Does this seem fair enough?

I think it is but I just want to be safe.

Hubby and I are divorcing, haven't talked to a lawyer yet but this is what we have agreed to:

He gets :
the little loan
1/2 the credit card
Van payments till the new year
kids every other weekend 2 weeks a year (more if he wants)
He has to request to be station close to the kids

I get :
1200 Child support (three littles )
400 spouse support for 3 years
1/2 the CC debt
Van payments in Jan (i will have5 years left on the loan)
1/2 his bonus for the next 2 years

been a stay at home mom since oldest was born.
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I have tried he told me before he left for work on Monday that it was over, I have been trying to get help but he wouldn't go to the sessions :( .

the material stuff he can have what he wants (can take, in military so limited storage)

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As long as you can maintain the payments, and have enough to live comfortably, then yes it is fair. You do a job which is worth far more important than his, you raised the children, a 24-7 job and though it is a wonderful job, it is a difficult one. you deserve as much as you need to make sure that you don't have to worry, worry on top of raising children won't be easy.

HUGS
Be happy life is too short :)

Jessica M

It seems fair, but just to safe I would talk to a lawyer.

That's obvious that she has to get a job, you moron!

ironman

sounds good to me. but if your not happy dont do it

LuvThosePurpleShoes

can you survive on 1600 a month? Im not sure where you live but that doesnt sound like a lot of money. Are you splitting up the funds in the bank accounts? 401K accounts? Savings accounts? All this future stuff is fine and dandy but who gets the house? Who gets the couch? I know it sounds childish but its all nice now but once people lawyer up things could turn ugly?

after the 3 years and the 400 a month stops what are you doing to do?

Sam

seems fair

RuthieC

Seems very fair. You are fortunate. Divorce is never easy. I hope that everything works out for you and your children.

sarahben87

Sounds far but I don't know what money situations you both have so it's hard to say.
But I think if you have both agreed and are happy with it. You should go ahead with it. Lawyers are too expensive your better off without one. Also they will start conflict between the two of you which isn't what you want specially with the little ones.
Well good luck and I hope it all works out you and your family.

Blades

That seems fair enough without financial disclosure. .You will need to get back to work soon and that will require child care will it not. Check the cost of this out closely as it can have steep cost.

Kiko64

Well congratulations on being able to successfully discuss things with a soon to be ex.
The fact that both of you already coming to an agreement will help with your divorce.
I think you have a fair agreement and if the lines of communication stay open any adjustments that need to be made, you both seem to have a responsible attitude in this.
Good Luck ;)

Onetoplay

Whatever you two can amicably agree on is fair. Try to keep the divorce stipulations agreeable. Arguing is what makes it more difficult for the children, let alone more stressful for the spouses.
If I were you, I would get my butt out there and find some type of career that you will enjoy OR go back to school and get a degree. Raising three children will be expensive. It will also give you pleasure knowing that you're doing your part for the kids as well as feeling good about yourself.

j.malco

sure seems fair enough.

Happy-2

I think what would be fair, to your three children, would be to work out your differences and make a good marriage for them. While you and your husband are working out what's fair between the two of you, it's your kids who are getting gypped.

wolfchai2006

Oh bless you, sorry to hear about divorce.
This seems fair to me. I would get it drawn up legally though, as sometimes even the "friendliest" divorces ends in tears and tantrums.

Robert

You haven't worked, don't currently work, and probably wont work anytime soon.

Yet you will get all that money from him..

Such a fair and balanced system we have..

Betty D

My God woman, give the poor man a break. A little greedy huh? Why not get off the couch and get an alarm clock yourself? And every OTHER weekend? How would YOU like to see your own children that little? Just get here, you make me sick.

Loco

Get a job.

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