Do you think it is degrading to be a Stay at home Mom?

Louise C

Certainly not. I am one myself, and have been for many years. I think work is highly overrated. The trouble is that a lot of people do think that staying at home is a waste of time,a nd that all women should be yearning to be at the office or whatever. Betty Friedan started it with her Feminine Mystique, that woman has a lot to answer for.

Many women in past times were glad to be able to give up work and stay at home when their husband's earning ability improved, but nowadays we're all supposed to yearn to be out in the workplace, whihc does make it a little hard on those of us who don't yearn for any such thing.

In the pre-industrial era, people worked for economic necessity, men as well as women, and most work was carried out at home anywya, businesses tended to be family affairs, wtih wives and children involved in whatever the family occupation was. Work and home were part of a whole, not two seperate spheres as they became later. Nowadays you have to make the choice between staying at home or being out at work, which adds stress to life.

But if your husband can afford to keep you, and you are happy to be at home, then that is really nobody's business but your own, and if anyone tries to put you down because of it, try looking at them pityingly and saying something like "Oh, you poor thing, do you have to go out to work, how sorry I am for you!"

laney

no, why would you say that? Stay at moms are great people. They give their kids what is most important-their attention

free_angel

Degrading my ***....most men couldn't handle it!

Question&Learn

If you can afford it and you enjoy it, it is a blessing and an honor. Most people can't afford to do that and many wouldn't like it.

RAINBOW

not its a honour to be able to have one on one with the child that you had rather than paying someone to do the job for you,precious years.

laura1977

Hardly. I am not a mom but I have been a nanny for almost 4 years for the same family. The youngest is almost 4 and the oldest is almost 10. It is probably the hardest job I have ever had...and one day I would LOVE to have kids and stay home with them for at LEAST 2 years.

lucylocket7258

No, it is not degrading. I was a stay at home mother for 2 boys and It was the best "job" I ever had. . .Whereas, now, I get paid in money, back then, I got paid in hugs and kisses and first steps and first words and first report cards. Your job is one that is more important than any job in this world. You are in control of their lives and it is up to you to raise good, honest, caring human beings that will one day go out into this world and be productive citizens. I love being a mom. They are grow now and I miss it. . .You are doing a great thing and please don't anyone try to convince you otherwise

kay81363

my wife has been a stay at home mom for 9 years now , where you would think it is degrading is beyond me, she probably works harder than i do. i really don't think we'd be able to take care of things with the kids' activities and all if she didn't stay at home , and i love her all the same for it.

~â™¥Truckers Wifeâ™¥~

Not at all.. I would love to be able to be a stay at home mom!!!

az_mommma

Hell no! It's a great thing to be able to stay at home and take care of a home and children!

Everyone may not think so, but it's the child and spouse of the mom who does who appreciates it so much.

penelope

It is such a pity that in the day & age we live in that being a stay home mom is now looked down on, society has made it this way, when the 1980,s came about, it was all about the working woman, society made it seem like a woman was worthless unless she was working & taking care of children & taking care of her home, & it only grew worse, we now have day-care centers & babysitters raising our children, & that spells disaster! As children in their first 4 years of life need thier moms to be their for them, not a babysitter! It is a sad thing that stay home moms dont get the credit they so deserve. So now when a young woman is about to prepare for the birth of her child, the first thing she thinks of is not how to prepare the babys room, nor what she will name him or her, she worrys about who & where she will dump the child off at while she goes back to work, wake up women, why have a child if you cant take care of him or her? why bring a child into the world who will stay in a day care center 40 hours out of the week? Then when you get off work, you feel tired & run down & cant give the attention & patience that babies & children so need? Also some couples feel that for financial reasons they both must work, this is not true, as it has been proven time & time again that it can work, parents must first start budgeting their money & realize that now that the child is here they cant spend like they did before.

Islander

I would love to be a stay at home dad.

Wannabe

It certainly is not degrading to be a Stay at home Mom, but some people will look down on you, maybe not intentionally, but they do. Your husband may develop the attitude "you're home all day, you do it", and other people may not see your time as valuable, and they think you "have all the time in the world". You may even get down on yourself, if you are used to earning your own income it may be hard to rely on someone to give you their income. You may feel like you lost a part of your independence. Raising a child is so much more important than any of these factors, just be aware those attitudes are out there.

Pattyboy

NO I wish there could be more stay at home moms in this world then maybe some of these kids will understand MANNERS.....It is unfortunate that the cost of living in today's world requires a two income family and in most cases that is still not enough to pay the bills......If you can afford to be a stay at home mom by all means go for it...Enjoy it your children will thank you for it......I wish my wife could be a stay home mom.....

Live Laugh And Love

No. Not at all, I would say that if i had kids i would be a stay at home mom. I would love it

If you can be why not

Grey Person

It's next door to being Queen. I used to be one and miss those days something awful. You are the luckiest of women if you can be a stay home mother.

orphan annie

Why would you say that? I am a stay at home mother and I find nothing degrading about it. I would rather be able to stay at home and care for my children, because it's possible, than keep them in daycare. I have had to in the past.

Lola N

no i would love to stay at home if i could afford it. if you don't want to be a stay at home mom then you shouldn't. if it is your husband insisting that you stay at home then yeah it is degrading. you should voice your concerns and don't let him push you around.

elvlayarvvi fEisty wife and mom

No, being a stay at home mom is the most important job in the world for a woman with a child/children =)

gingerdaisy43

Heck no!

"The hand that rocks the cradle RULES THE WORLD!"

jkrickettt

If you have the means to do this and if it makes you happy then there's nothing degrading about it. I would suggest doing something creative or furthering your education...something of interest if possible. It only becomes degrading if you become feel you have no self worth and began to be lazy.

Latino Heat 4ever

No, I think it's great to be able to be a stay-at-home mom. I wouldn't trade my job for anything in the world!! I take care of the home, my husband, my children and can help out at the school whenever I want. From what my friends say, they think I have one of the hardest jobs in the world. They feel that they couldn't do it....a stay at home mom is the back bone of the family...she is the family's support system. when her husband has a bad day, she tries to turn it around and make it better for him, when the kids have homework, she is there to help, when a child is sick, she is the one who takes care of them and takes care of the house to make sure everything is done and dinner is on the table. there is nothing degrading about it!

flagger

Degrading, NO.

However there is no special aura for them either. Women stayed at home in the 50's because the work required to run a household was a lot more difficult and time consuming than it is today. The old saying about a woman's work is never done was a lot more accurate then.

The cost of early childhood care makes staying at home while they are young makes this a necessity for many.
That is not degrading it is doing what is needed to maintain the family.

Poppi Boi

Why would you ask that? Being a stay at home mom is like another job and it is a lot of work and responsibility. There shouldn't be no shame in being a stay at home mom because a lot of women do that when they have children. Then after they get a little older, they return back to work and place the child/children in daycare or with responsible people.

I was a stay at home brother because I helped watch my sister when she was little and my brothers. Trust me....it's a a lot of hard work so I give props to any women who can deal with that because that's a hard job all by itself.

beckaboo5

i am a stay at home mom with 2 kids home and 1 in school and i love being home with my kids and watching them grow up. i would not change it at all... but i am also starting school soon so it helps to be at home with my kids...

Maria

Of course not its the best for the children. On the negative, I know two women who are and they are both extremely nosey though. I guess they need to be more active rather than just being at home bored.

casper

Why would it be degrading? It's a Tough Job!!! And the yrs. pass Soo quickly!! If you can Stay Home, Do it !!

kelly

Oh my gosh NO WAY !!!!!! I would give my left arm to be able to stay home and be involved in the aspect of my children lives.

amayseng

there is no job more important that being a stay at home mom. raising children, good children, being a good parent is the most difficult job in the world.

Anthill

NO, being a mother is the hardest,but most rewarding job ever. I would love to stay home with my children,but now a days who can really live off one income.

cindra

No, but it is risky financially. If anything happens to your husband or your marriage and you are forced to return to work, you will have difficulties making ends meet unless you have a college education. You should always have a back up plan in case this doesn't work.

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