Do you sometimes just know somethings isn't right?

sbeaz

Don't say anything to him. Act as normal & try to work everything out. Be persistant as far as asking him what is going on. Find out if he has someone else. You should be able to do that when he comes back. Lots of technics for this (check his cell phone, look in his personal area for anythign, etc, etc)

In the mean time. Prepare your body & mind that this thing is over. Spend two days eliminating thoughts of him in your head. When it happens, think of something else, someone else you like, even if it isn't a partner you would like. This is good practice in case something happens.

Also depending on what your situation is, look into renting an apartment & what not, whatever the situation may require.

I know its hard to do this & act like nothing is up to him. But I think you should do it.

the_memory_of_ashes

I think that before you jump into any conclusions, that you should talk about it. Sometimes, the passion in a relationship wanes when people have gotten so used to each other. I think you should ask him: a) if he feels the same way about you, and b) if he still wants to push through your plans of getting married, and c) what you can both do to make things better.

Sometimes, your instincts will point you to a certain problem, but there's no use pondering on it, unless you confront it, and ask the person involved. Worst case scenario is that he's not willing to work on this relationship any further, and neither do you...and if that's the case, you should prepare yourself, gather all your strengths and be able to move on.

Good luck!

angelchick

i suggest you separate from him there may be a reason that he is not with you like maybe someone else. im not sure but maybe you should find out. it could be possible. i you really love him then find out if he is seperate and you will be heart broken but you willl just have to move on

Jamie C

i would feel the same way you do...like something is a little off.

it sounds like you have already tried discussing this with him. sometimes as relationships go on for a period of time, they change. he probably still is deeply in love with you, but it is possibly a different kind of love than before. i know i am not explaining what i really want to say very well and i apologize. sometimes love changes from that passionate, crazy, intense love to more of a secure, caring, compassionate love...your partner still loves you just the same and just as much, but in a slightly different way.

i dunno if i make any sense or not...sorry if i do not!

-*{P}rincess;;<33__

find someone else tell him it just isnt working out

ETxYellowRose

Give the guy the benefit of the doubt.

Maybe he is just working alot and is stressed out with his job. Sounds like it takes him out of town alot and for long periods of time.
If he works out of state, town or country then he just cant come home because you want him to.

Wait till he comes home and then have a heart to heart talk with him. Ask him all your questions and make your assessments while looking him in the eye and reading his body language.

You may be stressing over nothing. Only time will tell when he comes home and you two are face to face.

I luv my kids

I have somewhat the same situation going on. My husband is never here. He doesn't come home for hours at a time. We don't know where he is. When he does come home it's to see if he got any mail, change his clothes then leave again. He says he is an adult and does not need to explain his where abouts. Oh, we have been married 38 years. I am preparing to leave. And that has been long overdue. Best of luck to you

devanarestylez

a guy likes attention just as a female does, i suggest try to be the seducing type and make him more interested. in other words "spice it up" u need to get the fire burning again, to make it just like it was before.

AFTER 7 YEARS IT WILL NEVER GET TO BE THE SAME AS IT WAS BEFORE. TIME IS THE ONLY HEALER AND IF THIS TIME APART HAS DONE MORE TO YOU THAN HEAL...THEN FOLLOW YOUR HEART! THE HEART IS THE ONLY TRUTH TELLER IN EACH OF US. DON'T LISTEN TO ME, OR ANYONE ELSE GIVING YOU ADVISE!!! ONLY TRUST WHAT YOUR HEART IS TELLING YOU TO DO...I PROMISE...IT NEVER LIES!!! GOOD LUCK!!!

Severina

it sounds like you know something is really not right. I would be honest with him and let him know that if you both really want to stay together it's going to require re-connecting with each other and a renewed committment.

Words only mean so much - if he is serious about the relationship then it needs to be a priorty to him. If he hasn't made it (and can afford it financially) to see you in 7 months or encouraged you to come and visit something is seriously wrong. :-(

Good luck to you...

BOO

do what your heart tells you

adobeprincess

Trust your instincts you are correct. Delay any wedding and see how he is when you are back together. If you think that you might be right. Can you see him in person to judge the situation? That might help. It is hard to tell at a distance. Heck I cannot understand my boyfriend and he lives here.

divacobian

May be he has some one else, you need to get ready to whatever will happens in this relationship. We, women, we have a 6th sense, use it doll! Don't stay at home just thinking one day he will come back! Face the situation with him, ask him what is going on, if he has other woman is because he really doesn't love you anymore.

Move on Lady, there are a lot of good guys out there. Find some one else who really cares about you.

Good Luck.

I see you

Work on your career so you won't be left in the dust.

Iteachdailey4u

seven years...You need to run..he is off cheating...he is not interested in a relationship with you, he is interested in having you available whenever he has nothing else going on in his life.

Maura~~

Well he loves you but may be he is upset with something....
try not to think of your heitus but concentrate on him and his work and ask him about his daily stress and about work.....
just dont be down and understand him................
in worse case he can be in love/ in affair with some one else.....

Proud to be an AMERICAN

Trust your instincts. Sounds to me like something is amiss, and you know it.

I'm not optimistic, but you may want to ask him again - in some kind of formal setting. Ask to see him, or ask to come visit. That might make things worse, but it could give you certain knowledge and closure.

Or you may just want to move on. If there are this many troubles before the marriage, I'm not sure it would work.

Good luck.

helixburger

He needs to take your concerns seriously, or you are competing with a job, which you can't win, or another woman, which means it is over.
Get support and counselling, and don't put it off.

dvt93

he must be very busy but in a way i must agree. i have seen some very busy men but i think hes cheating on u...use your female instincts. cant u tell?

Noobsmoke

Get some 1 to spy on him when he come back take him to see a docter

to see if he got something like STD or something like that GL

Nefertiti

If he can't see that you're in a relationship crisis now, then he's not as engaged in it as you are. Unless you're being unreasonably selfish & demanding, it sounds as though you are not a priority in his life--regardless of his work schedule.

How hard would it be for him to manage a quick weekend home once in a while?

angelina_mcardle

well from what you described this situation can be one of two things,your fiance can be doing alot of over time to be able to afford a good life for you both men are macho they want to bring home the bacon (at least the good ones do).or if you have a feeling in youre gut that hes up to no good mabey hes up to no good.but be careful you may just be feeling in secure because you miss him so much because hes so far.why not try to arrange a visit to where he is if he objects depending on his reason for it then you will know.i hope sincerlly that its just a buisness trip but if it isnt dont forget that forgivness is important to healing.

Maybe he just has a lot on his mind. Sounds like he is a really busy person. Stop bothering him about it and wait until he comes back in October. There is no use bugging him while you cannot talk face to face. If things aren't different when he is back with you then just let him know once and for all how you feel. If he loves you, then he will try to make things work, and you need to try also. Don't keep reminding him or making a big deal out of everything he doesn't do for you. Appreciate what he does do for you and thank him for all the small things. If he doesn't make a sincere effort though, you may need to see a marriage counselor because it would seem that neither of you are satisfied with the relationship. After all it is called a "seven-year itch" and you have reached that point.

audri

ask him if you can go visit him and maybe sty over there a few months or so if he doesn't want you to then maybe there is something going on. Try to find out how he feels and if he doesn't try to be a part of the relationship then brake it off. There are plenty of fish in the sea

fireball226

Give him some time. He sounds overwhelmed with work. He is SAYING he does love you. Believe him and try to make the weekend special. Talk talk talk and do thing togehter on the wkend. Good luck. Oh he is travelling I just realized that. Well talk by phone alot then.

greenbaypackers1920

if you want your husband every day home after work, loving, caring, make love to you, stuff like that now it been 7 months since not see and I think you should find someone.

If he in love with you sooo much why didn't he find better job to be home more to be with you? I remember told my wife how much I love her so much and I would do anything to find job and be home 5 pm every night and off weekend. and That how much deeply much in love with my wife. I don't think he understand what going on.... So I think you should dump him riht now and find a guy who at home ever night and not gone 7 months or more not tell you anything anymore like before.

I am a male and I am glad that I choose to be with my wife and job. If I have any woman that want me to move closer to other state then I would do it. that how much I do with my wife. and I am better than him. and If you married him right now you will never ever be happy and never know if he cheating on you how can you not know if he doing it or not?

That going to be hard on you so much. Pls take my advice end it and tell him want to be friend and if he ever have a different job where he can be home very night showing that he truly loves me and eh would do that for me. Like I said That how I did with my wife and glad I did made that choice and she did the samething and we truly in love and now it been 9 years of marriage. so think twice befor you do something.

dawnita0322

7years is a while to be in a relationship,there's bound to be some chemistry lost,and work is over whelming him it seems,when he does come home have some things prepared for the 2 of u.....spice things up....start conversating more,let him know how u feel.....im sure he does love u.....and men are so bad about picking up how a woman is feeling!

Tamborine

Follow your heart. If your heart is suggesting something is wrong - try to resolve the issue before you get married. It is better to fix this now then to wait until after marriage and have regrets.

Long distance relationships (which is what his work travel has created) put a lot of strain on any relationship. This could simply be a symptom of the distance.

If you are able to work out these issues now you will have a very healthy and successful marriage ahead of you. If you and your fiancee are unable to work it out - it is better to deal with that now than later.

Counseling is an option. Another is to talk to him, tell him how you feel and see if you can reach a compromise. You also have to be willing to listen to him and try to compromise with what he wants too.

Good luck. I hope you are able to either work this out and stregnthen your relationship or make decisions to avoid more problems in the future.

Either way - trust what you are feeling because obviously something is wrong - even if its as simple as you aren't getting what you need out of this relationship.

Marci G

When their behavior changes like that it is usually because they are cheating. I'm sorry, but I think you should consider that. If you feel something isn't right, you are probably right.

TheOracleAtDelphi

Listen to your heart.
When he's calling for you, listen to your heart.
There's nothing else you can do.

I don't know where you're going, and I don't know why.
But listen to your heart, before you tell him goodbye.

--Roxette.

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