Does this really mean anything?

Ten months ago I found out my boyfriend of 7 seven years had been sleeping with his married boss for two months (she has two kids), he chose to be with her, I told him I hoped it was worth it, walked away and we haven't spoken since. Then I saw him out on Saturday, we spoke briefly. He didn't look good at all, kind of run down. I made the conversation brief, as I still miss him and my heart is still broken, and I didn't want to get into that with him. I acted very happy, and have no idea if he is still with his boss. What I don't get is he asked to hold my hand over and over and I said no over and over, I ended the conversation soon after. If he wanted to be with her so badly why in the hell was he asking to hold my hand? Does that really mean anything?

lonely

He is learning a valuable lesson right now. Keep healing yourself. Rub happiness of yours in his face. Don't show him you still love him, but you can be there for him just a little. If you let him stay miserable longer you may actually decide to take him back and he may even not cheat again as he will realize what he almost lost the first time and not want to lose it forever. Also while you heal you may decide you don't ever want him back and that is ok, you will just be stronger in the end

Monica J

I think it means hes eventually realised what hes done.
He misses you badly but you done really well by sticking to your guns and not letting him touch you at all. This is encouraging him to move on as he has the impression that your doing just fine without him (even if your hurting a bit)
YOU KNOW he will only cheat on you again so please don't start to feel all sorry for him. He has 'made his bed' and is now feeling bad.
Be strong. Stick with what your doing will be better for both of you in the long run and i think you know this.

Garry J

Maybe he realised that the grass wasn't greener on the other side

naughtybutnice_92

He most likely realized it wasnt worth it and misses what he had instead of being with someone who was just an affair and who is married and has 2 kids but i dont think u should go back with him because he did cheat on u

eagledreams

He made a mistake and now he is regretting.
Do think long and hard tho before you weaken your resolve to be without him in your life. It could repeat all over again.

Just Surfin

Good for you for walking away! It sounds like he's finally realizing what he's lost, and his boss probably dropped him because she's married and it wouldn't surprise me if he lost his job because of it.

I wouldn't go back to him if I were you. Stick to your guns.

CoffeeCup

people always want what they cannot have.... you can rise above this forget him forget her... if you let this consume you you'll damage yourself so take a deep breath in and let it out..... chapter closed... next!!! ye have to be cruel to be kind... to yourself!!!

Susan

after 7 years he cheated - think about that broken trust. he's reaching out to you because he can't have you anymore. your strength in walking away has gotten his interest. he'd do it again, don't fool yourself - you've ended it, keep it that way.

opinionated

I'm not sure how old you are or how many relationships you've had but life is too short. I know you probably feel bad for him, looking run down and all, but think of yourself first, you deserve someone to treat you the way you want to be treated! You choose what kind of people are allowed to be in your life, ask yourself, what kind of people do I want to be surrounded by? Is he one of them? Think about it.

JMB

People never realize what they had until it's gone. I know it's hard for you, but wait until he contacts you. If not, then it was nothing. See how he pursues the relationship. If he wanted you back, it would depend on if you could forgive him and trust him again. Good luck!

Mittmouhd

this guy really likes your pants

Lorang

Sounds like he's had a rough time recently. If you care about him, even if you don't want to be with him anymore, maybe you should consider talking to him. You could use the closure either way, I'm sure it will help you move on so you don't have these lingering questions.

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