Does this make me a cheater?

i got into an argument with my wife over something real dumb, she got on my case for not helping with the house cleaning last week.....it took a few days but it was settled...but what she doesnt know, is that in the few days we werent talking with eachother, i went to a massage parlour....never done it before, but i kinda justified it to myself cause of our fight. it gave me a sorta sneaky fun knowing i wouldnt be caught.....

i dont think i ll do it regularly, but i can see how some men with weaker mind-sets get involved in these things and wreck their marriages...i sorta felt it kind of rejuvenated me. if it means anything, i am 22 and my wife is 24. been married the last 4 years....

adwoa

i'd say that if you don't feel guilty and it made you feel better, there is no problem. just forget about it and don't do it too often

Shannon

... happy-ending massage parlor? or just a massage?

Siggi

You cheated dude and you know you did no need for you to ask us here

Barry D

Yep your a cheater! Way to go!

rjsr45

It makes you a cheater, imagine your wife doing the same. How would feel about that? Every time you go close your eyes and imagine your wife doing the same.

happier days

you're a dirty slimeball.

Shannon T

wonder what She is doing to get"rejuvinated...

ashlesha19

cheater. dont go again

soozemusic

A massage is not cheating. But a massage that includes the pelvic/groin area is. Only you know why you feel you may have cheated.

rieny

Be careful about the path you are going down. The pain in the long run is not worth the lady behind the screen. I heard that if you couldn't or wouldn't do it in front of your spouse then that is cheating. put your energy elsewhere the guilt is a pit.
Don't take the love of yours for granted be lucky that you are creating a life and memories together. I know that sounds cheesy but if my ex and would have respected our lives together then we both wouldn't be looking back at such a painful story.

Jamika

I believe that you already know the answer to your own question. You know that anytime that you have to sneak to do something that there is a reason. You should be up front with your wife, there are many men and women who enjoy massages without sneaking around to do so. Maybe this is something your wife would also enjoy having.
I do believe that if it is kept a secret that you could and most likely would become "one of those men with weaker mindsets and most likely you could in fact ruin your own marriage". This doesn't sound like something that you would like to have happen to you, so come clean. The best thing you can ever give your wife is complete honesty. I'm sure that you would like to recieve the same from her. Now days if you are doing something that you think isn't ok, don't be so sure that she isn't keeping something from you also. Honesty and openness in a marriage is the only thing that will keep your marriage protected from the outside world reaking havok on your most sacrad union. That and communication done in a loving and caring way. God bless your marriage, in a time of throw away everything. Be strong and protect yours.

Open R

If you gust got a message nothing else then no. But your taking steps you should be very careful with. Talk to your wife make things right with her. If you cant then get divorced and then and only then move on.

nikkistar

Regardless of age, it makes me wonder what your issues are really about and what really happened at the massage parlour? Maybe to make your wife feel loved, she needs you to do "service" like help with the housework. What about you? Do you need more "touch" to make you feel loved? If you want to have a committed relationship, both of you need to be open and honest with each other, which means yes...being vulnerable. The following book is very helpful in discovering who each of you are and how to help your relationship work, provided of course, that is what you want to do.

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