Family troubles!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!...

ok....my mom started cheating on my dad when i was in 6th grade we all knew she was.....and then on hallowween night that year my dad moved out and 3 yrs ago from now! (well actuelly last thursday!)
my mom met this guy named Randy they started dating and they have been together for three yrs they are engaged now and im still not used to him living with us and being with my mom! and its been 3 yrs wouldnt someone get used too that by now! my mom doesnt know! and i miss my dad living with me!! my mom changed alot! shes not like she use to be she practicly chose randy over my older sister she lives with my dad now! and they barely even talk i sometimes go to my dads on weekends but still i dont like randy being with us!!! it seems like hes trying to take over my dads place and he has anger issues!! he gets mad for no reason! and my mom does what he says and its like he runs the household and stuff!!! and talks bad things bout my sister and my dad!! and me and my lil brother and sisters all dont like him...........we cant talk about my dad at home!!! none of my friends even like him!!!!
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and also my mom is always with him!!! and i do tell my mom imma go live with my dad. i even told my mom i didnt love her!! i made her really upset and i dont know if i can leave my siblings with them!! my dad cant take all of them he lives in an apartment!

Sue C

What ashame for you children to be the ones who are suffering from your mom's wrong doing. This is what it all boils down to. This is truly unfair of her to have you kids be the ones who are being put as second best in her life behind Randy. Why don't you talk to your mom about how you feel you are being treated, & that is does hurt you & your brother. IF your mom doesn't do anything about it, honey, I'd talk you your dad if I were you, tell him like you did us here, & ask him if there isn't something he can do to have her change it, or if there's something he can do himself to change it & make it better for you kids. You should NOT be having to live w/an unhappy family, this is totally unfair of your mom to do this to you. Maybe just maybe all you kids would be able to go live w/your day, then you'd all be much happier. Try talking to your mom, tell her what you've said here, then IF you have to, tell your dad. Someone has to do something to help you kids be happy again. Best to you, honey...:)

bbt843

Time to talk to dad he sounds like he is a control freak and nothing good comes out of those kind of men maybe you should try to talk to your mom in privacy without him around and if it doesn't happen I would tell your dad and move out.

yoadriannejohnson

go live with your dad.

Darie

ummm wooooow, i'd ***** slap my mom if she ever got divorced w my dad lol

PLZanswerMYquestions

thats tough. if you havnt already you need to accept Jesus christ. say this simple prayer:

Lord Jesus, you know everything about me. Please forgive me for all the wrong things ive ever said or done. I know you died for my sins and rose from the dead. Please come into my life and be my Lord. Help me follow you always. Amen

you need to pray with jesus about it. He helps you so much! He will be with you and comfort you with your family struggles. God Bless.

BikerChick

OK, then you need to be telling your DAD all this.

massiel248

you never going to like him being there because of the way he is. you're always going to wish it was your dad instead. and as for your mother unfortunately some women forget that being a mother comes before being a woman to your man. your dad souns like a good father so dont pay any attention to randy unless he is being verbaly or physically abusive with any of you just ignore him being there. if he ever does get abussive call the police and move with your dad.

~*STAR*~

I'm sorry you're in this situation, I am a mother of two and I would be scared to bring another guy into the house specially with my daughter, no one will ever love some one else's kids like the real dad would. I would say you go live with your dad, unfortunately your mom has already made her choice and she seems like the type of woman that picks men over her own kids. I'm really sorry, take this as an opportunity to learn so you can become a better person when older.
Good Luck.

wowzer9

yep..family troubles if that is your question.

David

The same is with me, but it's my dad who got re-married to one of those evil step-moms. None of us in the family really like her and she talks bad about my mom all the time. for example.... "David, I cook things the way you like them, unlike your mother." IT PISSES ME OFF!!! Especially because I don't like her food lol. But usually having this attitude towards a step-parent lasts for a long time, or until you mature and accept the fact that they are like that. If I were you, I'd talk your dad and your mom. I'm sure they would understand what your going through.

raspberryph

This sounds ridiculous, this man sounds like a freak.... did you ask your dad to live with him? All you can hope other than that is that you can move out and go away to college soon. He sounds like a freak. If my mother did that to me and my siblings, I would completely break off contact with her. I know someone (a co-worker) who had a similar situation. She ended up moving out, getting an apartment by a nearby college and allowed her siblings to stay with her when they wanted. She also stopped contact with her mother... that is awful for your mother to put you through!

Why don't you talk to your dad about how you feel and tell him that you are not comfortable at all living with Randy? Your dad can call Children & Youth Services or else have a talk with your mother his self. I don't know what the details are and how old you are, so be careful to stay away from this man -- just avoid him.

Take up some hobbies, if you have younger brothers or sisters try to spend some time with them.... go to events around town, go play basketball together.... don't let them be at home with him if they dont want. Stick together... and also make sure you talk to your dad because it seems like he is your best bet here!

ricky

Your best option would be to go live with your dad if you think that is best.

I'm sorry your mom is confused, would be a gentle word.

amy a

I can understand your anger,and I feel sorry for you having to go through this, but what exactly is your question?

Miss Kitty

You use way too many exclamation marks in your writing.
It makes it very difficult to read.
But anyway... ask if you can move in with your dad.
If you can't get away from the problem, then you obviously just have to deal with it.
That would mean accepting the fact that Randy lives with you.
Either you find a way to get out of the house, or deal with what is going on where you live.
You have no other options.

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