Do you think financially independent women put up with cheating?

i think self-esteem plays a bigger role than finances, but i can imagine a woman who is dependent on her husband for financial support would be more cautious above leaving the money source. i also believe that once you've had enough, you've had enough, no matter what the finances are, and that has to with self-esteem and self-respect.

IMHO

No. I think it plays a huge part. If my man cheated & I had enough money to live happily on my own, I'd be gone. If not, I'd probably stay because I wouldn't have anywhere else to go.

Washington_denizen

No. Although the generalizing of financially dependent women as being more prone to allow cheating, in particular, may irritate some who are in that catagory.

I believe that any person, man or woman, who is dependent on another person for their basic needs will tolerate a variety of indiscretions.

It's easy enough to sit cozy in our homes and say "Never put up with that!!" but if a person truly cannot leave and have some place to go other than a shelter, or have a vehicle to drive away in, or have any cash in their pocket to purchase food, they'll deal with a lot.

I don't think this means they are weak. I think they are strong in many respects. Dealing with hardships such as you suggested requires putting aside your sadness and anger...dealing with what is intollerable to anyone.

GEEGEE

Maybe not as much as financially dependent women, but self esteem issues come in all shapes and sizes, so there's a whole wide spectrum out there. Would likely also depend if young kids are present in the family- a whole other set of issues is thrown in the mix.

Sex&Candy

Not as often. A financially independent woman doesn't "need" a man as much as one who is dependent. If a man is paying her bills, she may feel that she is stuck with him.

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no i dont think so. if u watched maury lol you would see alot of women who keep their cheating husbands who dont work or provide with anything.

sugarplum3289

I think financially independent woman don't put up with cheating as much as financially dependent women do. Same with abuse from a spouse. A financially independent woman can just leave, and because she's financially independent, she can make it on her own. A financially dependent woman has nowhere else to go and can't make it on her own, so she stays and tolerates the cheating. Finances are everything.

Sue

I am a financially independent woman, and I DO NOT put up with cheating. I think that women that depend on a man to survive, will accept just about anything because a lot of them think that they can not make it on their own. This is such a myth. I was married for 16+ years before I got the nerve to get a divorce. My ex said I could never make it on my own. What a joke. I have a great job with great benefits, healthy children, a nice home and car, and pay my bills on time and still have a little left over for fun. He on the other hand is living in a dump of a house (less than half built), has no real job, never has any money, and rarely spends time with his kids. Tell me, who do you think is successful?!

Jules

No, I think that women in general put up with cheating and abuse because they are afraid of being alone. Unless we're talking Hilary Clinton who has a very good reason (i'm sure) for putting up with cheating!

Minustone

I wouldn't think so, it's not like they have to look the other way because they need the man to take care of them. it is actually a better reason to get rid of the looser, once a cheater always a cheater, so they say.

Steve B

Should anyone tolerate cheating?

Yummyâ™¥Mummy

Yes, b/c financially independent women still can have low self esteem.

Sahara

No. It has more to do with personality and sense of self.

Missy

I don't think finances have a whole lot to do with self esteem in the sense that some one would put up with infidelity, risk their health endure the emotional abuse, and totally defile themselves.

Darla

Absolutely NOT!

The Naughty Librarian

I think women who are financially dependent on their partners (especially if they have children) may put up with things they probably wouldn't otherwise, at least until they get on their own two feet.

ndnqt1966

I really don't think financially independent women put up with cheating as much as a financially dependent women do...women that depend upon their husband to be the sole bread winner will often think they are in a no way out situation when their partner cheats on them...and if they don't think they have a way out...they will stay in the relationship and "accept" it ....

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no, and no one should put up with cheating.

Gordito

no, finances play a huge part in power and authority

janettetsmith

Most everything is about the dollar. No, I don't think she'd put up with it. But then I know a lot of financially strapped women that won't put up with it either.

Geez Louise

I believe it boils down to personal values and for others money. If you are a stay at home Mom with no education or employment history...you might be more likely to look the other way or look for another guy. Financially independent....do you think she feels trapped? Unfortunately, finances always play a role with many situations.

Not here 2 make friends

absolutely. putting up with cheating has a lot to do with the womans self-esteem and feeling of self-worth. once you achieve that success in your business life, all thats left is success in your home life. you cant curl up in bed with money at night. you want ur relationships to work.

also women with money are looking for a certain caliber of man. one who is intelligent and charming and as successful (if not more) than she is, and once you get him, some women accept that "flaw" of sleeping with secretaries and clients.

i dont think putting up with cheating has as much to do with finances as it may seem.

Lauren E

usually the personin the relationship who makes less money is less likely to cheat.

jennifer_weisz

I think it plays a role, especially if they are without career. But it is proportionally so relevant to their age - the older, the more willing to endure the cheating - as they are financially dependent.

Although I have not encountered this problem (the best to my knowledge) I believe I would not put up with it - but I am aware that things are different once in their shoes, so I honestly can't say.

I will say this though. One time in college, this girl left my bf's place as I was walking up, and I thought he was with her; so the next day (he shaves his privates) I took his pubes and super-glued them to his face while he was sleeping! Turns out it she was with his roommate. The roommate proved it when he got back out of town by showing me the video of their performance! I guess I overreacted just a bit! ; ) We broke up not too long after that! I was really vicious back then but have tones down in my older years! If that happens with my husband....oooohhh.....not good for him or his gonads!

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Amanda Fay!

no one should put up with cheating if they cheat dump them

harold

It doesn't.

aggiesweetheart

I don't give a sh*t, if he's paying all the bills or if I am...once that trust is broken...I'm gone. I think everyone needs to learn to keep it in their pants!

david

Financially independent men shouldn't put up with it either! Men are not the only one's who cheat!!

Nikki

It doesn't matter if you have money or not. If a man is going to cheat, he will find a way no matter how secure you are financially or not.

Jessica C

Yes, although women that are financially dependent tend to put up with a cheating spouse more because they don't think they can work to support themselves, I also know many financially independent women who puts up with cheating. And I also know many financially dependent women who does NOT put up with cheating. It's all about emotional dependency. Women puts up with cheating because they don't think they can make it on their own, but that is just an emotional barrier.

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