Gifts for an ungratefully selfish husband?

Amy M welcomed twins 12-7-08

Wow, I'm going through something similar myself. I too feel bad and I think it's easy to when it's happening to you. Somehow even though they do this to you, you feel like a jack*ss not giving something to them. I think he does need a taste of his own medicine though. He needs to know how this makes you feel.

Micah

Change your outlook on this. Giving is not about receiving.

janicajayne

You married him. Obviously you love him. Instead of focusing on what he doesn't do for you, concentrate on what he does and why you love him enough to have chosen him out of millions of others for your life mate.

Also, tell him what you want and when you want it will probably work too.

curmudgeon

tell him straight out how you feel.

Heather B

I would give him an IOU for a really great present that he never gets.

Elizabeth M

Get him nothing and don't make him dinner.

Doodlestuff

If he does other things for you, then it would be petty. Not everybody is a gift buyer and many men never bought gifts for anybody but their moms. Only you can be the judge, not us. For instance, my guyfriend was not big on gifts or cards, but he DID things that were very thoughtful. While he and his wife split up, that was certainly not one of her complaints. As another poster said, it's about the giving, not the receiving. I would be more upset (and angry) if he was forgetting gifts and cards for his kids. No excuse for that, IMHO.

But yeah, I understand. Sometimes you just feel like a fool.

miiia.xo

karmaaaaa.

Lunaeclipz

Spend the money on yourself instead!Oh I was going to get you a gift but I saw this great sweater and just had to have it!Hey what comes around goes around.

Piano_Roks_My_Soks

Coal LOL!!! tell him 'bout it!! talk to him about it!! Pray!!

ppw1024

Coal? That seems sufficient.

john c

Just wrap up an empty box and when he opens it promise him that you'll fill it up...!! Message received perhaps!!!

umm just wait tilll crismas and say OH NO I FORGOT! o im sooon sorry ow well! bye!

harleychickfatboy

No - the same here with my relationship so I am not getting him anything and I told him I wasn't. Why should I spend my hard earned money on someone that does not cherish me.

A lump of coal ........... in the stocking!

ecvkennethmassie

No! I don't think gifts are mandatory however, they are a way of showing ones appreciation and love for those close to them. Not only does this guy stiff you on special occasions, he also lies about making it up to you when he gets paid. It's not hard to read between those lines. Don't buy him a thing and see how he reacts. You will soon see his true colors.

45 auto

Divorce papers>With a bow>Enjoy some of your life with someone that cares>

justagrandma

Do what makes you happy...if that means giving him a gift then do it, its your choice. If all that gift giving is by way of hoping he will catch on and give you a gift then don't do it.
Its not coming from your heart anyway.
No one can make a fool out of you unless you let them.
He, by the way, either has unresolved issues about gifts left over from his childhood, (more common than you think), or hes just a common azz.
Discuss it with him and find out.

I luv my kids

I have stopped buying gifts also. Today is my birthday and who knows where he is?? Not a phone call, not a card. So, I quit.

Gabriel C

buy him a planner maybe he'll get the hint.

redpeach_mi

i agree. you want to be the bigger person, but sometime you just have to say enough is enough. i wouldn't buy my hubby anything if he was consistently doing things like this to me. he doesn't deserve a present.

tlduran1

go to www.nogreaterjoy.org and order their book :
Created to be his helpmeet
You won't be sorry you did and you'll be so blessed and have the BEST marriage EVER and make all your friends and family so envious!!
Go ahead, I dare you to get the book and read it and do what it says......................

tim2755

Of course you should buy him stuff. It's all about the giving, not the gettin'

fuzzykitty

The guys your choice for a husband, It is not a normal husband that carries an events calender in their head, 24/7 and maybe he was raised in a family that didn't make a big deal of ( Special days). Go with the flow. And save yourself a lot of grief.. Your a big girl now... It is not a material gift that is needed , it the Love and respect. you promised in the wedding vows.

kittenthemagician

you could buy him a gift, but do not give it to him until he gived you a gift. if anything just give him a holiday card. he is not treating you fairly and he sounds cheap! i would be so mad if i never got gift, ok you can forget once but twice. no no no, i aint the one

Pixel

buy him something he has been wanting and make him feel bad by asking for your present... if he doesn't have one for you cry and tell him you don't understand... really it's about giving and not receiving.. so do what your heart feels is right.

Rae Elizabeth

Give him a double negative. Get him something that he can enjoy, but only if you both do it. Be creative, perhaps get tickets to a concert in your town, but YOU have the tickets, and show up fashionably late or offer to take him shopping for a gift for him. For the whole day. I'm talking SHOP TILL HE DROPS. That should give him a good taste of his own medicine.

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good luck

cooter726

Start buying your own gifts. As far as hubby goes, tell him Santa told you that he passed him buy for being selfish.

theartisttwin

Give him an IOU. Then never follow through with it

Bonduesa

buy a gift for yourself and give it to him. A new coat or boots something he can't use or wear Then take it and tell him thanks

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