Even though he couldn't help it I'm still angry?

Micah M

Depends on what he does for a living. My job would not let me show up late no matter what. I would have to call in sick that day. Some jobs are more relaxed. So if his job is laxed, then you can be upset; however, if his job is tough (and finding a new job right now does tend to blow) cut him some slack.

sunbun

yepper, let it go...not good for you or the baby

â€¢â€¢â—‹ PitBuLL â—‹â€¢â€¢

Yes would you rather him loose his job during a epidemic crisis as we are in right now?

Valerie X Account #20! At Last!

Welcome to the FIRST of many disappointments of motherhood!

Glad to have you with us!

Pick your battles! You'll be much better off for it!

Dana D

In these turbulent economic times, your husband did the right thing for your family! How "irate" would you be if your husband had been fired??

Give your husband a break. Do you even know how disappointed he most likely is at having missed this moment?

KitKat

Um, yeah, you should let it go. With a baby on the way, he needs to keep that job. It's not like another will fall into his lap. Yes, it was a big deal, but he had to go to work. It's ok to be hurt, but angry? No.

cjmessy

Yes, let this go. It seems like the biggest deal in the world right now, but this is small potatoes compared to the things to come. He made an effort to be there, and it just didn't work out. If it really means that much to you, purchase a fetal pocket doppler so you can listen to it whenever you want. They start at about $50...

Magic 8 Ball (Call me BILF)

As long as he is there for the birth and after, this is not a big deal.

You said yourself that he couldn't help it. Direct your anger at the Dr, who was running late.

Ms. GTO

Stress isn't good for you or the little one. Focus on keeping you and baby healthy. Best of luck and I hope your baby is born happy and healthy.

jaedee

yup let it go, i know that moment was a very speacial moment but there is always first, walk, first word, first bday, first pet, first everything....stress NO GOOD

poodle mom

yeah, you really need to let this one go. sorry, but its true!

little mama

You need to let it go. It's not worth holding a grudge over. Just try and make sure that he can make it to future appts....and actually stay until the dr gets there!

Mum of1

in this time and recession all over the world be thankful ur hubby has a job to go back to, he has keep in the lines of work as the bosses and companies will look for simple reasons to fire people to save some more money, so he keeping a job for money to keep roof over ur head, to get all the baby things and to make sure u are well looked after. leave it go, not his fault doctor was late so dont be angry ur hubby wants keep his job so u and ur child be well looked after - if u dont want him working im sure thousands out there who cant find work will snap up his place - so make up ur mind, u want him with job or with u 24/7 with no money!!!!!

Lil B

yep let it go...there are many more appointments

I love cooking!

I agree with everyone else, please let it go.

Lucy

Yes. Let it go. How do you know what goes on where your husband works. Guys don't tell us everything. Maybe he knew he was going to get chewed out or whatever.

In his defense, he was there and he only left because the doc was running late and he had to go to work. If he left because he was meeting friends at a strip club then you have an agreement.

I know you wanted to share it with him, but there will be other visits.

BTW...Congrats!

bored brunette

Have you read some of the posts around here? Be THRILLED that you have a husband who has enough maturity and responsibility to his family that he chose to be true to his job commitment.

sparkwing_dimond

im sorry but he might also be scared. You had a miscarriage not that long ago, he might be waiting till things are farther along to get attached. Men do stupid things when they are scared.

cougar

He wants to provide for you and your child. He sounds like a responsible father.
You can be understanding and say thanks for coming to part of the appointment, he is probably most likely disappointed himself that the doc was running late. Let it go. You never know what his work dynamics for being covered by someone. That may have made him in turn owe a cover to someone and he doesn't want to get stuck at another important moment for that and disappoint you again.
And if you just had a miscarriage, he may be nervous about your pregnancy now. Yes, you answered your own question. Let it go and focus on his actions that are all of the good things he does for you. I mean he came and put effort to hear the heartbeat, I would be angry at the doc and not at him.
Congrats on your upcoming delivery!

reschedule another appointment. Then see what he does..

djlasha

See if you can schedule another to include him and try to forgive

kttphoenix

No you can't juts get someone to cover for you. It doesn't work like that, and if you think it does, try working for a business that actually produces. Would you rather he conform to all the ticky-tack barf or would you rather he keep his job?

You should not only let it go, you should be gratefull you have a good man for a husband who works. Short supply of those.

The Lauren

Let it go. The stress isn't good for you or your baby. For a lot of men, the baby isn't 'real' until it's born. He doesn't have the same attachment to it that you do. It's not because he's insensitive or doesn't care or doesn't love the baby and want to be a part of the process. Some men just don't feel like fathers until after the baby is actually born.

Vicky

i would be annoyed as well emotions are running high talk to him tell him how u feel and also tell him that at every appointment he attends with u to turn his phone off. x

meghs

no! thats an important thing! even more so since you had a miscarriage, somethings need to come first and the first time you hear the heartbeat is one of them!

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