Fiance staying at friends out for the night?

So as some of you might remember from reading earlier today, my fiance wants to start a family and I do to, just not right now because my younger siblings just moved in with us and my mom is ill and we had to postpone our wedding this summer because of all the stress.

Ideally, I didn't want a child until everything is back to normal. So tonight we went out for dinner, like we do every friday, I got beer and she got soda, she usually get wine. I asked her why she didn't get wine and she goes I took a test today and I'm pregnant. My jaw dropped. I don't even know how this happened, I've used a condom every time and I don't remember one busting, but thats a whole different story in its self.

So she says, "Colby, I guess your not happy about the baby?" I said, "You already knew I wanted to wait." She then didn't talk to for the rest of the meal or the car ride home. She gets home and tells me she's going to her girlfriends for the night to cool off since I hate our unborn child. Which I don't it's just the way it happened.

What can I do to make it up to her?
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I don't thin she would cheat on me. I think she'd be the type to put a whole in a condom to get pregnant because she's be whinning about it for a while.

Tyreece

Call her immediately and tell her that you were a complete *** at dinner and you are truely sorry. Be happy, you're gonna be a daddy..... Unless you don't think it is yours.... then its a whole different ballgame

hunter d

Listen to me..and listen well! U do not have to make-up ANYTHING to her! U stated how U felt about this! Made it perfectly clear! But what gets me is that U SWEAR that U used a condom every time & never remember 1 breaking? And now she is going to her friend's house "2 cool off"? I am wondering w/all the stress that U 2 have been going thru..if there wasn't a moment of "oops" & that baby is not yours! If U can HONESTLY never remember a condom breaking..then I would b wondering! Plus, she is reversing the guilt that she is feeling about cheating & trying to push it on U & make U feel guilty (U hate our unborn child). I would have a very serious talk w/her! And lay it on the line! Hold nothing back! U have every right to say what U want (waiting to have a child) & not b made 2 feel like the bad guy for saying it! Good Luck!

Nancy

You know her better than we do. It sounds like you are both extremely stressed out so let her go to her friend's house for the night but call her tomorrow morning and patch it up because what's happened has happened. I know you will do the right thing and I'm sure it will work out.

Maria

Everyone knows condoms are not 100% effective at preventing pregnancy, and they should be used with another form of birth control as well.

It's understandable that you were surprised -- generally the happy-as-can-be reaction comes when you've both been trying and hoping for a positive test. What was unfair was that she took the test on her own, and had time to digest the information before telling you, and she should not have expected your feelings to catch up to hers in a matter of seconds.

Bring breakfast to her at her friend's house tomorrow morning. It's fair to tell her she caught you by surprise, that it wasn't what the two of you had discussed and planned, but you wouldn't want anyone else to be the mother of your children, and if now is the time then so be it. Bring flowers, and the book What to Expect When You're Expecting. (You should both read it.)

You might also ask her again to marry you, and ask for it to be soon, a small wedding that is not very stressful to pull off. With the other stressors in your life, being united will help the two of you make it through.

Anna

She's probably just as confused and upset as you are. If neither of you know how exactly it happened she's probably a little panicky and fear will do a lot to a woman, not to mention the hormones her body is now producing. You should just call or text her something short and sweet, letting her know you're staying with her and you'll raise your child happily together, even if you've started a bit earlier than expected. She may not respond, but it will mean a lot to her and she'll be back by tomorrow. =)

Amanda

maybe its not yours. i mean its not like you totally blew up on her.. she shouldnt have left for the night, she should have stayed so that you could talk things out and find out what you should do from there.

things happen unexpectedly and your comment wasn't one that totally could have pissed her off enough for her to have to go cool down. you guys need to talk through it, makes me think she needed to go to this friends house to be able to come up with what she should do next since it may not be yours since the condoms never broke & such... good luck though

TrustingT

Condoms are not always the best method of protection. You don't seem disappointed, you seem doubtful of the fact this child is yours. Apologize sincerely, embrace her affectionately. Roses can help.

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