Do you think my husband will hit me again?

jude

something is going on with him, and since his mom left him when he was small, he may be no respecter of women. but usually when a man starts hitting he will always do it again unless he gets some anger management or therapy. since u love him your in denial and making excuses for him. could he be seeing someone else, when my husband began to abuse me, mostly mental abuse, one time he almost got physical it was because he was in love with someone else and didn't want to be with me anyway.

capcajun

Its over.... Once a so-called man hits you, you should hit those numbers 9 1 1 and tell him to hit the road.
Got his own apartment, sounds like he has been planning this for a while, does he have a gf?

Ryan

I am a guy. Here is an answer from a male perspective. If he hits you once, he will do it again. My mother had a friend who died when her husband shot her through the door with a shotgun. It was sad because this man did not start off as an abuser either. If you are willing to take any abuse, be aware that it WILL get worse with time. If you ever get back with this person, make him go to counseling first. Do not let him abuse you or he will keep doing it. It sometime ends in death. He is not worth dying over, no matter how much you love him. Make him get counseling if you want to take him back. If he refuses, move on girl.

Sasalover

Oh god. No matter how much you want to beleive he will never hit you again, He will.
He will get angry.
He will hit you again.
And if you allow it, its going to get alot worse.

free_angel

Don't let him back in. He'll hit you again.

Kari

Sounds like he needs his space. Let him reconnect with himself again and come back to you on his terms.

spankdady

tell him you love him and then the both of you need to go to an anger management class together. The reasons simple.
No one wins an argument.
Everybody gets angry but, not everybody blows a fuse.
While the argument seems fair at first then next thing you know you are arguing about the past which no one can fix.
If you feel only he needs to go to anger class then you are wrong to take him back. You need it too to keep your relationship in tact. That and you need to understand it does not necessarily make you the better spouse just because you feel you do not need it.

magoo

It doesn't matter what you said, there is no excuse for physical abuse! "Pushing a button"?? This only makes you at fault if your husband is a robot. Othewise, his response to you was his CHOICE.

It sounds like you've been abused, at least emotionally and verbally for years and now it's progressed to physical too, otherwise, it's unlikely you would believe that you're to blame or somehow "caused" him to hit you.

Unless or until he seeks serious counseling, you shouldn't be trying to "woo" him back into your life. Hopefully, he freaked himself out when he hit you and left because he was afraid of hurting you again or even worse. If so, that can be a beginning for him and an end for a life that you thought of as "normal".

It sounds like you've been walking through fire for him already. There may be an opportunity here, you have to be careful though, until he decides what his plan is (seeking counseling hopefully).

You should at the very least, seek out a support group for abused/battered women and at best, seek out counseling. You need help to learn who you really are, what your true value is a woman, and redefine what you are willing to put up with and what you won't (you're ideas of what is and isn't appropriate are WAY off).

sparkles

the way I see it if he hit you once then he will hit you again...sounds like someone needs to lay off the drinking and take some anger management classes

áƒ¦ Marissa áƒ¦

Follow your heart. If you don't want him anymore for being abusive (he will probably hit you again) then get rid of him... if not, then let him know that if he hits you again it's over. No woman deserves a man that backhands her.

Personally, I wouldn't get back together with him. If he loved you, he wouldn't have disrespected you by hitting you. And if he loved you, he would not have moved out.

Katie P

even though he only hit you once don't mean he won't do it again, I know you say you don't want to throw fifteen years down the drain but don't you think your health is more important? he will hit you again, it may not be for awhile but the next time you p*** him off he will sock you, and he'll keep doing it as long as you're letting him. and he isn't going to give up his alcohol, he will choose that over you,staying with someone just because you've been with him for a long time isn't a good excuse, you are in denial, you want to believe he will change but in reality he won't, it is just going to get worse unless you put a stop to it. I know you say you love him and that you would walk through fire for him, so what will he do for you? I'll tell you what NOTHING!!!! you need to get out before you get hurt, you deserve better, you need a man who can take care of you, who will love you for who you are. I wish you all the best, and I hope you do the right thing,,, good luck....

ghosai

there is more to this story then what is being said. something that is crucial is missing. im not sure what is going on in your relationship but obviously something happened or has been happening in your relationship that has been building otherwise your husband wouldn't just slapped you for something you said unless you purposely provoked him. im not condoning what he did but if you want him back you need to back off and give him time, it isn't really your choice to get back with him. all you can do is wait out his answer...

mimzy

The best thing to do is to let him stay where he is. Please don't be so dependent on this man. He hit you - can you not see that what he did is wrong? He was right to move - you could have had him arrested for hitting you. Sorry, but I can't see walking through fire for a man that would hit me or be really mean to me. Open your eyes - you can do better than this. You aren't throwing 15 years away, you are starting a new life -

Longbrownhair

If he has moved out then you can't push him to return. You're both guilty of abusing each other. Maybe you really do need space.

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