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ndnqt1966
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For me and my husband it has changed....we have grown even closer as a couple since we got married two years ago...Doesn't mean we don't have our differences...but we strive to not let small disagreements and differences of opinions become a bone of contention in our marriage.... |
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baserunner316
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change is part of any relationship! they all require trust and communication. if you both work on these you will go a long way to having a good marriage. any relationship at any level takes work. |
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SuzyQ
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I lived with my first husband for two years prior to our getting married. We were married for 24 years. After years of trying to make it work, I left him (after the kids moved out). We are still friends and he still loves me but he wasn't the father I needed him to be. I was a married single parent if that makes sense. He should have been honest with himself and realized that he really didn't want to have a family and I did. I didn't want to replay the same when it came time for the grandchildren. Anyway, I was never bitter about marriage, I just had my family with the wrong man. Two years after the divorce, I am engaged to the man I was meant to be with. We love each other and I know I will be with him for the rest of my life. It's not easy to be married for a long time. You go through cycles of change and sometimes it is more than you ever thought you would have to endure. You do though and many times you come out stronger for the effort. I wish you the best of luck!
Side note: My youngest (daughter) just had a baby 6 months ago. My fiance is a wonderful grandpa to her and loves her as much as I do. My ex has seen her maybe twice..... |
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drewxjacobs
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Nothing stays the same. For some it gets better, for others it gets worse. That's why it is so important to be compatible in more than just a few ways. |
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daljack -a girl
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Marriage is what the couple makes it.
BOTH....people have to want the marriage to work.....and they BOTH have to be willing to do what's necessary to make it work..
Personally I think marriage is wonderful....it's the best thing I've ever done....and I'd do it again in a heartbeat. |
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justafriend2u
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If you marry someone hoping that they will change all the stuff you dislike about them just because you're married now...that's not going to happen. The things that bother you now will bother you that much more when you're married, if you don't find a way to deal with it before you get married. |
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Issued
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Marriage is a good thing but you will find it to be a lot of work... if your not willing to work at it .. it wont work out i promise you that.. love will not be enough .. you go through some pretty rough times and it may get un barable .. just remember you married that person for a reason and better days come.. but with the bad comes the good.. there are so many great aspects of being married!!! I hope everyone wil one day get to expeirence it |
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ironman
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Sometimes things do change after marriage. Since he has you as his spouse he could start to dictate how things should be done. He may want to control the money . he may tell you NOW that you are married he can control a lot of your private life.
People feel that they can lay down the law and the rules and regulations after they have married you, |
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daisyrose
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marriage is what you both what it to be, we took the vows for better or worse |
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a n
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hmmm: THe question of all newly to be spouses:
the good: sahring moments of life with your loved one and knowing they are their thorug well the good the bad the ulgy etc..
The bad: never having the first date feeling and you need to work to keep the marriage exciting! FULL TIME JOB!
The beautiful: regardless of the bad day you had you are able to know when you come home you have set of arms that will hold you, kiss and make it all better for you! You are the center of each others life and you will do everything you can to make each other happy
The ugly: you will face many challenges that will test you will, love adn patience and if you are not clear from the beginning then you are doomed . You need to know nothing is perfect and all is well if you are able to compromise-selfishness will probably work for a while but eventually it will crumble the marriage. |
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roses
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it definitly changes....some good...some not good....i love going to bed at night with my hubby, and taking care of him....but then its meshing 2 personalities....so of course its difficult....i would never go back and change things if i could....because its worth the work.... |
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boxmaker40
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Yes. I've been married for one year, and this is my second marriage. They don't all work out, sometimes we settle for things we don't really want.
Everything in life changes. Learning how to deal with changes as they come, and having a loving and trusting relationship is all it really takes to have a good marriage. But you have to have that before you get married. |
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MIGHTY GOONER!
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Yes |
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stl_luna_7
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Yes.. but it doesn't mean those changes can't be for the better.. too much is placed on the younger years and couples forget to love each other.... or just stop caring... |
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robert x
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At first everything Will be great because the experience is new! - Gradually though over time things do change . its about familiarity - and comfort! - People get used to each other! - life will become perfunctory.. it used to be called the 7 year itch.. now that itch can come at anytime! so beware!. |
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chimp
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well i certainly found a change in my hubby after i got married to him, he became possessive towards me, jealous of me, wanted to know where i was or what i was doing all the time. he started to hit me at first but after a few years he stopped this. |
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mrsbates
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change isn't always bad. hubby and I have our share of arguements, but I love him to pieces!!!!!! it takes ALOT of work, no matter if ur young or old, u gotta be willing to DO THE WORK it takes to keep a marriage alive.nowadays, ppl are just getting lazy and filing for divorce left and right. u have to be abled to remind urself, that I goes away, when WE got married. |
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the_silverfoxx
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change is part of any relanship. when married . my opion? |
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brown sugar
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Marriage is what you two make it-there will be some ups and downs, but if the two of you can work through them you can have a good marriage-everyday will not be peaches and cream, some days will be like a sour lemon, but if the two of you can stand up like grown ups and say that this is a part of marriage than you two can have a good one-you have to learn to take the good with the bad-I have been married for 25 yrs and we are closer now-because we hung in there and we have a good marriage. |
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deluded58
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Thing really change after marriage. I dated my husband for 4 years and he was as sweet as pie, so affectionate and caring. A soon as we married, we could not agree on a thing. I came to find out very quickly my husband was a complete control freak. He wanted to make the ultimate decision on everything. He could not give you credit for anything you did, he would take the credit for everything. One day I asked why is it that it is so much different now than before and he told me, "well I had my game face on". Now I don't know who I am married to. I could kick myself everyday for my poor judgment. |
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Derke N
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You will work painfully hard to preserve the happiness of your partner and as a result will be content. Or you will neglect the happiness of your partner and and feel great pain. |
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yourkiwiboy
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that depends on the effort you put into your marriage, and if you are a moral and faithful person... or if you are a positive or a negative person...
yes things definetly change after marriage... a year ago my partner hated my guts and would not let me see my kids...
I needed to change, and learn some new things... and now we are like fire and ice...
so yes it changes..... but its our choice for it to be good or bad |
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barbaraminor@btinternet.com
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yes things change...Good..you get to be with the one you love.the bad is that you didnt find them sooner..the beautiful is waking up to their smile every day ..the ugly is when God takes them away from you...and you know thats the end of happiness forever. |
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M L
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I dont think they do...
If you and your partner are both ready and mature enough to commit to each other then you will have a long lasting satisfying relationship!
I think its good to play the field when you are younger, have a look around and an an experimental phase and find out what you like and what doesnt work, you can learn by trial and error, and you are extremely lucky if you meet someone in a similar frame of mind!
I have had a few rubbish relationships but it made me realise after being single also, what i wanted from that other person... luckily i have met him!! now we are both older (28/29) and done our own thing in our earlier years I can see many years ahead with this person.. we are looking forward to our kids growing up, going places together, retiring together and we fancy each other so much! |
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johnblackstar
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of course things change not always for the best .....but the kids are Worth it |
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Who Knew?
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I think that depends on what your relationship was like before you got married |
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