Girlfriend says that I need to be paying more $$$ in the relationship.?

Beatngu

IF she wants that then she'll have to budget and cut back in other areas... since you two aren't married, its every man for himself... So to speak lol.

And, my suggestion would be to cook at home more often than not, that way she'll save money and have more food. I don't she sees how much she'll save if she hasn't tried....

For instance, if you take the 4 of us at McDonald's... that's roughly $20.00.... BUT, would you like to know what $20.00 can buy me at the grocery store??? That would be about 3-4 nights of dinners, and that is eating good mind you. Not, cheap piddly excuse for burgers. I can buy steaks, potato's, etc... not a single meal for the 4 of us.

So, it is really all in how it is looked at. Sounds to me like she is a spender while you're a saver. I would look hard at this relationship because money is a very touchy subject for a lot of marriages and end in divorce. Look down the road - do you want someone like this to budget your money (as in a wife)??

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yup yup what the other dude saiid!

P1 Rubber Ducky

she's a gloddigger

she cant have her cake and eat it to

Mr. 21st century guy

she's trying to use you as an extra source of income so she can party it up like she used to.

Stephanie

nah.. i think shes a golddigger

jude

it isn't your fault that she chose to move to a more expensive place, she seems to want it all her way at your expense.

LaLALALA

Yep shes trying to use you to cover what she can't afford. So it's ok for you to shove out the money on her just so she can have money to spend out with her friends and on herself. Heck no!
That's just wrong if someone said that to me wow just wow I would be thinking about dumping that person seriously.
My thoughts are she is trying to use you it's her prob she got an apt she can't afford it's her deal to cut back and not go out as much it's not up to you to foot the bill for her so she can still do what she wants. She can't have her cake and eat it to so to speak.
I can understand why your not sure what to be doing here but this my friend is way over the line. Please don't let someone use you!

Clementine

No-no-no, back the truck up! If she wants to spend more, she needs ot save it somewhere else, eeg eating, going out - or get another job! Mooching off should not be the solution!

rendarsmith

She is WAY too materialistic dude! I would get out of that relationship pronto! She is trying to use you as her ATM machine.

Steve

I'm not saying she's a gold digger, but she ani't going with no broke ni.....

Jess

Well tell her fun isn't free....if she wanted a traditional relationship, she shouldn't have been going dutch all these years! Why should you have to change a good thing just cause she did?

Mainmaster

i would talk to her. basically she is using you. tell her that you dont think its right that she should be using you for money like this, just so she can still do the things she wants, while your left home, broke. if she dont listen leave.

Julie M

Thats kind of shallow...ok not kind of, it is shallow. If she cant afford her outings, don't have any. Stay at home. Jeezz...Seriously i would tell her that the only time you pay for everything is when you are rich and can afford it or you guys are married and your finances are one.

Wendy J

Her savings is NOT your responsibility. If saving money were that important to her, why move into an apartment that costs so much more? Besides, are you getting a portion of the money she is saving? Um, no! Therefore, her choices were to move and to save $125 a week - she needs to be the one to sacrifice here - not you!

I can not see how, on any level, it's your responsibility to maintain her lifestyle. She is a grown woman who needs to learn to live within her means and budget accordingly. Modify and adjust as needed.

Her expectations of you keeping her living in the high life while she saves all her money are unreasonable. Clearly you're able to manage your finances and live within your means. She should be too.

NATALIE&NICOLES_MOMMY

If she is serious about wanting to save money she wouldn't be moving into an apartment $500 more then what she is paying now. Your not married so your money should not be her money, yeah you could take her out every once in a while and pay for it but it shouldn't be something you have to do EVERY time you go out, if she wants extra money to go out with the girls she needs to figure out other ways to cut her expenses without you being her "sugar daddy", may tell her you will pay one night and she can pay the next, and if she gets mad because you won't pay her way for everything then I hate to say it but she is just a gold digger! Good luck with what ever you decide to do!!

i_ate_sponge_bob

She shouldn't expect you to pay out more just so she can still have the money to go out with her friends. She shouldn't expect you to pay out full stop.

If you want to take her out and pay then it's your choice to do so.

I agree with you in that you don't go out as much, this should also apply to going out with her friends.

YeahDatsMyName

Dude run. LOL But 4 real man she just upgraded so its time u should. Meanin find another woman man. Do it b4 u get 2 close 2 her. Her @ss is getting 2 use 2 u doin that 4 u and its not goin 2 change. Hel man its u r her gyrls. N only u no who she is goin 2 chose.

VillageGirl

Do not stand for that. She is using you to finance her nicer apartment. Never pay more than half--she is taking advantage of you. Tell her that she needs to budget her own finances and if she can't afford to go out anymore, you two will stay in. If she leaves you for it, she did you a favor.

smallcocklongtongue4444

i think if you go along with this she's going to owe you a little extra in the bedroom department

You are not married and are not living together. SO, I do not understand why you are even having this discussion with her. You should ask her out when you want to, and where you want to and pick up the bill. If she asks you out, then she picks up the bill. That's it. Very simple.

Mrs_Jester

Where I came from, the guys paid for everything anyway. Southern Hospitality, ever heard of it. But it is not custom to pay for her apt or her bills. So I guess yea, you should get a back bone and man up, pay for your dates, dude. that is your woman..... you are supposed to put her on a pedestal

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