Do you think is possible?

Julie S

Yes. But no one can change him but himself.

If he was physically abusive five or ten years ago, I would still be wary.

If he was physically abusive thirty years ago and has been in siutations since then where he could be, but hasnt... then I would understand that he has changed.

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no, i dont believe abusive men can change. thats why when he first hits u, u need to get out and runn as fast as u can.

if they say they are sorry, he WILL end up doing it again. and again and again.

its always best to try to stay away fron these type of men

barbrobin2000

Nope. I have been there and the lies "I wont do it again" only last until they find another thing that they want to control and cant. Move on with your life. No one deserves to be disrespected, ever. Its easy to say move on but hard to do, and before there are children in the picture, move on and find someone who loves you for who you are and doesn't lay their hands on you.Good luck

oneakmusic

no. it is best to get rid of the people who are harmful in life. Always remeber this: people are typical.

If he has done it before, he will do it again.

he may try to change, but it wont last long without proper therapy and/or medication.

its very rare that this kind of abuse is an isolated inscident.

junkman

Sure anybody can change, sometimes it takes GOD, therapy, or almost getting killed in a accident,,,

angelbearkiss

Anyone can change if they want to - so yes, they can but it will have to be something they really want to do and are committed to do because it will take alot of work on their part and possibly help from others - including counselors to find out what motivates the abuse.

kayla9825

doubt it....sorry.......wouldnt take the chance

Jabberwock

I think it's possible to change with help from others. But it's a long shot.

brandy G

I dont think so. When one in a relationship physically abuses the other, there is a total loss for respect.

Maybe if he gets some kind of Godly epiphany or professional help, but he won't change on his own.

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Maybe.. But you know the saying.. You can only change a man when he is a baby..

Mindy S

no

sorry but reality is that they dont change...the best way to change is for you to move on and live a happy unabusive life

good luck

louise23

Have u ever heard the saying u can take a man out the ghetto but cant take the ghetto out the man? Well, same thang. He could probaly change but he will still have that instinct in him and it can be a pattern so be careful.

brandi

No, they dont change! I'm not ashamed to speak up, my father was abusive. Never in my 25 years have I seen a change in him, not even an attempt to be a real man! At the age of 17 I had him arrested and they sent him to anger management, that didnt even help.
If your in that situation, get out. Do not spend the rest of your life in that hell. They will always say they feel sorry after the fact and it wont happen again but it will.

Raashmi

Very difficult for that to happen. Most men need professional help.
If you are considering him, forget it.

monkeymonkey143

with God, all things are possible.

sweetsarah

From experience....I tell you these people don't change. I have seen many abusive men in other relationships and they continue to abuse the other partner.

The thing is that men in this situation don't realize that they have a problem and that they need help. They see this behavior as normal. And it's not. I always encourage women to stay away from men who have been abusive in the past with their ex's.

We as women have to fight to make sure we raise our own sons not be abusive so like I said I see many cases of men like this and not yet have I see one.

Good luck

Bubbles

If in fact, he recognizes his problem and if he wants to change then yes it is possible to change. If he wants to change and he truly tries to make things right. He will have to seek professional help and it will take time and patience. If you are being abused, be very careful. If he is trying to get better, make sure he seeks professional help (perhaps you can go with him some). If he isn't trying, then please get out now before it is too late. Please remember, it is possible to change but only if he wants to change. It doesn't always happen like this. Best of luck.

im sure

I think it is possible, but not without God. He can change a heart of stone into one of flesh.

conny

Sweetie, NO!!! I was in a very abusive marriage which didn't last long. They tell you it will never happen again and he is always sorry. No Hun, as much as we want to believe that he will change he won't. My sister was in a abusive marriage for 16 years and she thought it was normal. He was into counseling and anger management. It helped for a short time but then he just ended up doing the same routine. It doesn't change. He was slowly killing her mentally, emotionally and physically. She was on 3 types of antidepressants. I thank God I got out of my marriage before the 6 months. I will NOT live with a abusive man.

Healing_Rain

My dad was a cop and he had a saying. Once an abuser always an abuser. Here's why. An abuser loses his or her temper. And plays the blame game. The fact is they are the ones at fault. It's there temper and very lack of respect for that person that causes them to continue in that path over and over. A cycle that often is carried on through the children. Sad but true.

k man

not ever

granola