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leadguitarplay
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Dear lady....you must dump this guy! It's funny you never noticed any strange behaviour. This guy must be good at concealing stuff. I'm a man and I tell you ppl. doing coke can't be trusted.
I've been 'shafted' by an old friend whom I thought I could trust.
Stupid me...I let it happen twice.
That really sux especially that this is your first marriage. Keep your chin up don't despair! Dump the guy!!! Then take a break to give yourself time to find someone that loves you .....not the drugs... |
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shizzlechit
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This is tough but I'd have to put your son first. He's 18, yes, and he said "no". But, what if he had said "yes" and he became addicted to a certain drug.........and his step-dad was his fix! I'm sure you didn't know he was dealing or doing drugs or you wouldn't have married him but come on now.........his own step-son? Annullment is the word here..........plenty of guys out there. If he'd do this behind your back what else is he doing? What's your son thinking????? Good luck to you and stay strong |
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anoldmick
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Ah ha! Got all in a rush to get married, didn't ya? Look, kid, the sooner you're out of this marriage, the better. He WILL NOT change - you can bet the rent on that fact - the whole years' rent, in fact. And next time you meet an interesting guy - make the goddarn engagement long enough to REALLY get to know the dude! |
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free_angel
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Leave, him offering your son drugs should be enough to make you walk away for good. |
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punkin
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is this man a stranger to you ?is what he did unfamiliar to you ?what ever type person he was on September 16,he is still that person so I ask you do you know who you are married too?some times i think we women are too eager to marry,then when things come to light ,you say well should i stay?either you know who you are married to and you've accepted them for who they are or you don't know them and shouldn't have married the person you really didn't know.better make better decisions for your self in the future because it sounds to me you are not a young girl and should know better. |
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freeman3905@sbcglobal.net
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man let him go fast he is on drugs then he is no good to you or your son |
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fred
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You didn't say whether or not your husband admitted to what your son is telling you and what the "other issues" are. I guess you have to ask yourself if you love this guy enough to get marriage counseling and find out if this guy is really who you thought he was when you fell in love with him or is he a stranger. |
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kja63
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Ut oh, you married someone you really didn't know at all. I take it he was at least your 2nd marriage, or at least your 2nd serious relationship since you are no longer with or married to your 18 year old son's father. In other words, you are old enough to have known better.
Now you are stuck. You can try to annul the marriage on the grounds that he misrepresented himself. Or you can file for divorce. Or, you can remain married to a man who is a drug pusher, probably a drug user, and definitely a liar. |
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Learn2bstill
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You need to verify the truth of these claims and then (if so) I would separate and/or try to have the marriage annulled.
Good luck. |
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Jaded
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I would be furious, and understandably you're having problems with this. First of all, you say "then 18 year old". How long ago did this take place? I realize it's all new to you, but you have to keep in mind that people change. When this event happened, was he in a different mindset, a different stage of his life ... or was he pretty much the same guy he is now?
If the latter is the case, I'd be running for the closest divorce lawyer. Anyone that interferes with the well being of my children is not welcome in my life. |
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Glo★
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Well, this is entirely up to you, however, if you did not know he was a drug user, then i have some empathy. However, if you knew he was a drug user, you should have expected this. Drug use is a part of this life, it is normal for him to try and get someone to share in his miserable fun with him. Personally, I would leave and not look back, he has some serious issues and growing up to do. God bless* |
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Meme
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Not only is that illegal, it is immmoral--either he needs to get help or you need to get him out |
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DivaDynamite
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First thoughts are, "Didn't you know him very well when you married him?" Second thoughts are, "Anyone who offers drugs to my kids will be cut out of my life." I am not a person who gives up easily and I think too many people take divorce too lightly...but it is not unreasonable in this situation. In the future, get to know people better before letting them into your life...especially the intimate areas. |
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bluedanube69
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I think you need to confront him and put an end to this crap and try to move on if you cant then toss him out and you move on with out him..
Easier said then done.. I realize that but as a mom I have to think that you can make the right choice.. |
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monica1022
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I was also in a relationship like this and I have 3 children...I decided to end the marriage. For several reasons: I did not want my kids around drugs, if the law became involved we could have been raided and lose our house, and finally my husband had been taking the drugs also and did not want the insecurity of never knowing how to make ends meet....I hope this will help you since I decided that my children were my number 1 priority...After leaving I did find out that he did go to jail for the drugs and a few other charges....Good Luck |
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GLSigma3
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You have every right to be upset, he concealed this from you and is obviously not a good father figure to your son. Naturally you feel tricked into marrying him. Talk to a marriage counselor, or pastor, etc. about this and get some advice. It's hard to be in a relationship when you don't trust the person, but at the same time you made vows before God and your family and friends. Talk to friends who have been married a long time and see what they have to say, because they have experience.
If he is a drug user, and you don't know when he is high as opposed to when he's not, don't just come out and confront him, because he could get physically abusive towards you while on a high, but also when sober. Be careful, it may be best to take your son amd move in with mom and dad for a few days, or a supportive friend/sibling (preferably one that has a big strong scary man living there as well). |
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pq4u72
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Confront him, express your feelings. If he's a tru love he'll say yes when you ask him to seek marriage couselling or more with you. If not say goodbye and move on. |
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Rachel
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Did you know he was doing drugs before you married him? If so, you shouldn't have agreed to marry him. This is wrong in so many ways! |
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newcovenant0
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Drug rehab for your husband. If you can go through with it, if he doesn't agree with it inform the police that he is offering drugs to your son. Work for your marriage but get him the help he needs, even if it means separating from him. |
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Judy the Wench
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Make sure it is true and if so....kick him out |
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IT'S JUST ME !
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You need to discuss this with him .Find out what he has been up to from HIM. Maybe after you talk to him you can work things out. If after you know everything you need to know you can work it out or not. Chances are you will have to stay apart for good. GOOD LUCK |
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berry
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Then get the marriage annulled.......sooner the better. |
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I would have to wonder what other deceitful things he'd done. I would leave him. You could never trust him again! |
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sheeny
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How long did you date before marrying him? Drugs is something you should have picked up on. But now you're married. Make the best of it. But tell him if he offers drugs to your kids again, you will call the police and turn him in. |
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Steve
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Divorce is the best solution. You could never regain the trust plus the other things you did not mention, that is what my answer is. |
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goodgoinwild1
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what kind of drugs...?? and kick his sorry *** then divorce him!!!!! |
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luvlisteningtomusic
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Oh my gosh I would get out of the marriage if I was you. I would be more upset at my husband for offering drugs to my loved one more then I would if he cheated on me. Both are excuses for a divorce. What if your son decided to take the drug like marijuana and got addicted to it or even worse if it was a stronger drug he could of possibly overdosed. |
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phall257
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Divorce him! |
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oldsoftee2001
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go get an annulment |
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dizzy76
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drugs are not good in a marriage I soory you marrid some you dont now you need to do some thing about this or live with it |
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