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shiava02
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It depends what the sanctity & spirit of that ring to you.
If you look it as a momento of your love and relation, then you did absolute right. Coz if both of you didnot want that relation, what is the fun keeping that with you. By retuning that ring, you have gained an upper hand and gave him an emotional hit.
If you think of material gains, then you might have kept it. |
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Allison, aka Nice Lady
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Just give him the ring back. What would be the point in keeping it except spite?
EDIT I hate to invoke Judge Judy, but she says "an engagement ring is not a gift like other gifts - it is given as part of the contract of marriage. If the contract is not completed, the ring goes back.
I totally agree. |
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pisces83
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If you call off the engagement, then you should give the ring back. If HE called it off then the ring is yours! |
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shallytally
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Ettiquette calls for the lady to return the ring even if it is worth a million dollars. It was the proper thing to do, congratulations. and if he "threw in the towel" after such a petty argument do you really want that kind of a woos for a husband? |
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la dee da
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give it back, keeping it is petty |
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ebsharer
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proper etiquette says that the woman always gives the ring back. The ONLY exception to that is if the ring was originally a family heirloom from her side.
I once read in dear abby that if she breaks if off she has to give it back and if he breaks it off she keeps it. |
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kim
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you keep it unless you break it off AND it wasn't a b-day/Christmas present |
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scott A
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you could have pawned it |
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♥Šωèé†Ãé♥
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You should've kept it but then again maybe you wouldn't want a token to remind you of him. |
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meriechen22
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if he calls the engagement off, why would you want to keep anything of him??? you did the right thing... |
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timliu51
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You could have kept it since he called it off, but if you didn't want to, then you did the right thing. |
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sexyexotik
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if it cost a lot i would of kept it and pond it if he didnt ask for it back lol |
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Sara C
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Depends. If you felt like with that ring you were keeping a connection with him that you didn't want then yes you should have given it back. Otherwise you should've sold that baby. |
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rodriguez m
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i would give it back to him. |
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luvlisteningtomusic
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If it was you to call it off then yes you should of gave back the ring. He was the one who called it off so you should of been able to keep it. Would you really want to keep something like that though? After the ring leaves the store the ring value is nothing. Everytime you look at that ring it will remind you of him. |
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rtgrc_deb
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if he called it off YOU keep the ring!!!! |
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Dood
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I agree with babeheart |
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sirmrmagic
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If this is really over than you did the right thing,this would be a reminder of the pain you are experiencing,you could have kept it to do what,sell it................ |
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Still Learning
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1st: If it was 2 months ago, why are you still going on about it? If he hasn't contacted you, to make amends, make peace, reconcile by now, he's probably not going to. Hypothetically, if he did, your sense of self-worth needs to dictate, based on the legitimacy of his reasoning, whether that would be healthy or productive for you.
2nd: Obviously, he wanted OUT. If someone breaks up with you, over something "petty," either: a)they were just looking for an excuse, because they found they really didin't like you, like they thought they did, or realized they had made a mistake in selecting you for a role that significant in their lives; b) the argument was, for them, 'the last straw,' in other things between you that had been irking them; or, c)what you called "petty" was meaningful to them, & your values didn't match. We have to learn to be gentle with each other, it's easy, if something doesn't matter to us, to be coldly, even cruelly insensitive to people we care dearly about.
3rd: The question you ask has become a legal one, time & time again. Infidelity on his part would make the ring yours, I believe, as long as you didn't somehow "cause" it, by your own, or some other reasons. Arguments are a dfferent matter &, it would depend on the Court (Judge &/or jury), and the day.
Engagement is usually serious. In the interest of making peace, you might want to contact him -write, calls & visits can seem confrontational, in a situation like that. Be brief, don't be accusatory, but I believe you're within your right to ask, "What happened?"
And, be open, don't be defensive about watever the response -other people have views, feelings & reactions as valid as our own, even if we don't share them.
Depending on what your exchanges have been in the past, he may not respond. You may be (even inadvertently), or come across, as someone who uses sensitive information as a weapon, or who goads people into arguments & he may no longer trust you.
Whatever the case, there is peace in knowing that you tried, and if you are sincere, and hold no ulterior motive, you should be able to heal & move on from there.
If you ever make any stuation in, or involving love a matter of win or lose, you will always lose, whatever the result. Remember that.
Good luck. |
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Lisa B
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You did the right thing. You were mature and now he can get a refund or pawn it off. Rings are a huge expense!
Lisa 35 married 1 yr lived in sin 4 yrs. |
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brokenmuffinz
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I wouldn't of gave it back. He is the one that called it off. Now, if you called it off..then yes, you should give back the ring.
I was engaged and my ex called the engagement off. I made the mistake of laying my ring down on the stand next to me and he took it. |
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BabeHeart
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You weren't obligated to return it...but since you did, let it go and move on. |
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harryt62
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Forget what everyone before told you. The engagement ring is to be returned to the man no matter what the reason that the engagement ended. That is not just etiquette, it is the law in almost every state. You could be sued if you don't return it, and if you pawn it or sell it you will have to pay the full value of the ring. |
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Steph P
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Why would you want to keep it? Really you're not going to wear it anymore. You did the right thing in giving it back. In doing that you let him know you were done and not going back. |
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Rissa
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no way do you keep it. it's just bad manners. |
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Ali
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NO you don't keep it if it's off...you shouldn't want to keep it if it is off unless you're a gold digger |
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countryguyhfc
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I agree with Nice Lady, why would you want to keep it?
Just to sell it for the money, well I guess if you are nothing but a gold digger. |
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cooter726
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Over, done, move on.!!!!! |
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gust f
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if u guys are still in a fight then just leave it , there is nothing to do exept just give it some time, if ur back and stopped fighting then just tell him that you want to be with him again |
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