Do you have a MIL that just can't seem to cut the umbilical cord from your guy?

Jess

YES! My husbands mother is so controlling and just down right mean! She tries to control every thing we do including checking our credit report. I finally put an end to her controlling behavior by telling her our life is none of her business. Now she is just mean.When we announced our engagement, she replied "What, are you pregnant?". When our first child was born, she came to the hospital room and while my husband was out, she said that our baby didn't look anything like my husband. She said "All of my kids, you could tell who their daddy was". Then when my husband came into the room, she told him how pretty our baby was and that everybody at her work had her picture on their screen saver. I finally went off on her not too long ago and I told her that if it's war she wants than fine, but I guarantee I will win! Now my husband wants nothing to do with her.

Been There~Done That!

Mother-n-laws come ready made dear.

Daughter-in-laws learn to accept that which they can not change, change what they can and forgive when they need to. They learn to not hold grudges and not hold things in that will make them blow up one day.

Julie H

Nothing funny about this one. If you are married to a "Mama's Boy" make sure you DO NOT have any kids with him. What will happen is that he and Mama will take over and you will be out. Mama tells him now what to do and how to do it. You have no say in anything and will have even less say in a baby. If you can't get him to grow up, your best avenue is divorce. Let his Mama have him. She will always win anyway. You would just shutter if you knew everything he told her.

kbeth1969

being a mamas boy is ok if he puts you first but is there for his mom at the same time

MissingInAction

You are a dizzy girl

well since you asked.

YES
She after 52 years, still hasn't made him grow up. That is why we are divorcing...A.S.A.P

I love cooking!

You see when I hear something like this it's strange because I believe that wasn't the problem with my husbands mom. When I dated my husband she had nothing nice to say about her son when we were alone talking. She started with the jealous crazy behavior early in our relationship and we would talk to her about it, or ask her what was wrong. She would deny anything was wrong. Her behavior became violent and she tried to hit my husband over the head with a lysol can and then told my mom he tried to hit her. Of-course I was standing there watching the whole thing so I know that was a lie. She never changed and we had no choice but to cut her out of our life. And we DID give her many chances to straighten up! I don't know what was wrong with that crazy woman but I know it wasn't all about losing her son to me. If that was the case then she would've treated him nicer. Instead she turned into this jealous deranged woman. Glad to have her out of our life. And she will never know our children because I wouldn't EVER trust her around them!!

i8pikachu

You did not marry a man. You married a boy. This was your decision when you married him. After all, you say your "guy's mom is cool", so live with it.

I used to cry and stress all the time over my MIL. She would interfere so much and was constantly criticizing me. She would surprise me with "gifts" usually new clothes that were too small and when I would tell her that she she would just smile and say" well someday you may lose that extra weight"-I'm a size 4! She always made comments about how I should do things and was always trying to push her ideas. She would just stop by unannounced all the time too and it drove me mad! I finally snapped and told my husband how I felt so he talked to her and now we only see her for a little while at a time and no more "gifts" for me. Her behavior still gets to me on occasion but now I give my husband "the look" and it's time to go:)
I highly suggest you putting her in her place early in your relationship, if I had spoken up sooner it wouldn't have gotten so bad. They start out being ok but look out-a few months in and your MIL will try to run everything about your lives together!

kja63

No, but then I would have never married a Mama's boy to begin with. If you choose to marry one, then you must do so knowing that you will never be first on junior's list of priorities.

weaver268

If it's not cut, it takes time, I think from 10 to 20

cottonlily84

You don't always know they are mama's boys. Mine had this childhood reversion. The stress of working and being married and basically the real world just made him stop and evert to being a high school kid. He wanted to just play all day and go hang out at his parents' house. He had a more independent spirit living at home with his parents than he did after 3-4 years of marriage. He's come around - thank god it was just a phase - but you never know what they'll do in every situation. You can't plan for the unexpected.

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