my experience, but it depends on the two people involved.

I like it hardcore!

yeah be patient and things will work out...time is the greatest healer
good luck xx

I have Btch face

it will only work if you choose for it to work
remember
Forgiveness is a choice NOT a feeling.

ambrosia

you can! only if you try to make it work though, you have to truly forgive that person and trust them again or else you won't be able to forget about what happened!

CC Babydoll

No, because the trust is gone...without trust, you have nothing. Just being honest and blunt.

be cool...

marissaklump2004

Yes it can work out, you basically have to tell himm that if he cheats again, YOUR GONE, also make sure he knows that it will take a while for you to trust him again and you may not trust him as much as you did prior ever again, but that is something he is going to have to deal with for the decision he made. It will take time to get back where you once were, but it is possible.

Wendy M

It all depends on the person that was betrayed. If they feel they can make a go of the relationship after the betrayal, then yeah it could work.

Personally with me it would depend on the situation. If my fella had got himself drunk and ended up having a one-night-stand. There wouldn't have been any feelings involved, just carnal lust. I think I could forgive him for that.

I couldn't forgive him for having a full long term affair behind my back, because that would mean he would have near enough developed a proper relationship with that person and that for me would be unforgivable.

lindyloo

Every relationship is different, you know your partner and weather or not it is likely to happen again. There could have been reasons that drove him into another woman's arms. I am in no way saying that it was right for him to do this but there could have been factors that we dont know about. You wont ever know 100% if he is capable of doing it again because you obviously didnt think he would do it in the first place. My x cheated on me, I havent given him a second chance because i never really trusted him in the first place and im not prepared to live my life worrying about what hes up to. Hope you make the right decision.

mandy

yes you probably could but personally i wouldn't want too, each to there own i suppose

amandaaleggett@btinternet.com

to be honest no i don,t it will never be the same as the trust is gone

sbro

I wouldn't. Once a cheater always a cheater. If that person loved you and respected you, he/she should not have done it in the first place.

megamix

Yes, you can. It depends on persons trying to reorganise their relationship. Some people can live happily ever after. I know some examples. Some people can't. I know some examples as well.
According to my opinion, the hardest thing is how to heal the ego. And it takes time. you both have to be stubborn in your decision to try again. I mean very stubborn.

Mind ur business!!

Yes it can work in time once the trust is gained back.

the relationship can work but there will no longer be trust.

cristobal

Depends,,,, if both parties want to and the situation. I would go to a therapist together,, talk about how it is going to work etc. I will be honest with you,,, I left someone when they cheated on me.... my PARENTS who have been married for 61 years thought I was being extreme. I was hurt and felt betrayed. We went to therapy for over a year,,,,, turned out that the relationship has sour LONG ago and I did not know. My parents said the secret to staying married for 61 years??? Don't fall out of love with each other at the SAME TIME!

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