Does he mean it or is he being selfish and what can I do about it?

iheartamericaneagle07

Have you ever had a teacher who didn't throughly check homework or stick to due dates? And then you take advantage of that right?
That's how the kind of guy he is, works. I had a boyfriend like that too, but much much worse. I will say that even in retrospect, I truly think he was sorry every time he did it. BUT that didn't stop him from continuing to do it, because he knew I would always be there.

If you want it to stop and you want to keep him in your life, you are going to need to use more than your words. You need to do something that you have never done before to prove that you REALLY mean it this time.

The next time he pulls something, tell him you need space for a couple of days with no talking, and STICK TO IT. show him that it is NOT okay to do this to you. Maybe then he will see the way his actions are affecting you and see that you are serious and he really COULD lose you.

Make sense? Good luck girl, been there, done that and its NOT easy =/

Liz

Look for someone new. These are big red flags of trouble in the future. They all promise to change & never do.They will tell you what you want to hear to keep you from leaving. Been there,done that.Don't waste another day on him.Life is to short. Have more respect for your self & do not take his nonsense. You can do much better.

mochabiznswmn

Look for other people..these are the signs that this could end up in domestic violence court..this is not love...he has a rage of some sort and eventually it will escalate to physical abuse if he can not control you...just know this is never o.k. and this is a sign of run..they make excuses and say that they are gonna change and it never happens..he needs to get help and you need to move on...

JeNnn

I think he is being selfish. And its obvious he doesnt trust you for some reason. If he did then he wouldnt be so smothering. And dont let him throw that line at you "It's not YOU I dont trust Its the MEN I dont trust" Thats Bull! Because it takes two to tango and hes obviously smothering you to make sure you dont tango with anyone else. Now normally I'd say just to dump him and move on to find someone truly deserving of you. But since you mention you're deeply in love with him. I would seriously sit him down and have a talk with him. This talk is going to seem alot more serious to him when you sit him down to talk with him about it rather than the talks yall have when you're forgiving him for something he has done wrong. But anyways, Let him know that he means the world to you but he is slowly pushing you away by acting the way he is acting towards you. By the end of this conversation if you truly mean anything to him and if he truly doesnt want to lose you. He will take steps to change. It might not happen over night. But as long as he is showing some signs of getting better with this. It should make you happy. And It could possibly be that the girl before you or the girl before her hurt him and he is taking it out on every female he gets serious with in fear of it happening again. But either way he needs to be able to distinguish between the two relationships and treat you as your own person. Well, good luck. I hope this helps you out.

kim h

He is being selfish and these are the signs of an abusive man. He might not physically abuse you yet but he will. When he does he will blame it on you. No it is not worth it, I would get out now.

ricky

Sounds like the two of you are not a good fit for each other. It ain't gonna work.

cloeodpaenr1

My Husband and I argue so so so so much too. He drives me crazy and still I am so madly in lov with him. the questions to ask youself is are we forvever? Does he hold my purse going into the store? Does he get me a glass of water so I dont have to get up when were watching tv? everyboday gets to everybody. Relationships sour but Love, real love lasts thru those bad times... Ask yourself also is argueing with him better than not argueing at all. Im not on his side here. He should definately re-evaluate his tactics but if your in love and he is (make sure he is) then he is worth arguing with..

Nikkimarie

I had a bf the EXACT same way. I truely do not beleive that he means it. I think that he is saying what he thinks that you want to hear, so that he can make you forgive him. I think that he'd tell you that he'd buy you a car if that's what it took.

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