Do you think that it is wise for Educated women to date or marry uneducated men?

Cyclist 2300

as long as they love each other..... and can keep a VOW...... go for it.

moonglow

Us women go with our heart most of the time. We have this notion that love will conquer all. Most of the time tho, real life is more real and gets in the way.

Things that can go wrong:
1. The biggest thing i think will be insecurity. He may get insecure down the road. You will obviously earn more, which can affect who's decisions in the relationship will weigh more.

2. The second big thing is you may not see/treat him as an equal. You may not do this intentionally, but he may also be oversensitive about this.

3. Third is interest over time. You will have colleages you will hang out with and he will have his own. The environment outside of your own homelife where you will grow in may be significantly different.

There are always reasons for failure. BUT! If you are both mature and communicate well in your relationship, it can work no matter what the issue may be. It is all about acceptance, taking care of each other, and communication.

goodluck to you.

catsmeow

as long as the man does not suffer from an inferiority complex you should be fine...education does not make the man..or woman

Rach

Depends on the woman and the man, of course. If the woman sees him as inferior (even if she can't help it) and can't appreciate his other talents and good qualities, that may make it very difficult for her to give him the respect he deserves. If she sees him as less responsible or intelligent, she may also try to control the relationship with the view that he won't know what is best for himself or the both of them and there will be a lack of meaningful conversation and listening. She has to realize his judgment and viewpoint is valid and important.

She also shouldn't intimidate him and make him feel inferior.

As long as respect and listening to each other takes place, it should be okay. And there's love, of course :)

RaceFan-101

For one, men have a stong ego about being the Bread winner, being the supplier. Does not apply to all men, there is always exceptions.

Meghan

It's not about a piece of paper, but compatible intelligence. If the woman is smart and he is not so much, that can cause problems, and vice verse. But having a college degree or not having one has no bearing on a mature relationship. I know several people without college degrees who are very smart and have done great things with their lives. I also know people with college degrees making $8/hr at Walmart.

flowersinbloom25

It usually doesnt work out. Not because you don't want it to, but because you guys will eventually have nothing in common. You'll eventually feel like he's beneath you. Don't believe all that stuff about "Oh it shouldnt matter. Love defeats all!" That is not the case.

While you ar eout working and making a good salary, do you honestly want a man who works at Pizza Hut as a delivery guy and then a second job as a stock guy at night?

J R 105

Love and emotions don't know your educational status, a graduates degree does not make you wiser in life than any one else, you can be far more educated in life without these qualifications getting in the way, if you love each other what does it matter who is the more educated

CptCooper

It doesn't matter in the least. What DOES matter is the difference in your mental abilities. If the woman is actually far smarter than the man (or the other way around, for that matter) I wouldn't go so far to say it's an unwise match, but it can certainly add another layer of... let's call it 'complexity' to the relationship. I know no off-balance relationships have worked for me or most of the people I know. It's simply something to be mindful of, that's all.

Salacious Crumb

Even with a graduate Degree, some People still treat English like it's German, inserting random initial capital Letters and making people wonder if maybe the askers aren't as Educated as they might Think they are.

gypsy g

depends on how secure emotionally each of them are.

Complicated

Ridiculous. I think people who heavily weigh degrees/career are pretty snobby. What kind of person is he, and do you love him are all that matters. Period. People have had different opportunities in life, and how boring to only want to be around those with a similar path.

The people I like best challenge me because they think differently. This requires a different path.

John H

A relationship where the woman is far more educated than the man, has the potential to go wrong, just like every other relationship.

The problem will be that unless the male accepts the lesser role there will be conflict (there are plenty of males that would willingly accept such a role).

The problem comes when you compare the question of nature versus nurture. It is taught from an early age that men and women are the same and that the roles we play in a relationship are determined by the thinking.

The crux of the problem is that at a genetic level, it is simply not true, men and women are fundamentally different beings in similar looking skin, so it may or may not work, depending on the individuals

There is however, only one way that it will work ouot, and that is to keep communicating all the time, to get on top of issues before they become problems.

Me, I would reccm against it, unless they are so over the top in love.

Kool K

itzz ok it matters only if love is present

Anonymous

If there is a large disparity in the amount of money the two make, it could become a sense of tension. Money is a hot button among most couples because it's tough to manage on your own, but then when you join your finances? Disagreements are bound to occur. If she doesn't respect him regardless of how much he makes, and if he feels insecure or resentful for making less than her, that's a big problem.

The question of status is something to consider- does she look down on people who have only a high school degree? If so, then she may have a hard time getting along with his family and friends. Does he feel uncomfortable with or intimidated by college-educated people? If so, he may have a problem getting along with some of her family and friends. If they chose to have children, their different viewpoints could cause tension in how to raise the children.

But there's really no answer of "it is wise?" because the real question is "Do you like the guy?" Is this a guy that you have something in common with, chemistry with? Does he make you laugh and make you feel safe? Do you find him worthy of your trust? Could you see a future with him?

You may think that you come from different worlds, but it doesn't have to be that way. There are brilliant people out there who only have a high school diploma, and there are also people out there who hold doctorate degrees, and you wonder how in the world they were accepted to a college in the first place. Knowledge and wisdom are two separate things. Don't judge any person until you know who they are, not just an assortment of facts about them.

HDGranny

It really makes no difference if they love each other. As long as the communication is open and you agree on life goals. Raising children. Money management, etc. Just like two rocket scientist marrying. Ya, just gotta have love and understanding.

redleb69

you never know
it may work where he is a stay home parent and you are the bread winner
but please dont marry so he can live off you and nothing else
you marry and he maintains a job where it pays him the most he can get for his skills well then i think he still has his self respect but if he just lives off you and nothing else your in deep trouble

Helen W.

Theoretically, it's intellect rather than education that matters. Most people do want their spouse to be able to converse with them at their level. If a man with a high school education is intelligent and has had sufficient life experience, he might be very able to do this, even though the wife has doctoral degree. However, I think this is rare, and that most of the time it is best for people to marry someone at about their same educational level.

thresher

It shouldn't matter,its what kind of person they really are inside.Also what you are both able to work things out that really matter.

charlesjerrell

sure why not, men marry uneducated women every day

alpha & omega

Totally unwise if the gap between them in education is too wide. The man will show a great deal of insecurity and may drive the woman nut with his unlimited jealousy.

julvrug

Although there is not exactly anything wrong with this, it can cause difficulties within a relationship. Who earns the more money, what do they talk about, will he get upset because of her profession? there are lots of reasons not to do this, but like I stated there is nothing actually wrong about it.

StarLight238

There are some very smart people out there who only graduated high school.

Being under-educated does not equal dumb.

I think in this case though a man would feel just as bad, if not worse than a woman, if said woman was constantly rubbing it in his face...on the same token he should probably understand that sooner or later, it will come up because it is part of who she is.

Everyone deserves respect, as long as they have earned it. And a great portion of love is respect.

Eric Rhodes

If you love smart men then he probably won't do but if you love him for other reasons then education has nothing to do with anything. However don't complain years later when he can't get a good high paying job because of his education status. At least he graduated from high school. Think about why you are marrying him and if you want smart kids you might not want to marry him or take a chance that the kids will take after you. Why did he not pursue higher education was it financially or other reasons? Does he ever plan on going back to school or some training for better jobs? The answer is it is okay as long as both are okay with that. Some men may not like it that their wife has more education than them just make sure this is not the case with your husband or else it will not work. This type of question is not an yes or no answer but more of how the couple handles it and sees it like dating outside ones race or a shorter man dating a taller women it depends on the individual couple and how they let it affect them otherwise what is wrong with it. Nothing. The fact that you even ask leads me to believe you might have little residual negative connotations about this subject and it can get worse throughout the years. You must really be okay with it inside yourself and not let outsiders influence how you feel. For me I can honestly say this issue is a no issue at all.

moose406

its up to the individual speak your own mind kinda thing but as for me i would have no problem with being with a woman who was more educated than me as long as she didnt rub it in my face and put me down all the time

trouble_11668

Well, just because someone didn't get a graduate degree doesn't mean they are uneducated. Really depends on the age....my grandma grew up in the depression and she dropped out of school in THIRD grade to go work at a factory to help support her 8 brothers and sisters (yes, this was allowed way back then) But she is one of the wisest women that I know and I could never know as much as she does about history, the depression, how to make REAL home made food, sew my own cloths, how to budget and save and make something from nothing...not to mention that she knows more about politics that most politicians.

i am zoe!

well it's really about love, but personally I wouldnt do it. If i really did love him, then fine, but I would avoid it. Sometimes guys don't want responsibilities and expect women to support them, especially in today's world. Now that women are also rising to the top guys are usually becoming more irresponsible (why do you think most divorced fathers dont ask for custody of their kids, unless it's kevin federline, and that's only cuz then britney would have to pay him)

but if you really do love him and he doesn't seem like the kind of person who wants to lean on you all the time, then go for it!

Jerome

Well, things could always work out, you never know. But I think that if the intelligence difference is too great, neither partner will be satisfied in the long run. To be honest though, not having a degree isn't a sign of lesser intelligence.

Anya

You have to put your degree, and his lack of, aside. There are tons of smart people out there who don't have the further education that you do, but are doing very well for themselves. And I have to add, there are those with the further education who are NOT!! If you are dating or thinking of dating one who doesn't have your same background, think about your date night, and the things you would talk about and have in common. Think about whether you would even bring up the education if the date is going really well. If you connect and there are so many great things about the other person, then you can decide if you think the extra education is something that's still important to you or not. You can't worry, or shouldn't worry about what others might think. It's not about them, it's about you.

â„¢ Mogul SUpreme â„¢

define uneducated lol
Technically everyone is educated

I dated an educated woman with 2 degrees working on her masters and she cheated on me

education level does not matter......

She did not ever think that I would catch her in the act...
I set up that educated woman to catch her cheating

so everyone is educated just in different areas in life...

There are some educated fools also...

If you want to keep him dont rub your accolades in his face....

B. White

There's no problem with it unless the woman or the man has a problem with it.

Will she resent him or look down on him because she has a higher degree? Is she going to be upset if his employment opportunities are limited? Is she okay with being the primary breadwinner?

Is he going to feel insecure with having less formal education than his wife/girlfriend? Will he be unhappy if he earns less money than his wife/girlfriend?

It's best if they have the same values and the same goals. I agree with the above posters about having similar levels of intelligence overall as well.

gmwilliams

I wrote about the same subject on HubPages. I portend that relationships between highly educated, professional women and undereducated, nonprofessional men are doomed for disaster. First of all, they have nothing in common educationally, intellectually, and/or socioeconomically. She usually earns more than he does. She has wider divergent interests than he does. He would be an embarrassment at corporate gatherings. In other words, the relationship is a no-go from the start.

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