Do you agree with me about cheaters and giving them a second chance?

Babs R

i agree with you. once someone desides to go outside of the relationship it proves there lack of respect for the other person. its basicly part of there personality which means they are not trustworthy. even if you did give them a second chance you would always be wondering about it and it just isnt worth it. if you cant be with someone you trust then your better off without anyone.

lsccbean

I agree.

But, I made the "mistake" of giving cheaters a second chance...and a third chance....and a fourth chance....

Janet W

I agree with you. Cheating isn't a mistake it's a character flaw and a conscience decision. Once someone cheats then regaining trust for that person is almost impossible and a relationship will never thrive or be the same again after that.

life goes on

once a cheater always a cheater.

Lily18

Amen! I agree with you 100%.

gbgood

I know that's right, totally agree with you.

(WOMAN)

Agree with you 100%. Cheating is not a mistake and is disgusting once they've already been inside of someone they one to come and be inside you eeeeeeeewwwwwwww.

Pickleheaded possum

Your right. I gave my ex husband a second chance & another & another & another etc..... He kept on cheating right through 12 wives & counting.. I wish I had left him years sooner. It would have saved me major pain.

Katie M

I agree with you. Cheating is a choice. If you give that person a 2nd chance it MAY work but it's more likely that person just isn't able to be as committed as necessary for a good marriage.

stupendous

Giving anyone a second chance, for whatever reason, is a reaction to an action. If you view the action as something too horrendous to give a second chance, then you most likely will not offer one.

Blonde Wife

I agree.
Although, my husband is such a fat worthless loser I wouldn't really mind if he cheated on me. At least it gets his smelly disgusting body out of the house once in a while.

Sweety375

That is how you feel, not everyone feels the same way. I cheated on my husband, yeah it was wrong and I screwed up big time. I'm not going to make any excuses for why I did it. My husband gave me another chance and we've been happy since. I have never ever thought about cheating on him again. Its something I live with everyday and I see what I could have lost and it kills me. We have three kids and when I cheated we didn't he was in korea and I was in Iraq. I still have no clue why I did it, but I came clean when we got home and we worked things out. Then we started our life. I don't' agree with you, i'm sorry, but most people this is probably true. There are people out there that screw up and do something that was wrong. We are only human and not perfect. You can't judge someone without looking at yourself first. I know I didn't deserve a second chance, that's why I told him up front and I let him decide to either run for the hills and leave me or give me another chance. He decided to stay, and he doesn't regret it.

melouofs

I don't tihnk there is a blanket answer for every case. I can't see myself personally forgiving and forgetting, but I wouldn't automatically say it's over in all cases.

AKAO4D

I thinks they do deserve a second chance because the cheating is not the problem. People have to be willing to at least discuss if something else is wrong in the marriage. If the cheated on spouse they have done all that they can do and is not willing to give it a second go round, I also think that's perfectly okay. Just like the cheater made a choice to cheat, the other spouse has the choice to continue or not. Bottom line is, a person has to decide if their life would be better with or without the person that cheated. The healing will start from this point on.

benthere

so one sin is worse then another in your book? the man who lies should have his tongue cut out, the thief his hand cut off?

TRIXIE

thank goodness you are not Jesus...

tigrezz

Ok your right and if you already know this then whats your point?

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