Do you think it's okay to cheat on your husband if u found out...?

Brent S

Cheating on someone to get back at their cheating will never make things better. If you truly love your husband as you say then you must focus on your relationship. If your husband is unwilling to focus on your relationship then you must focus on you. Don't create a situation where you have to lie.

I'm really sorry you are hurting right now. I've been there. God Bless.

javelin

Do unto others as you would have them so unto you. Yeah, two wrongs is really going to fix up this relationship. And you get to break up a friendship while you are at it. In fact, your husband needs to know what a scumbag his "best" friend is. Ever think about starting a relationship based on honesty and building trust through trustworthy actions and deeds. No, that is too much work. Screw the best friend, screw the marriage, who cares.

RETEP

DO IT, and dont hold back!!!!!!

Just a GUEST

Honey, I say TIC 4 TAC, have that affair then LEAVE that a**hole of your going-2-be ex !

l. m

my opinion would be to sit down and talk to your spouse because two wrongs never make a right. and what would you do if you did go through with the "revenge" and ended up pregnant and it was't you spouses. please just sit and talk with your spouse don't do a stupid thing as to cheat. (forgiveness is a beautiful thing as long as it is not abused) also you didn't say that you had hard core evidence that the spouse cheated on you. hope this helps you

stacy

Sleep with his best friend and on your way out of the house, toss the video of you and the friend to your hubby.

Forget about all that play nice BS !

Of course if the only proof you have is from the so called best friend that wants to get nasty with you. I would suggest you tell your hubby what his friend is up to.

shane892000

unless he did it with one of your friends, i say stay away from his friend, other than that you should do it if it makes you feel better.

nobodyspeical00

well make sure that is the case...but if it is ..2 wrongs dont make a right.
maybe talk with your spouse try to find out why.maybe theres someting lacking in the bedroom.or you can leave it's up to you really.talk and ask frist.

allansc2005

Take me instead.

fucose_man

It wouldn't be right to cheat on him.

It would be within your right to divorce him. THEN you can sleep with whoever you want.

caramel delight

No, it is not alright as the guilt that you will feel is not worth it...Don't be as stupid as he was for revenge...He will have his day before the LORD and he has to answer to his infedelity...Also, the guilt that he's feeling everytime he looks in your face and keep trying to kiss you a** is good enough....Just forgive him and move on with your lives or leave.....Your choice...

It's a boy! Due June 23.

Pack and leave, when the divorce is final, sleep with anyone you want. You don't want the reputation of sleeping around do you?

OlgaBJ

Be the better person, even though it's hard in this situation. Don't sleep with anyone and Definitely don't sleep with his best friend. Two reasons: 1) he may not be a good friend for anyone if he wants to sleep with his friend's wife and 2) how do you know it's not a setup to hurt you more?
Steer clear of provocation and if you want out get a divorce before starting any relationships, however superficial they may be,

Chrissy

pack your sh!t and go...all you guys will end up doing is keep cheating on each other...two wrongs do not make a right. karma will come back around and get him, don't waste your time find someone worth your love!!

Roberta

It is NEVER okay to cheat, no matter what he has done. Work out your problems or separate/divorce before doing anything you will regret. Walk away with your head held high and don't give him anything to hold over you.

precious_vanessa_04

No, its not ok to cheat on your husband just because you found out he cheated on you. you seriously wont get nothing out of it trust me and please dont you sleep with his best friend.....if you are thinking about sleeping with some one else then its BEST to pack up your sh*t and go cause it wont ever be the same. If you really LOVE him give him a other chance but if he fuc*s up again then its not worth it. one thing i do tell you though you will forgive him but never forget what he did. Dont put your self so low the way he did by cheating on you your better than that.....

Poppet

No cheating is never right. Two wrongs do NOT make things right.

Pack you things, and leave if you have your mind set on leaving. It is healthier. Then after some time has passed if you think you can and want to patch things up with your Husband....do so. But not without therapy.

irenevmk

two wrongs do not make a right, you will just feel worse and your marriage will suffer more for it so don't do anything like that.
You need to seek couple counselling and work through this affair, your trust issues and hopefully he will not cheat again. It's up to you if you want to divorce, but it seems that you want to try and patch things up.
Good Luck

Rose

Absolutely NOT! Thats childish and definatly will not fix a thing. First of all, it won't make you feel good about yourself and turns the marriage into a competition of who can be the last to cheat. If this is his first time and he's willing to work on the marriage then stay and get couseling. If you "get revenge" you might as well just pack your sh** and go. Doesn't sound like "best friend" to me. You'd be NO BETTER than him unless thats what you want.
Also, I hear ya javelin. Right ON!

Goddess

NO! Just because he was unfaithful to you doesn't give you the right to cheat on him! I also don't think you should pack your stuff and leave. Both of you need to work it out. If he isn't willing to work out the marriage problems, then go ahead and leave. It takes both of you to make the marriage work.

Ebony

First of f I have to start by saying I'm so sorry your going through this I've been married for 4 and a half years and marriage is tough. But before you make any rash decisions you need to really think about what would gain by doing the same thing it could do more harm than good. Now girl trust is a bust if you feel he cannot be trusted ever again do what you gotta do. But on the ,other hand no one is perfect once mistake 2, 3, a habit. If you feel you need to seperate from him just to get your emotions together U should.

delmonticoman

TRUTHFULLY you should pack your sh** and go two wrongs don't make one right you need to rise above this and find someone you can trust again

crystalonyx3

No.

Why would you allow your precious body to be used for something as stupid as revenge that will only make you feel worse? Make your husband tell you why he cheated. Tell him that you want to work things out even if it means getting your feelings hurt by the truth. Whether it's because of you that he cheated or some insecurity he holds within himself you guys need to work through it or he's going ruin your mental and spiritual self not to mention give you some sort of disease.

jude

i know u are hurt but if u sleep with his best friend and putting yourself down to his level, it will not make u feel good about yourself. will not enhance your self worth. u should not sleep with anyone, instead focus on the problems that may have caused your husband to stray. believe me don't compromise your belief's to get even, could backfire on u, if u love your hubby, than don't cheat, fighting fire with fire does not work, not ever. yes u are hurt, sit down with him tell him u love him and that u are hurt over what u know, tell him u want to work on the marriage, if u cheat u will have lost all respect for yourself, and he may loose the trust he has for u. his cheating was not fair, but u say u love him, so cheating is no way to solve the problem.

Flipguy

Don't stoop to his level if you want it to work you need to talk about it, if not leave him.

liles21090

No it is not. Two wrongs never make a right! All that will do push the already hostile environment over the top. If you truly love your hubby so much. Then my suggestion is to seek counseling and move on with your lives. Divorce is easy! Marriage takes commitment, forgiveness, love, kindness, and work. However you have not said if this is the first time or one of many times he has done this. If he has a habit of doing this then you should consider leaving, due to the fact he does not love you then. However if he loves you he will go to counseling and work with you on putting your marriage back together and moving forward in life.

Just remember nothing in life comes free. Even marriage takes work and commitment.

And you never fight fire with gasoline. Always water!

frsttmshy

I'm right here with you my husband was and is still cheating on me but I have to do what is right for me and I didn't want to be like him even though I felt like I needed to do something to get back at him. It's a very hard thing because everyone is different and needs to do what is best for them. I know you are hurting, so am I but the real question is will sleeping with his best friend make what he did to you hurt any less?

First Lady

NO...never! 2 wrongs do not make a right. If you love your husband, don't do to him what he did to you. You were hurt by it, right? Why would you want to do that to him? You and he need to get into marriage counseling if you want to save the marriage, otherwise, you need to file for divorce. Committing adultery is not the right answer.

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