Do you tell your spouse that you cheated or spare there feelings.?

Lonely_Girl

keep your mouth shut, telling will only make you feel better and him feel worse. Ignorance is bliss;}

D Cep

mistakes happen... some bigger then others... this is a bigger one... marriage is a big commitment, maybe you can work aroudn this, and maybe you should tell him. If it was a mistake maybe he will udnerstand, i am not sure. I probably wouldnt, but thats the consquences of our mistakes.

zgirl111894

tell him/her that u cheated so u don't have to deal wit all the preasure and crap

Oracle

Unless you think there is the slightest chance that your hubby will find out, I would just keep it to myself and make sure that lover boy also knows that it was just a one time thing. Once your husband finds out it will take him a long long long long long long loooooooooonnnnnnnnggg time to trust you again. Spare both yourselves the pain and just keep a lid on it.

P.S. And make sure it never happens again :)

lemur_monk

Its 10 minutes vs. 5 *365 *24*60 = 2628000 minutes .
Its a blip.
Don't tell or it may all be over.
Do tell God.

lilgermanpretzal

if u are never going to do it again, and you really love this guy, i dont think you should tell him. i dont agree with keeping secrets, but if you really are sorry, i think you should spare his feelings.

Kyle_26

tell

peachmonk

First of all not telling your husband does not mean sparing his feelings... most likely he will find out someday from someone which will hurt him even more than had you told him. If I were you I would tell him, being married means being honest and owning up to each other no matter what. If he made a "big one hour mistake" wouldn't you rather know about it rather than have your husband lie to you?

clippy

yes, you have to tell him. You made the choice to cheat so you have to face the result. At least you'll know you were honest with him.

NightAngel101

sometimes these things ruin a marriage. Only you know him and should know what to do. My husband would kick me out the door and file for a divorce!!!

Nicole

Tell your husband that you cheated on him. He needs to hear it from you and not the other man.. TELL HIM

shehawke

I can't WAIT to see you guys on Jerry Springer.

poohntao

Well if you enjoy living a lie, then keep it buried. I would not recommend it though as it will eat you alive. I watched my ex wife go through it while she tried to hide her fling last summer. Plus, only scumbags harbor lies of that caliber.

KissMyAss

I think its better off If you say nothing. It might break up the marriage. Trust issues will arise. Its totally up to you though. If it's a mistake keep it to yourself. Who knows what he has in the closet

fly_your_flag_high

NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO...

No, you don't. No. Mistakes happen. No. That would kill your marriage. No. It is natural to have that happen. No. No. No. No. No. No. No. No. No. No. No. No. No. No. No.

CheerChic1022

A marriage is when u dedicate most of ur life 2 ur spouse. It's about TRUST, love, and commitment. He will be hurt becuz u have broken the trust between u 2. U should tell him and apoligize but don't think that he will 4 give u. U have 2 prove that u won't do it again. Thats hard prove.

Happy

Anybody can make a mistake and if you want to save your marriage don't tell him unless you want to be with the one you cheated with.

nemraC

OMG never NEVER never tell!!!!!!!! r u cwwwwwaaaazy?

If you tell your spouse, it could destroy your marriage. On the other hand you may be able to save it, even after having an affair.

If you don't tell and your spouse finds out, it will probably be worse. Because then, not only did you have an affair, you covered it up and lied.

That is a really big problem. If it were my problem, I would tell, and face the consequences.

Good Luck, you need it.

jt0915

What he does not know will never hurt him, unless you are worried about him finding out, I would keep quiet.

it's best to tell because one day he's sure to find out and he'll be even more hurt that u didn't tell him in the first place......and if u did, he knows that u trust him and there is a huge chance that he'll forgive u. to start the conversation say that u cheated on him and tell him why,when,how and all that he needs to know so that there is not so much questions from him.....then tell him that u've stopped(u have stopped right?) and that it was a huge mistake and that u'll do anything to repay him.....then ask him how he feels 'bout it

krislh79

As hard as it will be...tell him.

scottie2h2004

Don't tell him. You made the mistake, you live with it. Don't make him suffer because of what you did. It would kill me to hear that from my wife.

sweetgurllexi

tell him, you have to be fair with him, would you want him to hide something like this from you. And if your 5 year marriage has really been great you wouldn't have been tempted with your one hour mistake. You owe it to your husband to fess up and let him decide if you are worth him keeping around.

zether

yea, tell him, why not, you already done the deed

KaizerSose

Personally If I was your man I would want to hear it.
Are you sorry about what you have done?..Will it happen again..do you really love me? If so why did you cheat on me?...These are a few of the first questions that will undoubtedly run through his mind...so be prepared for hell to be raised and for him not to understand..
Why have you still waited to tell him this?

Feminine odor & itch got u down?

you should tell your spouse because if you think you are spareing their feelings you are not, it will hurt them knowing that you kept a secret like this for so long especially after they will think that things were going great! But when you tell him tell him in a way that won't be hurtfull to him and explain why you did what you did, it is not easy to do that but if you really care for that person you will be a bigger person and tell them and then after you tell them you should ask for their forgivness and make an honest vow to them that you will never to that to them again! Good Luck!

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