Do you think I'll get my point across to my husband....?

ah-ight

no. you have to tell him yes, you will do it...and THEN don't do it, just like he does.

etcetera86

Instead of being passive aggressive, say, "Sure honey, and while I do that, I trust you will take care of the leaky faucet." Set up a weekly chore time for the both of you to get stuff done around teh house together, turn on some music and get busy- when you are done reward yourselves with a romantic bubble bath in the now fixed and clean tub.

I'm pretty sure that a bill from the plumber would get his attention...

Or perhaps sometime when your husband is focused on his monitor, you should have a buff, young neighbor guy come over with his handy wrench!

Either of these solutions will solve both of your problems.

Rebecca W

No, he won't get the point. But it will start a bunch of nasty little arguments. TALK to him.

Joe S

More than likely, it'll just escalate the fight. Not knowing your husband, it's hard to say what will change him. Changing *any* person is a challenge. A few have the ability to humble down and see their errors even during confrontation, but most will dig in their heels when confronted antagonistically.

I subscribe to the drop of honey over a gallon of gall philosophy. If you want to change a person, great! But there is an art to it. What you are suggesting is just looking for a fight.

I suggest reading "How to Win Friend & Influence People" [1]. This book was written almost eighty years ago but its principles endure. You can help your husband to change. Even with skill, it can be a slow, difficult process. But if you learn the right approach, you can do it with less stress and more chance for success.

Good luck!

Mrs.H

dumb.

Sandy Ego

Probably not. But you certainly don't owe it to him to be his servant. Nothing wrong with saying no.

SandwichGeneration

I ask my husband to help with repairs or chores; I'll remind him once, after that, if he hasn't gotten around to the 'honey do' list then I have two solutions that I've tried and have worked:

1) Wait until he is home and start to do the repair myself. It's obvious that I am not adept at this; but I try. Most often, he'll jump in and take over. If not, I either finish it myself or I go to solution number 2...

2) Call a handyman, plumber or appropriate repair person. Paying someone to get things done works for me. If my husband can not or does not do the little repairs around the house then we spend the money to get it done by someone else. If your husband has money for hunting dogs, then you have money to keep the house in good repair.

There is no way I'd wait for a year to get dripping faucets fixed. My husband has gotten good at either fixing things or telling me to call someone to do it.

E&L

Unless he is a plumber, don't ask him to do anything that is not his given profession. Call out a handyman or a pro a leave a copy of the bill on the counter. If he see's how much these little chores cost him in the long run he may not put them off if you will call in the pros to handle something he can easily fix.

mrs_G

I say, "you won't know unless you try".
Go for it!

Marcus

"Do you think he'll get the hint if..."

No

He will not get any hint. If you want him to understand something, you will need to spell it out for him. If you want him to fix the sink, and he says he will do it, he believes he is telling you the truth. If you want the sink fixed by the end of the month, you need to give him clear deadlines. Otherwise, these are all things that he is going to do, just not right away.

Ms. GTO

Sometimes you have to give as good as you get.
When the time for talking has passed, it's time for action. Your act may not get him off his @ss, but it may make him think how lazy and immature he's being.

Lifeline

men are territorial so tell him you are going to hire a local handyman to do the jobs he can't do, that should shake him up

Maea

Start fixing the things your self or hire someone else to do it that might make him feel a little worthless.

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no. you have to tell him yes, you will do it...and THEN don't do it, just like he does.

just like what the first person said!

Jenny Li

I agree with E&L... if it doesn't concern him, then he won't bother.

hmmmmmm

Be the bigger person. Do the things you know you should be responsible for, and if he asks you to do something for him, you should do it because you're his wife and you love him. If there are things he doesn't accomplish that you have asked of him, google it and do it yourself. Once you start doing things you normally wouldn't you'll feel so empowered! And, when you brag to family & friends about all the things you're proud that you've done, they're gonna high-five you and possibly make little jokes about you being so self-sufficient - which in turn will either bother your hubby that he hasn't held up his end of the deal, or won't bother him at all. At which point you should probably re-evaluate some things... Hope this helps!

rainbow butterfly

Stop talking and start doing. These men need to b hit with it, every so often. Either he starts to get things done, or you do nothing for his ***.

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