Does your husband...?

Houdini

YES! Isn't it bizarre? And then he wonders why I don't feel like going out with them. It's absolutely ridiculous!

Mshell

I work with mostly men and THEY ALL DO THIS>>>gets very annoying!

â€ Evonneâ€

I know that my husband jokes around but it is always PG13.
He never curses or uses any obscenity. He is very respectful. He believes that fowl language is pure laziness.
-Well, his desire is to become a minister one day, so I guess you can see where I am coming from.
-God Bless.

Carimel

yes mine does that stupid stuff too. It makes me sick sometimes, and then once his friends leave or whatever, he's still stuck in macho mode and I have to tell him to stop cussing and don't call me "dude".

Lady B

Guys will be guys.

Just let it be! Its like women when they put on there high pitch voice and start screaming like little girls when there with there pals!

As long as he doesn't speak to you like it or in front of family then his not doing no harm!

Jenn

Let the boy have fun with his friends. Yes guys act like that. I grew up with five brothers and their friends and believe me it can get gross but thatâ€™s them talking and joking with each other. The reason why you see it more from your husband is because he is your husband so he feels comfortable with you. So he feels he can be honest or open with how he acts around his friends. Now if you tell him to stop you are going to make him lose face in front of his friends. So if itâ€™s not directed to you.

lisalisa

Normal normal normal.
Actually that is your real husband around his friends he is fronting in front of you.
Trust me if that is his biggest flaw then leave it alone and let him have fun!

I know exactly how you feel! My husband and I have normal conversations with out any swearing! Soon as his buddies call or even our own son, he swears ( son is 25yrs.old) Son swears only when very upset. Hubby did it thinking it was "cool" or made him younger. I told him straight out one night, I don't care how you talk to your friends at work, but when our son calls, what are you trying to prove by swearing? I hate it and I don't want to hear it any more! I also reminded him that we now have grand children, mind you he has never sworn around them! I told him, he is only degrading himself when he swears. It worked, cause now when buddies call I can hear how he has toned things down quite abit. I think by me saying this to him, he realized he was losing my respect for him! Tell him staight out, you hate it and you have no respect for people that swear!

arvindrenamed

Send to the store to buy tampons. Then make him carry your purse for a while. Make sure he doesn't portray a male and you will be happy? If he acted as though he was gay would that be okay. As much as you like to be feminine guys like to be masculine. Its a guy bonding thing. Live with it or you'll find him wearing your panties.

serenity975428

sounds like my hubby when he around all his tanker buddies. you hear so much profanity within 5 mins around them its insane. but its what they do.

Toffy

No not normal and shows a sign of immaturity....My husband and friends act classy around each other...Let your hubby know that this is alienating you by your standards and is not acceptable. Tell him if he only did this once in a while you might...might be able to get over it. All the time signals a problem you aren't willing or even desire to handle. He should clean up his nasty act.......

springchic

No, but my husband is different in that he does not use any foul language at all. That is usually my issue.

martybigballs55

I am a man and I recognise what you describe in my own behaviour. My girlfriend thinks it is just boys being boys and quite funny! I don't see much harm in it. Guys do need the company of other men, the matcho act is just "male bonding." Don't take this the wrong way but did you have any brothers?

my girls

most guys do this, but they don't like us to know about it. how many times have you walked in to a room full of guys and everyone is quiet? think about it, it is because they are being vulgar in their conversation and there is no way they can continue around you. i grew up with boys and i see it in my hubby when they are together and i does bother me a little bit but not to the point of getting upset. boys will be boys. i'm sure your man still laughs when he passes gas right. they will never grow up.

wisdom

How long have you been married? Is this a new behavior you're seeing? Most people tend to adapt to their surroundings or display the behavior of the company that they keep. To them it might be a cool, but since you are husband and wife talk to him let him know how you feel about it. Tell him it makes you uncomfortable. But don't try to laugh it off with him because somethings are just guy things. I guarantee if he surround his-self with different friends that don't talk that way he wouldn't either, I'm not telling him to change them you just talk to him about it.

A D

give him a break
hes been raised up on this
and he cant talk with you like this !!
it gives a feeling of closeness with other ppl he talks like this with

Pogo peeps

I think guys just act a bit differently around their guy friends than with us. They don't say mushy things to each other so bond by insulting each other. As long as he doesn't talk to you that way, or at work, etc, try not to let it bother you. Ask him to refrain while you're around.

The way he acts around his freinds should not even concern you. Dont let other people control your emotions. Dont let it bother you, if you dont like it find someone else. Dont compare him to your exe's. How would you feel if he said my wifes not as good at (Blank) as any of my x's?
Just be happy for what he is or look for someone else.

celticbuddha

i don't know about the whole testosterone thing. but i do know that it is extremely vital for a man's health all around for him to be very playful, and be able to hang with his friends and "play". granted your husband's behavior isn't exactly something to brag about. but it's probably helping him on many levels to have that outlet. i know my soon to be ex would relieve some tension and play really gory, violent video games. he'd often picture the bad guy as being his boss, and blow him up.

it's just one of those things that us women just will never fully understand because we'd never do it in the first place.

Trying2BNice

Why does this bother you? Is the language directed at you?

Who cares how he acts around his friends? Stop trying to control everything in his life.

California Dreamin'

I think men tend to digress when they are around their male friends. They feel like they are in high school again. It can be somewhat annoying but as long as he gets it out of his system when he is with them, then so be it. I just know I don't have to be around it and if they are all over at the house, I just go into another room and leave them to their fart jokes. *rolls my eyes* lol

Think of it this way though...if thats the worse thing they do, you've got it pretty darn good. I sure know I do!!

Sarah Sugar butt

Ahhh that would bother me as well!! Was he this way when you married him?? I'm thinking no children yet?? Would hate for them to hear that language !! Every time he does it ...let him know it embarrass you...roll your eyes and cover your face...every time..maybe he will think twice or not...I have a Christian husband and never uses foul language ...sounds like you have your hands full ...Just keep telling...I pray things get better..I feel for ya=)

Q-mama

Men do have a unique way of communicating sometimes. With a few of his friends, my husband does the same thing. Always calling each other names. Sometimes they just have to be men. As long as everything else in your marriage and your social life is fine, I wouldn't worry about this one.

The One, The Only Krandazzo!

no hes the same, either that or i never noticed, both of us have truckers mouths. lol not a good habit i know but its a hard one to kick.

dinny's engaged!!

no--my fiancee is the same with me as without me, and when he's around his friends he's no different. I wouldn't put up with a man that acts like that.

~Jenn~

My ex husband did something similar. At home he spoke fairly normal, to myself and our kids. When we'd go somewhere with his friends, he'd excessively swear and on top of that, he spoke some sort of ebonics, it was soooo embarrassing. He'd be like, "yo homes whaaas shakin?" Omg, I wanted to crawl under a rock. When I asked him about it, he said thats the way he talks with his buddies, I don't know about the whole testosterone thing, I mean, not ALL guys do that, so I doubt thats the true reason. I can't give you much advice, since I ended up leaving my husband, but I can say, I've been there.

Tapestry6

I never had a relationship with men that used profanity.
The only reason a man uses those words is to get attention. Its' low class and not necessary in any conversation.
Tell him if he wants to be a low life with the guys its fine.. but do not use those words in front of you again. If he agrees it will be better for you but if he continues.. start a jar with a quarter for every foul word he says. .then get some counseling this guy doesn't sound like a decent human being.

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