Do you think a newly married couple should wait at least three years before having a baby?

"Arkie Mom"

I think that any couple should consider whether they should have children at all. I have three of the critters, two of them grown and it was the single hardest thing to do. I do believe that I would not have been married for 22 years if it weren't for them. I am glad NOW that it is almost done that I had them so young.

Magic 8 Ball (Call me BILF)

Yes. I absolutely do. We waited five and it was the perfect amount of time for us. I am glad we had so much time together alone before we had our son. We dated for five and were married for five, and were very well established in our marriage by the time our Baby 8 Ball came.

Miss BHave

Not necessarily 3 years; whatever is comfortable for you both. I think though that a couple should be married and build on their new marriage alone before adding to it. You need time to be alone and adjust and have some of your last "hurrahs" before becoming a family unit. Dont rush into kids and enjoy being married. When the time is right, you will both know.

J.J.

I don't think it has to do with marriage but age. Most people in their 20's act like teenager still and most people don't start being responsible like an adult until they are in their 30's.

I have kids and when I look back.. I think i should of waited until I was in my 30's because am just now starting to have an idea of who I am, what i want to do in life and so on.

You should have a certain understanding of life, the world, and yourself before bringing another person into this world.

Just my opinion!

autumn

I'd say that's completely up to them; although, for the majority of newly married couples, it would probably be a good idea to wait at least a year. It really depends on their ages (a lot of people wed later now and have a limited number of years to start a family), and whether they are financially, and otherwise, ready for children to be added to the equation. A lot of couples don't give enough thought to what it means to have a baby beforehand. Some people really need parenting classes.

blueberry

i did and i'm happy with my decision

missmojo78

Depends, how old are they? How long have they been together?

Michael T

No, I'm not into controlling peoples lives. They should do what they want.

candymom419

Yes, I do. I can understand how couples want to start a family. But, if they only knew how much fun they could have with each other if they just wait.

xoxo

Ive been married a year ..we are waiting 5 more years.. We want to enjoy our marriage... and be established, financially and we want to just prepare ourselves to raise a child.

Laura

Very much depends on their ages and how long they dated before they got married.

If they are both in their early/mid twenties (of younger) and dated 2 years or less before they got married....yes they should definitely wait three years.

If they are both in their early/mid thirties (or older) and dated at least 3 years (and lived together at least one year) before they got married they might not want to wait at all. A woman's chance for a successful pregnancy with no complications starts going down dramatically all through her 30s.

cassandras_evil_sister2

I WAS MARRIED 2 WEEKS BEFORE THE TWINS WERE BORN!! DOES THIS MEAN U WONT RESPECT ME IN THE MORNING???? ;)

sorry for yelling, forgot i had caps lock on.

Debbie B

Three or maybe a little more. I think they should give themselves time together as a married couple and enjoy it. There is so much to learn about marriage let alone adapt to ... It's a whole different ball game once kids come into play.

windmill ever

Being the child of a broken home. ...... Yes. lol.

I think it would be better to wait a few years than not to wait at least. Thats something you really shouldnt rush into.

angelicamariemedina

of course there is never wrong or right time to have kids, but i think that is a decent amount of time. we waited 2 1/2 years and together a year before that. you should maintain yourselves as a couple first.

Anne

I think that's a pretty good rule of thumb, that's what we're planning on doing but there are always other factors.

- Biology: Is there a physical reason that its better to start sooner? I had a couple friends who started trying to get pregnant immediately after they got married because they were getting too old to have children or had other physical problems where their doctors essentially told them now or never.
- Finances: Do you have the resources to support a baby?

Otherwise, I think its good to have that time to yourselve to get your marriage strong before you throw in the life-changer that is children.

Singingsweetie

well it is up to them. Personally I would like to wait a year or two. Just to give me time to be with my husband and enjoy him without worrying about adding babies to the mix too. Plus, it would give us a chance to settle in and find out how marriage life really is. Especially with finances. Money is the number one reason for divorce in today's society. If it absolutely isn't going to work between him and I, then it would be easier to get a divorce without forcing children to be involved as well.

First NameJILL

Yes, Absolutely the longer the better.

Smarty Pants

Do whatever feels right for you and your spouse. My husband and I knew we wanted to have children and were pregnant 3 months after we were married. It worked out just fine for us.

â™¥SEVENâ™¥

I think that is entirely up to the couple.

â˜… LILF - best viewed sideways â˜…

I agree with JJ - perhaps age is a better determination - but then again maybe not. My husband is in his late 30's and still isn't mature enough. Anyhow, my hubs and I waited 2 years, which was fine...it wasn't until baby number 2 came that we started having problems. There's SO much more dynamic when you have more than one child.

happywjc

YES, we didn't, and of to war I went!!
came home to our new son, and she got preg shortly there after!
Marriage failed, I loved her, but it takes 2
I got my kids, that was a lot of years ago!

People should give themselves time to "unite" as 1, rather than
trying to do it thru child birth!

Redhead Mom

I really dont think its anybody's business in how long they should wait.

If they want to have a baby right away that's their choice and their right.

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