Do you think a woman would make a good wife if she refused to take her husband's last name?

q la paz prevalezca

I think she would make a fantastic wife if she refused to take his last name! It shows that she is strong and independent, and that she is prepared to take care of herself in case something should happen to her husband.

I think submission is a horrible quality in a mate. A marriage is a team effort.

Lexxie A

I think her name has nothing to do with it.

IMO

Yes...her name doesn't have anything to do with what kind of wife she will be.

Sweet Lipz

yes, being a good wife has nothing to do with husbands name

-heather-

yea maybe she just wants to be herself

oh and as a christian the bible never said directly you must take the name of your husband or you will be a bad wife

so heck yea power to the women

Some Girl

I really did not want to take my husband's last name. It seemed like a hassle and I liked my name better than his. I'm not a traditional person and never thought I would get married. Ever. So for me, agreeing to get married was a huge demonstration of my love for him. Changing my name was another act of love. I knew it was important to him. He is very traditional.

I have been married for almost three years now. I have come to realize that marriage relies heavily on these small acts of love. In a marriage you have to be willing to not have things your way all the time. Sometimes you have to do what the other person wants, just because you love them and want to make them happy.

My point is, think about what it means to her to not change her name. Also think about what it means to you. It is definitely more and more common for a woman to keep her name. If it is clearly more important to her to keep her name, let it go. If it is something that really will bother you, speak up.

But yes to your question. I think she would still make a good wife.

astralpen

It should have nothing to do with it.

hiiperchickx33

Of course! What will make her a good wife depends on wether or not the loves you and the things like that. Just because you don't have the same last name doesn't make her a bad wife. I'm sure she has her reasons... just ask her why.

Good Luck &+ Happy Holidays!

Sour

Her taking your last name doesn't have anything to do with how good a wife she'll be.

dizondr

i would be so honored and would love if my future wife would take on my last name. but i won't be hurt if she doesn't. taking on or not taking his last name doesn't make a good or bad wife.

Not you :)

im planning on keeping my last name as i am proud of my family name.
:)

dhughesecho

Seems to me that a girl's name has NOTHING to do with whether or not she would make a good wife.....

kim h

You cannot judge what kind of wife she will be by this. Why does she not want to take your last name? Regardless of what her name is she will still be a marreid woman.

SMarie

Of course. I am married but I chose to keep my last name because I am the last person in my family that has the name. If I changed my name, there would be no more of us. I chose to honor my family name and keep it. I'm still undecided on what I will do when my child is born, but I would like to give it to her to carry it on.

Red Letter

Her name has nothing to do with her ability to be a good wife. It's just a word on a piece of paper.

Susan C

sure...

strider22x

sure.

iotadelta@ymail.com

I don't think that one bit of information is enough to decide if someone would make a good wife on. It really depends if it's part of a pattern of her not wanting to surrender some of her identity in order to be part of the forming union or not.

But just because someone doesn't want to follow tradition doesn't mean they'll be a poor partner.

dragon_fly_in_sweet_amber

Does changing her name mean she WILL be a good wife? Like suddenly having her husband's last name means she won't cheat, and she'll do the dishes? That's really quite silly.

skyler J

she can still have her last name and be a good wife taking the mans last name doesnt mean anything sooo

friskie

Why would you not want to take his last name? that is the question.Some women keep there maiden names only because of taxes or property involved with an x..other than that.there is no reason to keep your maiden name..unless you do not think it will work out and do not want to go through all the problems and expense of getting rid of his last name and returning to your maiden name.A name is only a name..it will not make you a bad person or a good one.but it will make you...You!

Jessie

i still think she would because she just might really feel strongly that she should not have to change her name if she got married and it is only one thing that she has disagreed right if not then maybe you should see if it is going to work out

Ms. Informed

that's common in my field of work. many women these days create good professional reputations for themselves prior to marriage. a surname change could potentially erase that history.

honestly, it's just a tradition that shouldn't hold much influence on whether or not person will make a good spouse...there are other qualities that are more indicative of "being a good wife": communication skills, financial planning skills, etc.

Aaron in the Tarheel State

No way.
She doesn't deserve to get married in that case.

Secha

I don't believe that accepting or rejecting your husband's last name has anything to do with how good or bad of a wife you will or will not be. It depends on the person - not on their name. Many women don't take their husbands last names, or they hyphenate their last name. It doesn't make them a bad or great wife.

"Whatâ€™s in a name? that which we call a rose
By any other name would smell as sweet" Romeo and Juliet

Chrys

I didn't take my husband name and I've been married to him for over 30 yrs...if she doesn't like your name or wants to use it, it doesn't make a difference, she's still the same person who loves you.

mandi*

I see where you're going with this... but it would depend on the husband, and what his expectations are.

A woman who wants to keep her last name may decide to do so for a number of reasons. If she's doing it for feminist reasons, then she could still make a good wife, but the husband has to understand who she is. If you want a wife who is traditional and perhaps submissive, then maybe you're looking in the wrong place.

Other women keep their current surnames because that's the last name her kids have or because she's the last female with that name in her family, and she doesn't want to be a dead line. It really depends on WHY the woman doesn't want to take your name... but I know a few women who haven't taken their husbands' names for one reason or another, and they couldn't be more devoted wives!!

**Personally, I can't wait to get married so I can take my husband's last name!! I have waited my whole life for a last name that people can pronounce!! :) **

Jackanater

No, Suppose he has a funny last name.

Josline

I think it shows she is confident in herself. Not taking someones name doesn't say that someone is going to be a bad spouse.

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