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michael c
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Believe me, its not all men. If he is acting like that, he actually might be the one that has something to hide. Many times people who are cheating (god forbid that he is, I don't wish that on you at all) do the most accusing. He may think that everyone works the way he does and so he automatically distrusts and suspects you. It might be time to ask him a few pointed questions and find out if this is the case.
I will say that some guys that have been hurt or cheated on before do find it hard to trust completely (I went through this myself at one time) but if you sit him down and look him in the eye and swear to him that he is the only man for you (like my fiancee did) it should alleviate some of his problem. Good luck. |
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IconNick
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I've got bad news for you - this control freak is only going to get worse through time until he chokes the very life out of your marriage completely. |
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pitchingcoach
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Leave the cell at home. People can't seem to take a sh!t without one anymore. |
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HeatherzFeatherz
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nope he is just being an *** |
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jamand
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Nope - you are not being unreasonable - he is!!!
You need to tell him this as well - he is embarrasing himself and you |
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♥ Mommy Hayes ♥
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HONESTLY-If I were you I would look into your husbands lifestyle b/c sound to me like he has a guilty conscience. I can almost garauntee if you do some digging you will find that HE IS up to no good! See for yourself. |
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D B
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no- he is operating a double standard.
Tell him to get help for his jealousy issus and grow up fast. |
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Dellboy from UK
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What a plonker he is!! You need to have a talk and sort this sort of stupidity out |
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Equinox
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Double standards of an unreasonable man. You know what - just keep texting him when he's out even if he goes ballistic and then tell him he does the very same thing to you. If he's getting annoyed, so do you when you're out with friends. I usually call instead of text and ask my husband what the heck he needs now when he knows I'm out with my sisters.
Hey! I think your husband just posted a question!! |
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just me
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Me thinks he protests too much |
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david g
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sounds like a guilty conciense. somebody that acts that way is probably doing something he is not suppose to be doing ok.so when he text messages u dont answer back .he may go nuts but i think dont know of course that he is the one who has something to hide.and start texting him as many time as he is you. sounds childish but maybey he will get the point maybey. |
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TERRY C
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looks like the little green eyed monster is sitting squarely on his shoulder.
tell him that if you lock a tiger in its cage, he will find a way to break out and escape but if you leave the cage door open, he may wander but he will always come back.
you are a person not a possesion |
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diquarry
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no, you're not! tell him you aren't going to put up with it. he is being very controlling & if it doesn't stop now it will only get worse. is he violent when he goes ballistic? or does he look as if he may not be able to control it? you can't live like this & he either starts to trust you or you seriously need to think about leaving. sorry! diane. |
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Ms. GTO
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You aren't the one with the problem...he is.
It's hard to be in a relationship as "equals" when there are different standards/rules for you and him. |
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sarah71397
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not unreasonable try turning your phone off 4 day |
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chocolatelovely2002
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Honey hes unreasonable. My husband before we got married thought he called my cell phone and I did answer he could go ballistic. That was a big mistake. I let him know if were getting married your a husband not my farther and don't be confused about your roll in my life. Have not had any more problems like that. My question to you is how long are you gonna put up with his behavior? Only you can say enough is enough! |
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SLINKY
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Thats madness. Id be tempted to keep all his texts and constantly forward them to him next time hes out! Spam him back with his own unreasonable pesterings!!!! :) Maybe he will get them message, no pun intended. |
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Gidget
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I could be completly wrong here but it sounds like your husband is the one up to no good.
It sounds like he is up to something and gets all defensive when you text him as he is trying to hide it. He then presumes that because he can get away with it so easy, you must be doing it too, hence all his checking up on you.
Like I said, I could be totally wrong, and hope I am, just be on your guard.
Best of luck! : ) |
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makeloans2
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He's a controlling a $ $. Tell him what's good for the goose is good for the gander. |
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rdwnglvrfan
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he's unreasonable what does he have to hide?if u r texting him with no answer then what is he guilty about? |
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twinmommy
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Sounds like he has a MAJORLY guilty conscience!!!! I would say he is very insecure, but the fact he doesnt want you contacting him would suggest he has something to hide and he just has a guilty conscience and is trying to catch you doing the same thing he is.
Explain to him clearly that he always texts you and accuses you -ask him does he think his behaviour is reasonable? If he thinks it is reasonable to contact you....then it is reasonable for you to do the same to him - simple as!
Ask him why he feels it is ok for him and not for you?
Good luck, and dont take any c**p, men lie and cheat and then try to make it feel like your fault! Trust your instincts!!! |
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buggerlugs
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he does this because of his own insecurities-he has to work on these or hell end up losing you-i have a mate that this happens to-now she just turns her phone off or puts in on silent ye he got mad the first few times but now he knows the score hes stopped bothering-remember he does this because he can........... put a stop to it now |
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star69
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It may be that he has something to hide. Assuming you are behaving in a certain way is often a sign its on his mind because that's exactly how he would behave....
It's also showing a huge power difference in your relationship that he feels he can treat you this way. He's not showing you the same respect he demands. Point out this double standard to him. If he gets annoyed, maybe you should consider that he is, in fact, cheating. |
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Tara
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You are "right-on-target".
I know a lady who keeps her cell phone with her at all times. If her CELL phone does not register a call from her husband .. then her husband gets really-really mad ... and he accuses this lady of all kinds of things. This lady is great - and she does nothing wrong. The lady cannot help that the cell phone did not send the call. However -- if the lady calls the guy and cannot get him ... then he does not care .. and everything is fine with him.
This same lady (wife) began receiving emails from secretary in the office where her husband worked. The wife had never met the lady - she had never talked with the lady .. just nothing .. then she started getting these emails from this secretary who told the wife how wonderful her husband was .. how he helped her so much - and she would tell the wife of conversations which the wife & husband had previously had together (this secretary knew about them). The husband did not care what his wife was being put through with this secretary .. he just lied about a lot .. and said he didn't know why the secretary was doing this.
One night while the husband & wife were sitting at home .. the phone rang and the wife answered it ... it was a gentlemen who had business with both the man & wife. The wife answered a few questions asked to her .. and the husband got SO mad at the wife for talking on the phone for just a few minutes .. he just stormed out of the room.
Things like this go on all of the time for this lady.
It is so true ... the guy can dish it out ... but they guy can't take it. This guy makes his wife's life so miserable with things which are stupid ... yet he has no real concern for her feelings ... just his feelings.
You are NOT being unreasonable.
For some men ... it is ... "I" can do it ... but YOU better not do it.
Also - this same guy will go spend nights away from home doing his favorite sports things .. or with one of his friends ... but the wife better not ever do it. (Go figure). |
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sparkleythings_4you
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He's being controlling, just don't reply to all of them, reply to a few, he has to learn to trust you, otherwise I'd keep calling and bombarding him as well and giving him a taste of his own medicine. He's being a real pain, I lived with someone like that for 2 years and it was 2 years wasted, they never change, possessiveness is a slow poison. |
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Veritas
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Well, you have invited them out and they haven't disappointed. The sisterhood, I mean.
The only thing I can think of, is that you are receiving texts in a social setting, and therefore, they are probably easier to respond to. Now, it depends what type of work he does, meetings, work colleagues taking the mickey etc, as to whether it is presenting him with some sort of problem at work. If so, he should explain. |
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Tuesday
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Ive always heard this but yet may not be true:
Ive heard that if a guy is constantly accusing you and so on than they might be hiding something.
Something to think about....... |
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Marble77
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Number one I think he is up to no good.Number two you should not be texting him during his me time and vice verse.Number three,you are being reasonable to find this double standard unreasonable.But there is a wackiness here that should be addressed.Your text seems vengeful,his asinine.Just get rid of those stupid cell phones!But seriously,You two need to have a talk.Set up some rules specify in the situation described,only call if there an emergency. |
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2008girl
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Maybe, one day, you need to come home and "show" him all the texts. Plan to go out for the day and then when you get home, sit down and physically show him all of them. Then, ask him why he does that and why he goes ballistic when you text him once. Ask him why it is okay for him to text you so many times and he gets angry when you text him once. Ask him simply to "explain". When men see the proof in front of them, they will more likely understand. Tell him you love that he thinks of you and that you simply want to return the thought and wondered what the problem was. Best wishes! |
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jane & john doe
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mmmm
he has a problem...
jane |
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DjRobin69
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Jealousy is such a negative emotion. It can make both of your life's a misery - the sooner he gets over it. The better life Will Be for the pair of you. |
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