Does age really matters?

happygirl

If you love this girl, tell her you will marry her after she graduates from college.

College will help her to mature and figure out what she wants from life. Then you can be much more certain that she is making a decision based on real life expectations.

~ Invisible_1 ~

Age is just a number, its the person thats important not how many birthdays they have had. If your relationship is good why assume the worst, just enjoy & be grateful you found each other

Tracey

i think if she was really bothered about age she would have gone and found a younger model ages ago there is 9 years between me and my bloke and im the happiest i have ever been
AGE DOES NOT MATTER

Suzy Q

yes age really does't matter at certain time. but you know what does. when one gets older the problems will start she'll see you getting older and then you will get in bad health and her love of her life will eventually come out dying and you wil lbe gone and she alone. yep, its happening to me but we've had the most wonderful years of our lifes.

fantasia.

Marriage is built on trust and character. No one can predict that for you. there are many older men married to younger women that are perfectly happy. As long as you give and take in a marriage and treat the marriage as a partnership with a lot of love, compassion and sympathy you should be OK. I think another secret in a happy marriage is that you should have common interests because when the first part of a relationship cools down you will still have something in common. Think well. Think Deeply and you should not go wrong. Good luck and every happiness. :)

gypsy

She sounds very immature, a real woman would not ask stupid questions like " When are you going to marry me", it very much sounds as if her conception of marriage is a little " fairytale ". She needs to mature and have some adventures first. She has been tied down for 2 years, I can't see that she can be very exciting or interesting as she hasn't experienced life. In this case I think age matters very much but not in all cases.

robert x

Age doesn't matter if you love each other.

SO GO FOR IT! go make babies! ..

chili pepper

I am completely not against an age gap in a relationship. However in this case, I think a 19 yr old girl is to young to marry anyone. People that young haven't worked things out yet in my experience.
I would say give it time. Even in general standards, 2 years isn't that long.

Yesugi

It matters. You don't have the same things to talk about, and you'll have very different notions of how to deal with everything, from kids to finances. Your priorities will necessarily be different, and your pool of experience will differ, as well. She's been an adult for a year; you, for a dozen more -- that's huge.

I like it hardcore!

if ure thinking that u obviously dont trust her......if u loved and trusted her age would not matter x

Tina UM

You must be sould partners and then your are in it for the long term...

It is possible that you may split up later on...because maybe she will grow up an dstart to like people are own age but then thats balanced against the fact she is having a proper relationship and if that is working there is no need to go elsewhere.

llexiann30

Thats great that the 2 of you have so much in common but you need to stop and think about when she turns 21 will she want to be out all the time with her friends. Is she in school right now or in the future will she want to go and if so will she regret not being able to live on campus if you guys get married. I am happy that you have found each other and my man and I are 8yrs apart him being older and sometimes I find that we are from 2 different worlds. But it can work SO i wish you all the best of luck

tototo

no , you need to be sure that you love her and i know u do .you need to pray and have trust in god , if you meant to be together you will be till the end so just love her and give her everything but the most important thing is ur LOVE age does'nt matter

dream theatre

no it means nothing as long as you love each other

eat my try

I had a boyfriend who was 31 when I was 19. we split up because he had to move back to spain, but even now I would marry him if we had stayed together and I think of him all the time. Age doesn't matter, love matters.

In all honesty, however, I would wait another year, at least until she's 20 because big changes happen within ourselves during that time and teenagers still have idealism. I think we fugure ourselves out more as we enter our very early 20s. I doubt you would be taking anything away from her, just let her be free and keep trusting her.

1985 & going strong

I was pre-occupied about the age difference between me and my guy (who was younger than I) so much that when he proposed, I didn't say 'yes'. Instead, I asked him if he was sure, and almost broke his heart, he was so upset...and I had been the one who had wanted to get married!

Instead, I asked him if he was sure, or if he wanted more time to think about it . He was so hurt and disappointed! He said, okay (then I was upset, thinking he might not ask again), but proposed again two weeks later.

I said yes, and we were married 7 months later. And are still together after nearly 25 years of married life. I had worried for nothing.

If she has given you no cause for concern in two years, she is most likely sure of her commitment to you (regardless of the age difference, and you can be, too. On the other hand, if she has shown signs of wanting to go out with her friends or of feeling restricted by your presence in her life, you might want to give her a few more years. You might want to do this if she shows any signs of immaturity or inability/disinclination to handle responsibility.

If, on the other hand, she seems to be perfectly content and happy with you, and she is very mature and handles responsibility well, prepare to propose!

God bless you!
Hope I helped!

Sweet Suzy 777!

13 years maybe a little to much. I have a sister that is 13 years younger than her husband. They are happily married over 3 decades now. So I guess it depends on the couple.

Lida

Hey, go on! She loves you, you love her, and that's the thing that really matters! Good luck!

Olga

Age does not matter - both of you have no problem with your relationship, I suggest you focus on that unlike dwell on negatives that have not happened

miss_laura_jane

No it doesn't. If she really makes you happy then just go for it. Not everyone acts their age. You've been together for two years. That's enough time for her to consider the possibility of being with a younger guy and actually go for it but she hasn't. I'm a 19 year old girl aswell and I have to admit I will go for an older bloke than the guys I know.

Monkfish

There's no way to resolve this issue.

There are no guarantees in life.

You're worrying about something that may or may not happen; worrying about it might make you act jealous and that only really makes it more likely that your fears come true.

If you love her, hold your nose and dive in. She might leave you one day, true enough, but that can happen to ABSOLUTELY anyone.

As for the age gap; that's for you two to decide.

benji

only 13 yrs between you is a problem
it seems she is still more mature and ready make a commitment than you
maybe she needs somebody a little older or atleast more mature
your worry about her leaving you or cheating, this is not age relative that depends on the type of person she is
go 4 it before she finds someone that will make the right choice

Your right that she may leave you later on to make up for what she didn't do now. Not all girls are like that. Some marry older men and are happy forever. Some are just looking for a free ride right now so they don't have to work. Some want to get out of their parent's home because they don't like the rules. Be very careful with your decision to marry a young woman.

->>LA-LA<<-

IF SHE LOVES YOU SHE WILL STAY.........

Redz

My parents married when my mum was 24 and my dad was 42 they have been married over 30 years and are still as much in love today as they were then, if you love her go for it lifes to short for if's and buts

good luck x

xangel123x

age is just a number...if she's mature enough and you get on and have stuff in common (which it sounds like you do), then go for it. the best relationship i've ever had was with a guy 23 years older...it worked out much better than with guys my age and if she prefers older men there should be no greater chance of her cheating on you. i know that i especially wouldn't cheat on an older guy because i have more respect for them. if it's her decision to settle down and marry as well then i think you should be fine. good luck!

...

No there is not problem with an age difference like that. Talking with experience, but when you get older she will wonder what she has done.
I was in a relationship with someone 15 years older than me, then I married someone 11 years older than me.
When I was younger it was fine but now I am 41 and she is 52, it is getting hard for me to stay.
The same thing happened in the first relationship.
So look for someone who is closer to your age as one day the difference will make a difference.

Hema

Im a girl. altough ur asking 'what do you thing, GUYS' i am still answering it. ahha.. hope you don't mind! well, take it slow, and if she loves you, propose. dont think or worry about what other people will say. maybe they're just trying to advice you, but keep ur chin up high n foloow ur heart. good bless~i wish you good luck!

Ann F

if she's like 25 and you're 37, that's fine. But 19 is a very young age for someone (at least in our times) to get married. yea, she might feel that she's being cheated of life and start to live her own. If you're in love at 19, the tendency is to go overboard, like she can't live without you, want to have babies... but when she gets at least 21, she would start thinking, "hey, I've advanced my life too soon." especially if she sees friends or other people her age to be enjoying life and spring breaks and dating... or travelling. Sorry, I think you have to wait for 3-5 years more. If she does love you, time would really test your relationship. good luck.

willzz

i was 33 and divorced when i met a lady who was 19, we got on really well, we have now been together for 22 years, happily married, we have a son 8 years old and we still have loads of fun together. i find that the biggest problem with the age gap is other people, they will constantly remind you of the difference and constantly imply that it won't work, do yourselves a big favour, forget the age difference and just be yourselves, if you have been together for 2 years then you are already proving the critics wrong, follow your heart and your instincts. good luck.

Robbo31

I think you are right to have concerns......for two reasons..

1. She in her own right is so young [regardless of your respective age]....does she really know what she wants...she is barely more than a kid in som many ways and has so much living to do....is settling down with kids now really a good idea for her?

2. The age difference at the moment is no difficulty at all....you are a healthy athletic guy.....but give it a few years and why she is still blossoming there is no doubt that age will start to catch up with you...and your outlook and get up and go might diminish as a result.....that's when the age gap will become prominent....

In 10 years she will still be in her 20s and you will be in your 40s.......and with say 3 youngish kids running around......

I know I will be shot down as love should win through...but I am not sure kids for the two of you given the age gap is sensible...being together seems fine....

Good luck.....

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