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jagruleskbye
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i would understand if he told you about it and maybe like suggested you to lose it in a healthy way
but saying he wouldn't find you attractive IS extremely shallow and obviously he isn't worth it if all he cares about is weight
not to mention some of the prettiest people in this world aren't skinny |
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He's a prat.....don't let anyone tell you what you can and can't eat.
If you gain weight that's up to you but if he doesn't want to see it he knows where the door is.
My husband has gained almost 10 stone while we have been together...am I bothered...nope.
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James V
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I don't care if my wife put on weight, to me she's still gorgeous. I love her for who she is.. |
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MISSY G
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If my husband said that to me he would be wearing the kebab, its up to you to decide about your weight, he was ot of order |
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Just me
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you need to change for ur own sake. |
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Baby Jack born 4/5/09
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id tell him: "Im glad you brought up that subject because i wouldnt worry too much about my weight as much as ime starting to be concerned about you 'letting your looks go'. Its kind of turning me off a bit. Do you think you can dress a little better and hit the gym? Your also balding on the top a little. Im starting to see it. People are starting to 'talk'."
oh man girl leave him. i dont put up with pigs.
btw what is 2 stone?? |
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mightaswel
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You're right, he's shallow and selfish and doesn't deserve you. Love is attracted to a person's inner beauty, not the artificial outer covering. You're still the same person he fell in love with no matter what you weigh. It's time to teach him a lesson and find a man who has enough self respect to respect you. |
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Kris
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Ava : 2 stone is 28lbs
anyway he sounds horrible and should chang his ways i think you should have a proper talk to him and if he isnt changing them maybe leave him and be with someone that would respect you and like you as you and not your body |
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ANGEL123
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i think i would have got quite upset about it because i would have thought your husband or boyfriend should love you no matter what or how you look plus you have had his child and are still in good condition |
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~jaded~
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Is this a new relationship? Sounds like he has some insecurities of his own to work on. If he can not accept you for who you are, I would not want to waste my time with him.
Also - what about when / if he loses his figure and gains weight? |
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Baby Girl
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My OPINION is, if you are married ...girl you all got a lot of work ahead of you BOTH. If he is your boyfriend I would suggest that you ask him WHAT it is that he loves about you...judging you by your weight is not going to be healthy 4 you in the long run...seems to me he's only into you for the looks....love is a big word...you can love people from a distance...if it means YOUR happiness..Good luck to you. |
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Blink182x
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I wouldn't like it at all! Your boyfriend/husband was quite brave, yet extremely cruel and shallow to say what he said! I wouldn't know whether you were a healthy weight because I don't know your age.. Not that it should matter anyway; we should all be happy with the way we look, and your partner shouldn't be with you for the way you look!
I think you need to put him straight, tell him how it made you feel, and that some day you will probably get bigger! Especially if you have a child together.
Put him right because that was pretty out of order. |
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miabella b2b 6th June 2009 !!
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He is speaking the truth and cant be blamed for that, I agree that beauty is only skin deep but if your figure is something that turns him on then you owe it to him not to get bigger.
If on the other hand he is small minded in other things in your marriage then you need to have a rethink about the rest of your life before you little one gets much older. |
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danny h
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if your partner cannot accept you or love you for the person you are then he does not deserve to be with you, love is not how someone looks or how much weight you put on its about loving that person as a package. tell him you disliked his comment and that if he is committed to you, then he should not be concerned whether or not your appearance changes. |
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Irreversible
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You say "only girls" so do you have a question or you're just venting and want support for your opinion?
I see a lot of anwers from women saying "he's worng he should love you for how you are", but your weight is also part of who you are, I'll bet those answers are comming from 200+ pound women.
I do not agree on nagging your spouse for every ice cream and every pound gained, but I do think is reasonable to demand for your spouse to stay healthy... so I if he nagged about the kabob and you are not fat then he was out of order.
140 pound can be slim or fat depending on the height and complexion, but a doctor can tell you better.
In general terms I think if your spouse is gaining 5 - 10 pounds is time to say something, some people decided they don't want to spend the rest of their life with an overweighted person, so they married someone slim or fit and later on that person puts a lot weight on, is that acceptable? |
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Katrina
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Dump him he should accept you for you, not what you look like. I also think he was very mean about it - how he came across. What happens if you have his children in the future? Will he start straying and have an affair when you get pregnant, just because you've put on weight?
Think of the future, before making a decision on whether to stay with him or not.. |
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♪ Sodium Pop ♫
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He doesnt really love u...! and doesnt appreciate u.. im sorry.. Hes an *** for talking to u like that.. |
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karlaplays
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That's a terribly mean thing to say. If you were to put on some weight he SHOULD lovingly support you in keeping it under control, like taking long walks or bike rides together, etc. It's a good thing for BOTH partners to make the effort to stay healthy and attractive for each other but loving the PERSON is the most important. A relationship can not last without that. If he is really that shallow, perhaps you're with the wrong person. |
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free_angel
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I'd put him in a panic mode. I'd tell him, "Other men find me very attractive. I'm going out and will be home later. And don't bother waiting up." |
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Common Sense
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That was a inconsiderate thoughtless thing to say.
Not a good sign for a potential husband. |
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hunny bunny
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it would hurt my feelings, i would tell him something = as mean.
like something you know that bothers him. well if your nose gets any bigger it's going to look like a bananna.than i'm going to split.. |
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golly geesh
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My hubby openly admits he is not attracted to bigger women. YES I have no issue with that because when i gain weight i'm not happy with me i'ld rather have him tell me when i'm gaining then to allow me to be HUGE and say nothing. It can get annoying because he'll say things like do you need that ice cream? When i had our last son i was 240 i'm 160 now I do not like being big either. Same thing with the house i would RATHER him tell me when something needs done then to let it go and let the house get junked up. Being in shape is not a horrible thing to require of your mate. |
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kisses come in fives
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my husband would never say anything so cruel to me:
he and I are both of healthy weight, we've both had problems with being over-weight before we met, however he was much larger than I ever was, and he is more apt to gain the weight back than I am
besides all this,
he has told me numerous times "its not the size of you I love, its you, be whatever size you want to be so long as you are happy"
and I truely hope you have not already married a man who is this shallow and cruel to you
if you are simply dating then please don't marry this man, I can't imagine how he'd react to your body after you've given birth or how he'd hassle you everytime you wanted to eat an extra piece of cake at a birthday party |
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Tasha
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Im very sorry but that was inconsiderate of him. They say love is blind, Yes we all want to find people attractive aswell but saying things like that is purely harsh. Although some men sometimes dont see what theyre saying, sometimes the things they think of as constructive criticism can be seen as harsh by us women, as we are more sly with our thoughts. I think if you spiced up your love life (Im no expert but ive heard after having children flames can die down), get dressed up and show him your still gorgeous and fun, get a babysitter and basically make him your *****! Then he will be so head over heels over you, you can use it to your advantage....and maybe ask him to start body building...see how he likes it! |
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beggin♥4♥mercy
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I got pregnant with my ex and he told me after I had the baby, he was going to make me start running to lose the weight faster. It hurt my feelings so bad. My husband and I have had two children and I got up to 200 pounds with both of them and he still told me I was gorgeous. Needless to say, I left that *** hole and my husband and I are back together. What your boyfriend said was very mean, and hopefully he was joking because if you really do love someone, you will love them regardless of their weight. |
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