Do you think its right for your spouse to go through your phone without your permission?

Avelyn

It's not right... BUT, I would let her just to stop her suspicion. Give her permission to look through it. If she freaks out from seeing a girls name tell her to give her a call and chat away because they might become good friends!! Be cool, calm and collected.

d_v8ion

I don't like it, but I have nothing to hide, so my partner is welcome to look.

Ashley O'Dell

My husband goes through my phone i dont fight him cause i dont have nothing to hide and i dont do nothing wrong.So just let him go through ur phone and tell him those are just your firends and if he thinks you want to be with them tell him if i wanted to be with them then why am i with you?? Tell him you love him and just to trust you.

hushnowjustplayit

It could be looked at as an invasion of your privacy, but if you don't have anything to hide, why get upset about it?

3595

I don't see the problem, as long as you have nothing to hide. If it helps her to trust you more, why wouldn't you want her to?

george 2

the only thing i don't like my spouse to go through is my wallet. and i never go through her purse.

TexanNFLGirl

No, I don't think it's right for your spouse to go thru ur phone. Im a private person and I would only share with my spouse what I think he / she should know. But on the other hand out of respect, he / she shouldn't be texting the childhood friends, co workers, ex's, etc......it's all about respect. And if these things are happening while the spouse is in the presence, then this is total disrespect. This gives one a reason to be insecure; I call it "playing games". Both need to grow up and re-define the words "spouse" and "respect".

Collinsville Cookie

If I had nothing to hide, why would I care?

none n

If you have nothing to hide then there shouldn't be a problem. It's no different than you readin a written address book of hers, is it? Besides, if it makes your wife feel better to know there isn't anything going on then I say let her look. Wouldn't you feel like she was hiding?

lorennys2002

i do it...but thats just me and my bf doesnt mind at all...but i do just for fun...but some ppl dont like that...just let him see once or twice if u deny him to c whats in it..its gonna open a whole new set of problems for u...

Donna W

What is mine is my husbands and I don't hide anything from him. So if he would feel the need to do so I wouldn't care. He probably is just looking to relieve his worries.

jude

i wouldn't care if he went through my phone because there is nothing at all i have to hide. if u are always texting others he is feeling insecure, and wants more of your time.

Sasuke Uchiha

Why care?
If you have nothing to hide, it doesn't matter!
Besides...
Your proble ganna get divorced.

Kentucky blackberry gal

NO I don't ...if he/she doesn't trust you then you already have a problem. that is a total lack of respect to rummage through someones personal items...if they are doing it then they must be looking for something. Have you given them reasons not to trust you?

Passionfruit

NO WAY. Put a pass-lock your phone.

But make sure you are spending time with her so she feels cared for. If she still insists on looking at your phone w/o permission, then you need to talk with her.

Everyone is saying that if you have nothing to hide, you shouldnt care, but then what she is doing is totally disrespectful! Usually people who rummage through other people's things have something to hide.

judy y

If it's so innocent, why does it bother you?
If you let your spouse do this without any hassle, you will build trust, and soon the need or the desire for them to do it will diminish.
Yes, it is an invasion of your privacy, however, do you really need the privacy in your marital relationship? Your spouse needs reassurance. Give it to them.

~SweeT~

No just cause you get married that doesn't mean you give up your rights to have some kind of privacy. Now if you were giving her reasons to think that, then i could see why she feels insecure. Really the way i would resolve the issue is by letting her see what she needs to see and maybe from there she won't find anything to prove her insecurities and back off.

Determined to get there!

Before you can say NO this is not right, you better think about all the ways that YOU do this, so many people do this in so many different ways, they do it all the time, and that is how so many misperceptions and misunderstandings happen.

majean52

Well, this is a hard one. I would let my spouse know I don't appreciate the miss trust he seems to be displaying in you. I often wonder about spouses who accuse each other of things. My general rule is one accuses what they themselves do. Is he cheating on you?

Good luck

celticbuddha

looks as though you've got something to hide, doesn't it. my soon to be ex would occasionally rummage through my things. it was annoying but at the same time, i know he's looking for something that isn't there in the first place because i've got nothing to hide. most people rummage, not just because they are jealous, controlling, but because they've been up to something and i'd rather find evidence against you on the same thing, so that they can twist and blame it all on you while escaping the blame for what they've done in the first place.

Que bella

I think married people should have no reason to fear investigation from either side. If you aren't doing wrong, you don't need to worry about it.

Lina G

That's hard to say, because usually when someone is insecure it's because they have reason to feel guilty.

I have a friend whose husband checked her phone constantly. And it never really bothered her because she trusted him. But one day his phone was lying around and she glanced at a message that ended their marriage. He was sending and recieving nude pictures and dirty messages to a coworker and once she realized it she packed up and left him.

Now I'm not saying this is what's going on, but you need to address the issue with the person who is doing the snooping. Ask why they are feeling so insecure, and if it truly is just jealousy, reassure them there is nothing going on between you and your friends. In fact, make him a part of the friendship so he feels comfortable and knows your friends too, but also make sure he respects your boundaries. Good luck.

frustrated

Yes it's right, a spouse shouldn't have anything to hide from the other and most wouldn't mind unless there is something to hide.

that judi

WHo cares - if you have nothing to hide, why the secrecy? My life is an open book to my partner and there are no jealousies here. Jealousy is a wasted emotion anyway and I would never again be with someone who was. It speaks volumes about a lack of character.

kidfree

Yeah. I wouldn't care because I have nothing to hide. But I would wonder about why he doesn't trust me.

blueeyd_princess

Well if something wasn't on it I didn't want them to see I wouldn't care if they went through it. If these are CLOSE FRIENDS you GREW Up with then your spouse should already know about them. Jealousy doesn't happen over night usually there is a reason behind it.

If you don't have anything to hide then why does it matter? Right. If you love your spouse and know they are jealous and insecure you would want to work on this issue with them, by letting them know they have nothing to worry about. And if that means let her look at your phone without your permission then so be it. I think the only reason you would get worked up over it is because you are trying to hide something.

Eldaa R

You hit the nail there when you said he is jealous and insecure. And to tell you the truth he doesn't realize what he is doing to the marriage. I left my husbend because of it and am now married to a very secure man and extremely happy. Have been married now 5 years and having our first baby. He has friends that are females and talks to them and I have male friends and talk to them and thats it. We both have a great relationship with each other as a couple and family. None of our friends would say that we were not very much in-love. I know that this is what most couple would want, a trusting and caring relationship. Maybe if you took some time with him and explained how you feel about him invading your privacy like this without discussing it with you first. Hope I was helpful.

Gregory H

If there is nothing to hide why would there be a problem. You are married so your business is his business and vice versa. By not letting him look might make him think bad thoughts.

55 and trying

Who care if they go through your phone unless your hiding something.

sickof it

My wife just looked thru my phone to find things to fight about. I'm going to start calling massage parlors & date lines & see if she likes that.

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