Does a good wife actually do everything?

GeOrGiA PeAcH

I am gay, but it is similar in our relationships as well. We all need different things. There is things I do for my better half that I really don't want to. I would never tell him that because it makes him happy. Its not about do this or do that for us. I think we both know each other and what we need. We both GIVE. At the end of the day we go to sleep saying I love you and holding each other. Even if we had an argument. I don't look at it as duties, I look at it as a team effort and love.

silly_duck96

In my opinion, if a woman does not work, she should be responsible for taking care of the house. If she does work, they should split the house work. If the man stays at home, he should do the house work. I don't think if a woman doesn't work she should sit on her butt all day and expect her husband to come home and do dishes. If you work part time, do 3/4 of the house work. It just depends.

Anjela

My husband and I share chores - I usually do the inside work and he handles the outside stuff. It's a good compromise.

corundumweapon

It'll be best to find a man who doesn't expect any of that: wash the clothes, cook the dinner, clean the house, etc. so that when you do take care of them, they are actually thankful.

Tino

No mimi it's not that way at all.

Your a good wife the problem is you got a bad man.

AW2

If you want to be a house wife I think you should have all of those responsibilities. If the woman works as much as the man works i think all of the house work should be 50/50.

The Lemur v1.03

The thing is it depends on teh couple. For some couples the more traditional thing is good, for some couples it wouldnt work at all. You have to decide what works best for you before you get into a relationship and then stick with it.

2sexy4this

i cook, clean, wash the clothes, have dinner on the table when my hubby gets home. I get up at 3;00 in the morning to make his lunch and send him off to work. I take care of the kids, take them to school, act. ect...
My husband works all day. pays all the bills, gives me money to spend and for food. and watches t.v.
then we do it all over again

lucylocket7258

OH Mimi, men are very very weak and men want you to take care for them like they are 3 forever. Women being born with a maternal instinct, automatically know how to take care of those around us., and men will let you. It seems like to me, men go from having their mothers taking care of them , to having wives to take care of them.Most of them can't even boil water. When I really think about it, maybe it is not their faults for being that way, maybe it is ours, for taking care of them like we do.

nina87

i've been with my husband since april, we both work, dont have any kids however, i clean, cook, and do the laundry! i dont know what it is with men! they just think its the woman's part to do all the work, slowly but surely i hope it'll change

RedRabbit

My boyfriend and I share those responsibilities. I don't do everything. Both my father and step-father are the same way as are many of my guy friends. So I have to say no.

L. S

If you are doing everything like that for your man, you are being taken advantage of. And he needs to be more self sufficient. Things should be 50/50. Both of you should be equally responsible for the house and related chores. Men do know how to cook, how to clean, how to do laundry. Together, together, together. And if he's not OK with that... well then, I guess he should be shown the washer and dryer.

B0uncingMoonman@aol.com

Well, it all depends on how busy the woman is generally.
If she has a lot to do - kids, a job etc - then they share the workload - or should do.

Men have actually been spoilt down the ages, in most cultures ............it started with their mothers spoiling them and the habit/custom came down through the ages.
(An independent man)

TX Mom

My man & I are a team. I'm disabled, but i do everything I can, and he does the rest. We eat out a lot, and our standards for "clean house" are lower than the neighbors, but we're happy, we're working hard, and fulfilling our purpose here on Earth.

TX Mom

Vicki E

it varies couple to couple. Mine expected me to work full time plus be his personal maid, chef and entertainment. So needless to say it didnt work out.

Dominics` Lady

If she stays at home i think she shud do those things, but if she works as much as the hubby then those things shud be halved

Jim C

There is no normal when it comes to women, women are as diverse as the universe is large. My woman doesn't "do everything" and i don't expect her too. Each relationship is different and you have to make up your mind what you want your to be like.

Betty M

Most women end up doing it all, NOT because that's what makes her a good woman/wife, but because if she doesn't do it, then it will never get done.

A smart woman let's her boyfriend know long before they get married, that a marriage is team work. We both work, we both do half the housework, half the laundry, and half the cooking. If you don't do this you will find yourself like so many other unhappy wives, who come home from work and have to cook dinner, do the dishes and throw a load of her husband's laundry in the washing machine, while he lays on the couch and watches tv. Then she spends her day off cleaning the house, doing more laundry and cooking, while she tries to get him to stop watching the ball game and go out and mow the lawn.

As long as you let a man walk all over you, that's exactly what he will do. Set him straight BEFORE you marry him.

Gortok

My wife used to work, as do I. We would share most of the cleaning, she did most of the laundry, I did almost all of the cooking, we both shared "picking up" but she did most of the cleaning. When we go places I have to drive. She does the bills.

Now that we have a child she no longer works, but she takes care of the kid, does all of the dishes, most of the cleaning. I still do more cooking. I try to help out now and then (I do diapers and such when I am home), but she takes care of the home and I take care of getting money.

You can't split everything exactly even, but a woman is not a servant.

Sandy Ego

It depends on the arrangement between the people in the relationship; what is "normal" for one couple is not normal for the next, etc. I don't consider doing laundry or cooking a big chore, and I do it all; my husband's time is better spent working on other things.

Annabella

It totally depends on the relationship. Some men work full time while the wives stay at home so certain things are just expected. I'm interviewing to go back to work full time so my husband & I are very equal with house chores. Also we don't have kids. He does his own laundry, I do mine. He makes the bed, washes dishes, vacuums occasionally. I do the deep cleaning like refrigerator, floors, bathroom, etc. because it makes me crazy if it's not clean. We just kind of both contribute whatever we can at the moment. I'm the one that cooks though. He doesn't know how.

only the truth

i done everything for 14yrs and he never took any notice, now i have a cleaner to do it all, he notices what a great woman she is and how her husband is lucky, i think men are all pigs in a sense, they are Always jealous of the neighbors

stella maris

I think that maybe a few years ago that was the case, now most wives work full time or part time. I work part time and my husband helps me out, we have four children as well and our house needs attention every day. It works both ways though cause if I see him working outside then I will help him as well. Best thing mothers can do is prepare their sons for being able to help out with chores as they get older, even if they can cook one meal, at least they won't go hungry, nothing would be worse for a wife but to feel that they must do everything. Good husbands help out good wives and this makes a great relationship.

sisternvirginia

You have to find what you are comfortable with. I have been married 2xs and have spoiled both of my husbands. I cooked, cleaned, washed clothes, took care of the bills, did the yard work, painted out side and in. You name it I did it. What this created was 2 men who really didn't have to do anything but come home from work and sit in the barko lounger. It creates resentment for the wife. Make sure that you both share chores.

tinktink20

I do the laundry, the dishes, the cooking the grocery shopping and the cleaning. He does the handy work around the house and he pays the rent.

Paty

no a good wife equals out her guy. she loves him and makes sure that he is happy. my guy he helps me wash and cook. cause frankly im horrible at it. at the end of the day its not about what we can do as far as chores its how we show each other how much we love each other and how much we support each other

what u talkin' bout?

I wash his clothes make him meals, and make his coffee for work. Not even married or living together! I say that he has it made; he actually has a maid! I think that a lot of men would like this set up! I will not clean his house; I just clean my own home.

yourkiwiboy

This really is entirely up to your own personal choice and how you have been bought up, and what you learned from that!

I don't expect my wife you be the one and only house keeper...
I get moresatisfaction from haveing support, emotionally...

lolly

I thinkt here's much more to being a good wife than mundane things like housework.
I think the most important qualities include being a nice person, supporting your husband when he needs you. Most importantly, it means letting him be his own person.

I think it is more about having a partnership than having set roles. Im only 21 and live with my bf. He works full time, while I only work part time and go to university. So I have a lot more time at home than he does. So I do a little housework while he is at work, but I still leave a small amount for him to do on the weekend, and he is happy to do so. It wouldn't be fair on either of us if only one person was responsible for that stuff. We also try to make decisions together, we split the mortgage, bills and groceries 50/50, but we are both willing to compromise if either of use is having a little trouble with our finances. I couldn't imagine our life any other way because it just wouldn't work if I had a set role, I would resent that.

luv2help

I'm going to explain to you how women, got stuck, doing every thing. It all started in the 50's, when the husband went to work to earn money and the women stayed home and were homemakers. Every one was happy doing their part. Then women started fighting for women's rights, a.k.a. women's lib and more women started to work and become bread winners. However, women got twice the work load now, because their duties in the home didn't stop. Men still worked as they normally did. But, when the women went to work, their job didn't end at 5:00, they only began their second job.. the dometic job. They still cooked, cleaned, did homework, laundry.. and the man, still only works! Is this right? Hellll no it isn't right. We have to retrain our men to be partners, by that, it means both helping equally with the household and other chores. AMEN!

Brian L

Honey...if you keep the guy satisfied in bed, he wont even remember those other things. I do most of the cooking and cleaning plus working 40 a week (as does she), and all I want from my wife is for her to a)love me b)f*ck me(repeatedly) and c)feed the dog when I dont have a chance.

When all three fall into place, all else I need is a beer and a nap, and I can take care of those myself.

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