Gettin marry at age 17??? to young??

wushen

I got married when I was 20. I really sold myself short. The person I married was WAY under my standards. What looks right to you now WILL change as you get older. There's plenty of time for marriage.

lonely_searching_preet(i)

You are too young and he is not yet settled in his career. Wait a few years.

nazwats

why get married the world have just started for you even if you was pregnant you don't have to get married if the love is still there once your out of college then get married that still is no certainty that the relationship will last its just paper and a name change think this over

Roger N

Yes, definitely.
Your personalities will change MANY times. It's not good to start out with so little. If you get your own job, car, and pay your own bills, you may have a little better chance.
If you get married this early, you will soon start to hate each other. It doesn't seem like it, but it's the wierdest thing, hard to explain. Most everyone I've talked to that gets married that early turns out the same...divorced. Please wait. If it is meant to be, the wait won't matter and will only make you guys closer.

Lila

You sound very determined and that you are sure you want to go to college and do something with your life, so no matter what your gonna be successfull...unless something may get in your way, perhaps a bf? Proposing means "will you marry me?" who said it meant will you marry me in the next year? dont you think it also means in the next 2, 3, 5, 7 years? Commitment is enough until you get your life straightened out how you want it. If you guys love eachother and yourselfs enough you would wait until the only thin missing out of your perfect dreams is eachother.

britt

If your love is meant to last you will still feel the same way when you are out of college. You have so many changes in your future. Making a big decision like that can limit the many opportunities you have lying ahead. There will be plenty of time to get married and start your own family, there will be a time in your life for that.
For right now, focus on school, building your future and keeping your relationship strong.
You'll be so thankful that you waited and made sure it was the right time.

:-) literary cappy

I was married at 19 and I regret it. I had so much to learn about life then. Instead, 1 year later, I had a baby and was tied down all the time. I didn't really have a chance to be an adult. I became a mother and a wife, and had a husband to answer to in the place of my father. Go out and experience life. Wait til after college. Going to college really changes your outlook on life and attitude towards the world. Don't get married young and deprive yourself of those wonderful experiences.

poll

My mom got married at 16. and got my brother at 17 and me at 18... and we're perfectly normal, educated and have a good financial status. However, you should know that its A LOT of work. but if you really trust your bf and are completely ready to take full responsibility and if you're ready to give up your bachelor life early (remember though, being a young bachelor is part of the most fun you'll have on life) then it's up to you. Be sure first, don't be too hasty...
Best of Luck

i luv teh fishes

My cousin got married at 18 and she got divorced a couple of years later. But, my mom got married at 19 and she's been with my dad for 25 years. So, you might be too young, might not be. There's a lot of responsibility that comes with being on your own and married, just be sure you're ready for it.

ike mie

Marriage is a life long commitment.There is nothing wrong if you married now,but both of you have to sit and discuss the issue seriously.Since both of you are in college,try to plan ahead for better future.Pls continue with your study after the marriage,and save your money whenever you can.Try not to have kids for the first few years till you graduate and got a stable job.Good luck!

Poppet

There is a difference between getting married and being married. What is the rush? Get married a little later. Lets say after a few years of college. Live a little, you know just to say you did. I'm not saying to be unfaithful, just enjoy being a non married adult for a few years.

To be honest I only know of one marriage that started so young and has lasted.

iBlood

Its not too young unless you thinks its too young to get married nobody can judge the way you and yo man feel about each other

flwrgrl692001

i got married when i was your age. it lasted for a total of 2 years. i thought he was the one for me, i loved him and i still do, but it just didn't work because i was too young to really settle down. i mean there is so much of the world around you to explore. finish your schooling first. I mean what is the big hurry, it you both love each other , then you will still love each other in a couple of years from now.

dogpatch USA

There are more important criteria other than age to consider.

Adrina

I got married when I was 20 - and that was far too young. My son is 24 and he's not even mature enough yet.

You are just finding out what the world is about. Don't take on the responsibility of another person. Be engaged. But be engaged for 5 years. If its going to work - it will wait.

The love you feel today is not anywhere near the love you will feel in 2 years or 5 years. You will not grow together, unless he controls your every move. You will grow apart. Men aren't mature enough to handle a job at 21 let alone a wife. He should get his act together, college, profession and make his 'life'...you should do the same. Grow up...you have lots of time if its right.

Truly, love is so much deeper than you feel right now. You can't even comprehend what it is at your maturity level - or his. Not that your not mature - but God doesn't make 17 or 21 year olds to get married so young. Just because Romeo and Juliet did it doesn't make it right. The average age of death then was 30. I have a feeling you'll out live that by a lot.

Wait...enjoy learning who you really are. Then, share it.

veroniki

I got married at 30 and I ask that question from time to time.
You are making a mistake. If you love him as much as you say, your love will be here in a couple of years.
But even if you are willing to go through this, get married but don't have children immediately. Wait and see how you're marriage is going. Don't fall into the kid trap!

waycar111

lord yes, you are too young! If I had married my high school sweateheart like we had planned it would have been a disaster! she turned 21 and turned into an alcoholic.

jellybean24

Well if you really need to ask, then I think you already know the answer. You're too young to get married-if its meant to be, it will happen someday, believe me. Your mom is right about going to college, your education should come first in life, everything else can follow. As I said to my boyfriend the other night...I want to build my life before I share it with somebody else. I'm 19 and he's 23, I'm a freshman in college, and we plan to wait a couple years to even get engaged, and until after I graduate to get married. Its a long time, but its worth the wait..besides...I am not ready to be that much of an adult yet! I took this lesson from my parents, who got married at the ages of 19 and 22, only to get divorced when I was 3. Trust me, very few marriages last in which the couple got married young! Sorry...that's just a fact!

Star

Biggest mistake I ever made! Don't do it. Love him with all your heart, but take time to do YOU stuff, be away from him once in a while, find out what you want out of life.
Please don't cheat yourself out of yourself for your love of him. (and don't cheat him of it either!)

â™£RikiTikiTaviâ™¥

Yes, you should really wait. I hope you've been together for more than a year. You HAVE been, right?? If you REALLY love him as you say you do, then waiting a few years won't change that, RIGHT?
Trust me on this - wait a few years. If it's truly love, then you'll still be together, and 17 is just not a good age to begin the married life just yet.

Common Sense

18 is young but legal...
You might be better off waiting for a few years but it is
an individual thing...
Make sure he is educated, has a good job, good future, money,
good credit etc. etc..
Don't marry a bum...

trblmmmy

that is a personally descion you have to make on your own. i got married at 19 i'll be 23 in a week. sometimes i regret getting married so young, other times i don't. people told me the same thing but in the end i followed my heart. which is what you should do...and finish college

Romanticlover

Getting marry is not like eating chilli when too hot inside mouth it should be spit out! It must be a serious and needed to be think it a million times. Majority of spouses whose marriage were not successful and not last long more than 5 years or shorter were marriage people who belong to ages from 20 and below. The most advisable to people who will get into this matter ask their own very self an honest question wether they are ready to face the most challeging task of "responsibility"? There's no turning point after committing a vow 380 degrees, or no reverse decision. If one day, you realized that you found out your mate is not compatible with you, there is no reason at all, to separate with him but to accept him for life for worst or better.
Taking responsibility for the future family is the greatest task for two people getting marriage. If you are capable to handle responsibility with your mate, then go on.. If you are not ready yet to have responsibility to sustain or support a family, then please think twice ahead of time and not proceed to your plan to marry at your age.

mac

Who is going to support the two of you if you get married now? You will have student loans to pay off, and then household expenses- if you love eachother, wait until you both finish college and get settled into your careers-- that way you can be a little bit financially secure and that way you will not alienate your mom.

I love my two princesses!!

yes you both are too young. I married at 19 no college degree and we are married 12 years now we have a 2 year old little girl and financially hurting. He is in school to become a psychologist but he will finish in 5 years. We love each other very much, been through a lot together. He was in the military. We both agree it was not a mistake to marry each other BUT agree that we should have waited until we were out of college and had steady jobs. So just wait, if you guys really have a strong relationship you can make it work in 5 or 6 years!

pookie

I was 15 when I fill in love with my now husband got married when I was 18 2 weeks after my b-day I married in court I am now 21 it was fun at first but things change I am not saying that everything went down hill but things do change we don't have fun like we use to he does not act the some way it does not matter how much he says he loves you its not going to be the some you are so young you should enjoy your life don't rush live life first have fun trust me you will regret it later down the road if you get married so you don't get me wrong I love my husband but I really wish I would have waited

amaragold

There is NOTHING wrong with a long engagement. I live with my fiancÃ© and we'll have been engaged for 2 years at Christmas time. (We're 22 and 23.)

There's no reason to get married right away. I really suggest you finish college first, or at least get most of the way through. I've seen too many people end up in bad situations because they didn't finish college before getting married, and their marriage didn't turn out as wonderful as they thought it would be, but they have no way of supporting themselves and their children, so they stay in a not great marriage. I'm not saying your marriage will be anything but perfect, but you have to look out for yourself and your future first. That's what I did, even though I have absolutely no qualms about my fiancÃ© or getting married.

By the way, congratulations! :)

pointelove07

yeah you should go to college and then get married

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