Don't be too quick blaming the wife please...?

arlanymor

I bet that he,s under some pressure and is wrongly associating his family life with that pressure.You sound like a decent woman and take pride in your appearance.I said the same to my wife when under pressure from business issues and it eventualy ruined my marriage even though i didnt really mean it.At the time i felt dead, numb inside, devoid of emotion and didnt care what happened from working 90 hours a week for years.Talk to him,you should know him by now but dont loose your self respect and overdue things trying to win him over.Treat him cool and perhaps he will come to his senses.Go out some nights on your own to a friends house and dont tell him where you are going.If he asks ,he cares.If not perhaps things are doomed to fail eventualy

RAVEN

you are painting a very superficial picture

how many times have you had a beautifully wrapped parcel only to be disappointed by the inside?

so you look good, and take care of yourself

do you communicate?
do you still enjoy each others company?
do you still do things together?
do you still miss him when he isnt there?
do you still think you will grow old together?

if you cant answer these questions with a yes
and him also

there is your answer
you could have simply become familiar with each other to the point there is nothing left to build on, you have to talk to him, you have to find out what he wants and expects, and lay out your wants & needs too,

i wish you the very best of luck

SuzyQ

There is more going on. Why does he feel this way? Is he in another relationship? Talk to him and go in for counseling if there is no one else, if there is and he wants out, why keep him trapped where he isn't happy? Life isn't fair. If he isn't willing to work on the marriage, you don't have a lot of choices. Sorry.

â™¥The Mrs.â™¥

So you are over 16 and still superficial...that's hard to love....

chevvyl

He`s having a mid life crisis. The agony aunts will tell you to compliment him on his looks, clothes etc etc., and he will get over the fact he is getting older, just give him time. Rubbish, give him the push, think about yourself, not the silly man looking for his youth again. You go find yourself a life without him, have some fun, then when the erring husband wants back, tell him to take a long walk off a short pier, because you won`t ever feel the same way about him again. He probably has had these feelings for a long time, could be he has somebody new, its something you might have to face. Your young, don`t despair, you can find love again. Good Luck.

misskelleygirl

Of course it's not you...

People change...And by that I mean...their wants/needs/expectations, change. It's all part of growing as individuals.

I doubt you've "done" anything to warrant his change.

I will say, that I hope he hangs on...and waits it out a bit, before making any rash decisions. I feel like many marriages end, because of quick decisions...

As you surely know, marriage is full of ups and downs. It's completely natural. So hang on there...this may just be a low-point...which will surely turn around and start the upward climb to a Peak!

katie2008

Ask him.

chris n

Poor you. Sounds like he's having his mid-life crisis and you are trying too hard. So the ungrateful sod says he doesn't love you any more and is waiting for you to make decisions for him? I wonder if he's sniffing around someone else to boost his ego and flattening yours in the process. I think I'd take the bull by the horns and instead of waiting for him to drift away or be dragged away, pack his bags for him and get yourself another life. Make sure you keep the house. Ask him to sign it over to you before he departs. You are in peak condition so without him dragging at your heels and giving you the poor me spiel, you will be the centre of attention which will boost your ego for a change. That will get his attention too....but he'll be too late won't he when he discovers what he's lost. Good luck.

There N Back Twice

I did a bit of reading on this because I'm in a similar (but reverse) situation, and the most interesting thing that I found was this gem: The good thing about marriage is that if you fall out of love, it will keep you together until you fall back in.

Ultimately, you can't make someone love you, though. If things don't work out, it sounds like you'd be a great catch for another man who would appreciate you.

Jamie

Men age gracefully and women over forty look like anteaters. He is probably sniffing around for some younger tail. Sorry, dear, but lingerie on a close-to-fifty body will not substitute for the sweet lips of a nineteen year old snapper.

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