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Stephanie C
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No not at all if you know him for a long time and you both love each other and know each other do it. Dont let these other people lecture on how you have to grow up and wait and it wont work out even people who wait and get married later have bad marriages too. A bad marriage can happen to anybody regardless on how old or young the people are. Its something call LIFE. There's no proof that your marriage will go good if you wait when your older. I say life your life and it if doesnt work out it doesnt its life. |
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Sybella
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Yes YES yes YEEESS!!! Please don't do it yet girl, trust me on this! The older you get the more you'll mature and your tastes and thought processes will be totally different to what they are now. If you really love each other, be smart about it and just waiot a few years before getting married. Please! |
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richbitchatl
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Yes, you need to experiance life. Marriage is a serious commitment which takes a lot of work. |
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its_oconnor
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ask yourself. do you NEED to get married? if you both feel your relationship is up to it i'd very much recommend waiting another year or 2 atleast. there is nothing more destructive and painfull than a divorce. there should never be a rush on marriage, its the biggest commitment of your life and should be treated as such. |
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ღloveeeღ
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it is too young. maybe you can get engaged first and see how things go. usually when you are young you want to get married but you dont really see how life would be later on. it is harder than you think. getting a house, mortgage payment, and so on is hard to handle especially at that age. maybe wait a year or two when you get a good job and stuff like that. |
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Purple People Eater
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it kind of depends. you might discover that you don't love him as much as you thought you did later, when you have more responsibilities. when most people are 17, they haven't gone to college (which is hard enough without a husband) and they also don't have jobs or a place of their own. i assume if you get married you will have a place of your own. you should probably make sure he doesn't have any debts and has a steady job. but who am I to tell you how to make one of the biggest decisions of your life? |
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Liz
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If he loves you he will wait. Some people will actually stay together throughout their whole lives, but I personally think that getting married would simply destroy the relationship. Getting married would make it harder for you two to go to college and such. You generally find out who you are in your twenties, and both of you will change immensely. Find out if you like every part of each other before you say your I dos.
good luck |
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Як൬ບງêñ (rkmugen)
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(I missed the additional info you put at the end, so here's my revised reply):
Maturity is so much more than attitude or how you present yourself to others. With respect to marriage, it's if you (BOTH) are really able to make all the sacrifices you'll need to in order to support each other and/or to make a family. Once you're married, that's all you'll be doing: sacrifice after sacrifice after sacrifice. Will you be -happy- doing that for each other (and for your future children)?
And just because you've known him for that long, who's to say if either of you won't find somebody else down the road? I know it's a little early to talk about cheating and divorce...... but have you both had a serious talk about that?
Love is a powerful thing, but sometimes, couples get so blinded by it that they neglect their most immediate problems...... which ultimately leads to continued stress and potentially divorce.
How do both of you view marriage? Is it just a superficial art-form that you go out of your way fashion it to how you want it? Or is it -sacred- to you... to be well respected and protected? Please consider these and good luck to both of you. |
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Jayybee
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17 isnt too young.its doesnt mean that your marriage will be doomed from the begining.there are people that get married alot more older than that and have issues the entire marriage that lead to a divorce after wasting several years of their lives.all that really matters is that your love is real. |
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sirvoss
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YES!!! You may not believe it now but the both of you are going to go through a lot of changes over the next few years. If the two of you are meant to be there is no reason to rush. True love will withstand the test of time!! |
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Roasted Kiwi
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It sounds like the two of you were made for each other. For as long as the two of you have stuck together you might as well consider yourselves married. Really, at this point I think any ceremony is pointless. The two of you are already arguing and making up, sticking up for one another, hanging out with each other... if you need him and he needs you, then the two of you can look forward spending a wonderful life together.
I married at 19 and she was 20. I'm 35 now, so that's 16 years. Same thing: we needed each other then and we still need each other now. We're still together despite the rotten times. So.. I really don't see where age has anything to do with it; rather, I think need, communication, and trust are far more important. |
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Katie T
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i think you are, but lots of people get married yug just think are you prepared to live to gether after only dating for year are you absolutly positive you want to spend thwe rest of your life with him |
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Nolo
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getting married at that age is too young. it seems in the future that its always gona be that way but believe me its gona turn 2 the wrong way. just wait until u finish skool nd then think bout it. |
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sshazzam
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Yes, its too young.
The main reason its too young is that as you and your spouse mature you begin to need different things from your partner.
For example: Right now lets assume your main need from your spouse is just security and affection. At 20 you may feel like you need adventure...but your spouse is more of a home body because he/she works 10 hour days. If that happens then you start looking elsewhere to fill that need.
People that marry under 20 have a divorce rate of something ridiculous like 85%.
You should talk to a preist or marriage counselor before you sign the papers just so you can get a better view of the larger picture of what marriage means.
Good luck in whatever you decide. |
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My Evil Twin
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Far too young. I'd wait until at least 21 (though some people swear you shouldn't get married until age 50, lol!) |
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Chris M
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I feel that if you both care for each other as much as you say you do, that you will wait to step into marriage.
it would be great if you could both go to college, as well as continue your relationship, and then when you have a career that you are satisfied with you can have a great big wedding, take a 3 week honeymoon/vacation and look to the rest of your lives together. Best of luck to you! |
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Mrs Wilkins
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First reaction, yes you are too young. Two reasons, most of your life experience occurs in your twenties and you need to go to college, where many things can change a relationship. I don't want to discourage you but don't rush yourself. If it is meant to be it will always be there.
Second reaction, my mom got married at 16 and is still married to my dad (almost 30 years!) not to say they have not had their difficulties. Even from her I have always been told to never marry so young, wait until your twenties |
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koinoi
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Why rush it? Keep doing what you are doing and in a couple of years if you still feel the same then go for it. |
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ashpinoza
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everyone is in a different place in their life. he is a bit young. guys take longer to mature that females, but age is only a number. nothing is in the bible about age of women when they marry. im sure some are 15 or 16 you never know. it is weather or not YOU are mature enough for it, and him. the fact you have to ask sounds like you have doubts. just be honest with yourself. if you are the type that like to go out and party and spend alot of time with friends and such, then you are probably not in the mature state to make that much of a commitment, but everyone is different. just make sure you dont have to question it, and make sure you two are realy in love. |
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Due in October with #1
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If you want to get married Go for it...
I got married at 21 and my parents told me it wouldn't work out...Now they are the ones who are not working out..were happily married. |
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Loving MY King
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first off. i wanted to get married at 17, but im glad the right guy didn't come around. i would wait until you are 18. you are so young and this is a big step talk to your parents first for sure and your boyfriend. you have your entire life in front of you . good luck and god bless |
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April S
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I think it is too young. I was so in love with this guy when I was 16 we ended up having a child together and i would have married him right then. We decided to wait till we were both a little older and it is now 7 years later and we did not get married and are not even together. It is not like we are enemies, we actually get along great and I would classify him as a friend now, but we just grew up and grew apart. It is life, you are not the person you will be 5 years from now and you will not like the same things. You should just wait a few more years if that is truly where you guys want to be then it will still happen then. |
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hershey
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Yes!!! Wait until you have a stable job, and a house or apartment. Oh ya, and wait until you are out of school.Trust me, getting married too young is one of the biggest mistakes you can make (other than getting pregnant too young, that's like 10 times worse) |
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wildlifewarrior07
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Honey, I think both of you are way too young to get married. Both of you are still young and have alot of living left to do. You guys should be together for a little while longer before you decide to get married. Especially if either of you plan to go to college. Long distance relationships don't work so well for most people. Statistics also say that the younger you get married, the more likely it is for the marriage to end in divorce. Marriage is alot of work, physically, mentally, and financially. Also know, though, that it is your lives, and no one elses. no one can make these decisions for you. There are always exceptions to the rule! Good luck with whatever decisions you two decide to make! |
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gatorbait231
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isn't 18 the legal age for marriage? I think you should wait till your 19 at least. Be serious! |
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NeVer*ThE*saMe
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glad he luvs u but u dont have 2 ruin your life over it |
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Cris1210
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I think you two should just give it more time- especially to mature. It makes things so much harder getting married around that age. I got married at 18 and we've been married for 5 yrs now but it seems like we've been married for 20 because of all the problems/arguments we have had. Dating is so much easier than being married- plus you still have some growing up to do. People change and if you're married WHILE you're still maturing, it makes it harder and you'll end up growing apart from each other. Give it more time, at least a few more yrs. Wait until you go through college and then see if it's still meant to be. |
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bugsysue2
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OK,,here is the thing..I was married at 17..we were two kids playing house and loved it.. we waited to have kids for 3 yrs..had 2 daughters and he and I thought it was great.. THEN::: he played around,,we both were unhappy as we missed out on being a young adult and you got it..we divorced after 10yrs. Not that it happpens to all. WE loved each other..it just didn't stay for us. I would suggest you guys live apart for at least a yr and then try to think about marriage. Time is precious, and I know you want to be together..but what would it hurt to give it some ,,lets say Aging of the brew!! I wish you well!!! |
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MoM2TwO
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I do think you are too young. However, that does not mean it will not work - but the chances are slim. My parents got married at 17 after my mother found out she was pregnant. They are still together 32 years later and are 100% happy with each other.
Really, if you don't have to get married right now, I'd wait - what's the rush? I dated my husband from the time I was 16 - we got married at 23. Sure, we really wanted to be together before than, but I am glad we waited until we were both into college and knew what we wanted for our lives seperatly. |
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idon'tknowwhoiam
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Yes, you are too young. People change so much mentally from 17 to 25. Wait till you're at least 25! |
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