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We have been married for 13 years. We married young we were both 19-20. He cheated many times that I found out about and was violent at times, he lost all our money and we had to move from our house to an apartment and we lost our boat and nice exotic cars. I couldn't take anymore and left him kicked him out and put an order of protection against him. We have 2 kids together and I just wanted him away from us. It has been 3 years we have lived together and been together (yet not offically) off and on during this time. But I have got upset threatened him an called the cops few times and he has gotten violations of the order I placed against him. I started dating someone and going out in public with him, he got my pregnant and then doesn't want anything to do with me. I moved back in with my husband (seperated though) in Decemeber we slept together only once since then but he has been so kind to me always taking me in helping me with this pregnancy when the guy I was dating wouldn't so I asked him a week ago if he would give us another chance. He said he had to think about it and then said yes and our boys were so happy and crying. But we have so much that has happened between us do you think we have a real chance or we are doing this out of convience and what's easiest? i know he has been with other girls during this time and know he did have feelings for one but said he is willing to only be friends with her and give that up for me.....how long can we be happy and do you think we have a real chance? I know he struggles with the fact this baby is not his and I am due in June and not sure how it will be for him to raise another mans baby.....
10 minutes ago - 4 days left to answer.
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i do think he has changed and he says he thinks i have. most of all i haven't changed but he has just given me love and kindness when i don't think i deserved it he tells others its just about our kids but i know better that he does love me...but he has always had a wandering eye and trust i know will be an issue for both of us...but we feel happy how cause it's new to be back together agian
we don't plan to go to counseling...
it adds extra stress to our realtionship because since my husband has been kind and taken me in his family will not talk to him and they all are against him because they hate me now.... so we have NO family support at all...just us and our kids...only one who will talk to him is his mom and even she does not want me in his life or trust me and i only have my brother who is married to my husbands sister and since she hates me my brother is on her side and wont talk to us either....
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mvp88
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LEAVE HIM GO ON WITH YOUR LIFE |
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It sounds like you want to stay.
First off, people don't change...improve, but don't change.
Marriages that last 20, 30, 40 and 50 years are made up of stories like this...whether told or not.
Now that you are pregnant for another man, places both of you on even ground...he cheated numerous times and now you're pregnant for another man. He now knows how you felt all those times, he went out and gave himself to others.
To make a final decision, you will need to have an in-depth discussion with your husband to include the lack of extended family support. If you plan to stay, the both of you must stick together like glue.
Remember that marriages and life are not the fairy tales that we are told, they are just like what you are going through now.
Whichever decision you make, make certain that you are making the decision based on what is best for you and your family, and no one else. For people will ALWAYS criticize.
Some can deal and some can't, that makes the difference in who stays and who goes. |
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Moi
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I honestly think you should go for counselling
You guys can be happy again and the fact that he accepts you and your baby is a great proof that you still a a great chance to be happy.
But get some professional help to put things in order for you , him and your kids
Good Luck
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BikerChick
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NO CHANCE. Quit wasting your time. |
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shelly belly
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You can do so much better, honey. You deserve better. I know it's hard, but try to think of whether your mother or grandmother would be happy about that relationship. Those are the people who know what you deserve, get in that mindset.
Help mine?
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