Do you think failing to pay child support for years is a form of neglect?

1sflady

In my opinion failing to pay the ordered child support is a form of neglect. I say that because if the parent with custody is unable to provide all the necessary things such as a safe clean place to live, food, clothing, school supplies, and any necessary medical care without the support, the child and parent suffer.
I had four children I supported w/o the ordered financial support and believe me, my children never went without any of the above but I saw mothers and children who didn't have those things. I even at times was able to make a casserole large enough to feed an extra two mouths. But not often because most times the casseroles needed to go for two nights.

teasab75

To be perfectly honest the people I know that haven't been able to finanacially pay their child support and live themselves still love their child and still try to be the best parents that they can be so no I don't agree with you unless the parent just doesn't try to be there for the child at all. Money isn't love!!!! Now it is possible to take their rights away if they are that bad of parents and do nothing with their child although from what I have seen myself in my life it is usually another person (spouse) that is helping to decide these things. as for having a child and not being able to support them yourself there is a goverment that is willing to help. Hud housing, foodstamps, all sorts of ways to help a person support a child they have in their custody.

vislalover21

Every man has a resposibility to go and find all the children they have fathered and take care of them if they know they exist.

tinkerbell

Sorry to tell you this buddy, but in a way it is... not so much that you don't care for your child but society is cruel and yea they will see it as some type of neglect. providing your child with money is not really what it needs.if you spend your free time to your kid i don't see a problem with it. now if you don't ... well that's is a different story.in this case failing to do so for many years. theirs a problem with whom ever parent is in child support .

Cindy Roo

Sounds like this child is being used as a pawn of some type and there is certainly more to this story. Anyone, and I do mean anyone, who fails to provide for any child is abusing that child and anyone who disregards paying child support is also abusing the child. The above makes me sick to my stomach to think that people use their children to try to control another adult. CHILDREN do not ask to be born!!!! The very least parents can do, is to love them and try to provide everything within their power regardless of what the other parent does or doesn't do.

Tacyella

if he is not paying intentionally then the courts will take it out of his paycheck. sounds like there is lot more to this story...

jdchick48

coming from an ex-wife who has not received court ordered child support in over 3 months,yes i do believe it is a form of neglect. he sees the children whenever he wants, i do not stop that as that is his right and the children want to see him. also i am working 40 plus hours a week to support my children and do some of the things he should do. i think you should just pay the child support, after all it is your child, is it not?

Shelly t

to be honest yes. But it does not come without precutions. If someone fails to pay child support. Any federal and state income tax return can be withheld, and it can be withheld from there paycheck without there permision. They can also loose there drivers lisence. On another note I think that The state's put to high a price on child support and many don't pay because there is not enough left in there check for them to even by food. Let alone pay the rent. Child support does need to be more reasonable.

Orv

You are conflating two seperate issues. Yes, failure to pay child support is a form of neglect. But denying a child interaction with a parent, even a neglectful parent would only double the damage to the child. One needs to make a distinction between neglect and abuse. Supervision should be required in all cases of physical or mental abuse. But neglecting a childs financial well being is not physical or mental abuse. Supervision of a visit costs money and if there is not physical danger to the child it would be a waste of the already overburdened financial resources of the courts.

The court's role is to protect the interests of the child and it is highly unlikely that a neglectful parent would be more likely to pay child support if he/she could not see the child. Indeed during those visits the parent most likely feeds the child, may even buy some clothing. While this does not rise to the equivalent of child support courts or former partner's tying visitation to child support are, in my opinion, abusing the child. The child needs both parents and so interaction with both parents should be encouraged. Other means to collect child support should be mandated but a child should be denied contact with a parent ONLY when that contact demonstrably endangers and hurts the child MORE THAN absence of contact.

william h

yes it is neglect, to the child. on both ends. can dad pay? does he work,in jail, or just a deadbeat. Can he watch this child to help with daycare expenses? is he a good role model for this child?you and he have a life time to work this out. love your child, they are going to need all the love thy can get.

james

yes, failing to pay child support is a form of neglect, and a criminal offence!the none paying parent should provide financial support!

Angeline

Monetary support and emotional support are two different things. While I feel it is absolutely shameful to not provide financially for your child or children, I do not believe it is appropriate to deprive the child or children of the emotional support of the noncustodial parent..These are definitely two separate issues..Not supporting your child or children in any way is considered neglect in my book.

workin_man66

sounds like neglect of the worst kind

boonoora

Hell yeah!!! I have to pay child support for one of my children and I dont even get to see him, but I still pay, I have no choice the government takes it from my taxes every year.

Hell Yeah!!!! If you want to see my child and can afford to pay me child support and aint doing it I would consider it neglect. i think the parents should come to an agreement and if need be the court should be involved...the money the court shaves off the top for being in court you can use to buy the kid something he or she needs more.

FabOlouS

yes

Raven

I would call it financial neglect but money should never be used to determine visitation. The child needs visitation.

Sparkles

That is why some states imprison deadbeat dads. It is a form of child neglect.

simplyme

ummmm yeah

luckford2004

You're answering your own question. According to what you have said the answer has to be yes.

gabby

yes

Lady Hewitt

Yes i do feel it is a form of neglect. It is financial neglect of a child and is wrong. You need to find a lawyer and make sure that they pay it.

ratpatrol25

yes it is and it is also against the law for someone not to pay support. that person helped bring that child into this world and should help support it. check with your local courts to see what can be done to collect support.

leona

You are perfectly right and i think all the dead beat mothers and fathers out there needs to read this.

yo watup

Well, if the money is not avaliable, it's not neglect. If it's on purpose and the other person doesn't have a lot of money and are depending on you, it's neglect.

Just a friend

Of course its neglet. Having a child is the biggest responsability a person can have and it its not one can just get out of.

sean

yes

mighty1981mouse

Yes I do. I make sure that all of my payments come out of every check. If the person is suppose to pay and everything has been set up through the Child Support Office after 6 months of non-payment they should actually do something to him or her. In Texas that means going to jail.

Debt Free!

spending time with the other parent is more important than money, but if you have the money to support your kid, you should pay it.

no one should have to pay to see their child. the money is another issue. he or she is wrong not to support the child if they have the money.

it is neglect though.

cute-dolly

if a parent is not paying support then they shouldnt be given the privalage of seeing the child

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