Ex e-mails me out of the blue and wants to meet?

joeinchino2000

He is probably going through some issues with his chick and wants to test the waters with you again. If you do meet with him, just bring your hubby along so the two can meet. That will keep the conversation on a friendly level and it will reinforce to him that regardless of how HIS relationship is going YOU are still happily married. 8-)

Brightside

He has not let you go. Tell your hubby and if you go, go with your hubby. He will back off.

If you want to be a snot call his wife and tell her you can't meet him for lunch.

Either say no..or if you want to go, say ok and Im bringing my husband.

msmonroe2003

If you are going to do it, you should be honest with your own husband to let him know, you owe it to him. Im sure you wouldnt want him meeting HIS ex for lunch and not telling you.

Angel Eyes

Sometimes, after scars heal and you can get past all hurt and emotions you end up being able to be good friends with your ex. Clearly he is someone you at one point of time cared for very much. As long as you've both moved on and are content in life its ok to be friends. He probably wants to meet just as friends to see how you are and build up a friendship. I would go... unless it is not OK with your new husband. If he has any concerns at all about it don't risk upsetting or hurting him for lunch.

krixty

I don't know but if I were you I would just ignore his e-mails I know that as a woman its kinda of exciting to be wanted but trust me no good can come of that...keep away!

aswkingfish

Lunch only in a very public place. You must also inform your husband of the meeting. Be honest and straight forward with him. No going back to the hotel with your ex, lunch and talk only.

Jen

sounds like a bad idea, and kind of fishy!! unless hes just wanting to be friends!

ahhimashark

give the guy a chance there a few things

1: if you guys were friends before you dated then he might want to make it right again.

2: maybe he just wants to make everything betweeen you guys good again seeing as it looks like you guys left on bad terms.

but i think its a good idea to meet up.

I_Love_McRedneck

Maybe he just sees you as an old friend he'd like to have lunch with.
If you go, be sure to tell your hubby - no need for him to find out after the fact & start to think you're hiding things from him.

jtbrick1208

Not enough information......but maybe he just wants to be friends. Maybe he just wants to reflect on the good times you had....even if it's just for a couple hours. It's lunch and apparently you won't see him many times. If you would like the conversation and his friendship.....go to the lunch. If you wish not to have any contact with him, let him know that too so you can avoid any future invites.

The Mentor

ASK YOUR HUSBAND this question. If you think he will be upset then why did you email your ex back??????????

If your husband is ok with it then meet, if not, forget it!

Otherwise you are just putting your marriage in jeapordy for absolutely no reason.

you never know

This is a bit complicated. I am not sure that you should meet with him and I am certainly not in a position to tell you what is right or wrong. If you want to meet with him, bring your husband along. That's my advice.

I would kindly reply and decline...
I get e-mails every once in a while from one of my ex's and I don't even reply -as there is nothing to say... BUT - if you are curious or want to meet for old times sake...make sure your hubby knows about it though - ask his opinion...I don't think my hubby would be too fond of me meeting an ex nor would I be to fond of him meeting his ex...so think about it well before you choose!

gypsy g

to have lunch? If you don't want to be friends with him then why do you answer his emails? Sever ties, then sever the ties! There is a way to get people out of your life and its called ignore them they'll usually go away...and if they don't then get a restraining order.

BigAndBeautiful

Say yes. Let's do lunch. Act normal, but bring your husband along. After all, if he really does want to be friends, he is going to have to make friends with your husband too. More than likely if he is trying to be more than friends, your husband will scare him off. If he is really serious, he will contact the both of you again, for another occasion.

Dani

When my dad died, I called my ex because I knew he would want to know. We met for dinner, talked about our families and caught up with relatives and old friends .... it was a nice
1 1/2 hour lunch. No sparks flew... no plans to meet in the future. It was a just a nice lunch. He also sent a beautiful spray to the funeral.

But you know this man. If you plan to meet, it very well might just be harmless. Two people getting together who shared a past. If it starts going another direction, you can always leave. But no matter what... make certain your husband is okay with this.

J-Dawn

Maybe he just wants to meet up and catch up and look back on old times. Maybe he wants more. We can't answer that for you. But you can't ever know for sure if you don't meet up with him. Talk to your husband and ask him how he feels about it. You never know, your husband might not feel too bad about you meeting up with him for lunch or something--especially if your relationship is a solid one built on trust. Figure out what boundaries your husband would feel comfortable with (i.e. lunch but no alcohol to drink; specific time limit, etc.) then e-mail your ex telling him those boundaries for the meeting.

Crapface

Don't do it. COMPLETELY inappropriate now that you are married.

Finn

It could be just a lunch.

A few conditions: if you want to go, tell your husband. Also, make sure he informs his wife. If everybody is above board, then there is no "he said...She said...." and above all no deception.

Understandably, if you are not comfortable in your own skin doing this then don't do it.

Best of luck....Finn.

ihatelilac

Because he wants to try and gets some from you. His "wife" was probably just a ploy to make you feel like you were missing out on something.

Determined

Well, I think he wants to still hook up with you, married or not, he has fantasies. If you and him had really remained friends, in the true sense of the word (sharing thoughts, dreams, asking opinions), then this probably would be just a friendly get together. Since it doesn't sound like you are friends, but just acquaintences keeping in touch, I think he is still hung up on you and wants more. Bring your husband to lunch, or be upfront with him before excepting the invitation to go alone and don't hide if from your hubby.

B-strong

He may just view this as lunch with an old friend. (Such things aren't unheard of.)

If you want to go and you're husband is OK with it, why not? You may have a good time and discover that you can be "just friends".

On the off-chance that when you get there he's interested in more than lunch, end it there and walk away.

m_c_m_a_n

Don't disrespect your husband no matter what this guys agenda is. Politely say no.

You already know what is right and it would seem that you are just looking for something to justify meeting with him.

Rob

He wants a booty call... get it?? so are you in?

beegirl

Some people just don't know how to let go. I would say no, but that's just me.

elvlayarvvi fEisty wife and mom

because he still wonders if he can have something w/ you... obviously he is not satisfied in marraige, don't go... don't meet up... tell him no... =) good luck in the rest of your life w/ your husband, keep him happy... and let your ex keep wondering... =) blow him off, permanently...! I'm mean, I blew off all men when I met my husband... =) all those exes can kiss my butt!!! =) lol! =) I won't give any of them the time of day...

jessikins33

Things may be rocky in his relationship and is looking for your support. Steer clear of him, it will only bring confusion, drama and unwanted phone calls by your ex. Tell him you're married, happy and have moved on and so should he.
How would you feel if you knew your husband was still in contact with a persistent ex?

laura1977

it's possible that he just wants to have a friendly lunch...i dated my first bf for 7 years, we broke up 8 years ago, and we are wonderful friends. he is also getting married in Dec. so it's possible that he just wants to be friends and catch up but it sounds like deep down you don't think it's a good idea so I wouldn't. Just tell him nicely thank you but you'll have to pass. I'd also stop the e-mails all together because THIS is what happens and it doesn't seem like you feel comfortable at all with it. Just decline and don't worry about it.

kckontagious

maybe he just wants to see you again or maybe he wants to harm you i do not know im not saying anything like this will happen but there is always the possibility rape im not trying to scare you but it has happened to people before

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