Girls when does your husband spend time with you and the kids?

Mine works 2nd shift says he leaves around 2:00pm and get home around midnight or a little after.
Then he goes to bed not long after and then sleeps gets up for work eats gets ready and leaves. I feel like helping me out and spending time with the kids that time he is neglecting.
Because of this I get no help around the house or with the kids. I am behind in my school work because by the time I get the kids to bed I am to tired to hardly stay awake.
On his days off he plays in his iphone or xbox or watches tv.

This is getting on on my last nerve I am only one person I can't do it all.
Anyway how can I get something resolved here so I can get something I need to get done, done!
Any advice would be great.
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I hope my question makes sense I am tired and didn't read before I submitted it.

Nicky

That's a bit much on the sleeping. If he goes to bed no later than 2 am then he should be able to be up by 8 or 10 to help out for a few hours before work. My hubby's a third year doing his surgical rotation, he's gone at 4am and comes home between 6 and 7pm. He spends time with our four children, we all have dinner, he puts them to bed and then goes himself shortly after. It's one thing to give him some slack on his days off, but the reality is that he's a parent and his right to not cope isn't his. My advice would be to talk to him about needing him to be your partner in terms of making your home run and parenting your children. I'd suggest giving him a taste of your day by leaving him to care for the kids for a day but, I'm afraid you'll come home to a bigger mess with little to no change in views. It sounds like your at home, I'd start waking him up at around ten (give him 8 hours of sleep). Tell him that he needs to wake up, that whether he spends the time with the kids or doing some of the chores that need to be done doesn't matter, but that this sleeping for 12 hours is done. That he's a husband, a father and has obligations to meet.

Lesleigh

My husband works the same shift, but we don't have kids. It sounds really tough. I work a minimum of 60 hours a week, and my husband and I have one, maybe two days off together per month. It's hard, but we really cherish the time we have together.

If we had kids though, that would be another story...

Daddy's Girl

Every chance he gets. Of course he needs to work hard to provide for us and the things we need. When he is off his time is dedicated to family 1st.

My husband spends time with the family when he is home, then we spend our intimate time together when the kids are in bed.

We play Xbox together and have a couple of drinks after the kids go to bed sometimes, we watch TV together, and we basically do everything together when he is not working.....

He ALWAYS helps. we get up together in the morning and get our 5 year old ready for school, and he takes him. He cooks the meals because he's a chef and loves to do it, anyway. I clean the house mostly everyday, but he does laundry, too, and cleans while I am in class.

We share responsibilities and spend all of our time (when not working) with each other and our kids.

Maybe you can just try to get involved more with his interests. Talk to him. You need to communicate.

Propose to him a schedule for yourself that would be like his, and when he says that would be ridiculous, say then why is it reasonable for YOU? We are two people, one responsibility, but 90% of it is mine, and that needs to change.

You should not have had kids with someone who doesnt step up... now it's your problem and you need to force him to step up, or move on if that isnt possible. If he doesnt change, let him know that.

madeucum49

come right out and tell him. If that dont work cut back on the stuff you do for him (laundry, Cooking) anything that would open his eyes

I am in the playpen with Mildred

wondering

I would pull the plugs out and ask for help. You deserve a break and the kids need him to.

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